This forum is intense..

It is NOT meant to be a "relationship saver" If anything it intensifies an already loving relationship. You are 18 and she is 19? I'm not even sure how you know "100%" that this is your fetish. Are you sure you aren't just trying to figure out a way to save something that is already broken? At 18 years old, your sex drive should be thru the roof...chastity will NOT help that and in most cases the libido goes into insane overdrive when you first start. I highly doubt a 19 year old girl is gonna be into this type of thing - SO many women, especially young ones who don't have a ton of experience, are vanilla. And since you are in college, maybe your lack of intimacy towards her is due to the fact that you are surrounded by hot college girls 24/7 or plain just masturbating to Chastity and Fetish porn too much? Just my opinion, do not mean to offend.

 

You're 18. In college. You should be out slaying pussy like the world might end tomorrow. To do anything else at your age is a crime against all males over the age of 30.

Like a bear gorging before hibernation, the pipe you lay during this time of your life will need to sustain you during the boring adult years to come.

It is during those later times, when you meet someone special, that you can get into all this madness.

Until then go forth and forage. Hone your skills and spread your seed as indiscriminately those skills will allow. If you won't do it for yourself, do it for all MANkind.

Years from now you'll be grateful you did, and you'll look back and say "thank god for that guy on the internet".

 

That's exsactally what hubby would say.

You're so young enjoy it while you can befor some women really does want to lock you up.

There is so much fun to be had befor chastity.
Use it befor you lose it young man !!!!

 

Or be hounest to your gf so that you guys can both expiriance it together.
Lying to the one you love is not a way to fix a relationship.

 

Unless you do this with someone you love and you BOTH enjoy it, you will end up like 90% of the others who try it and then stop when the novelty wears off and you actually feel the effects of being horning and start thinking why you are denying yourself when it is no longer exciting as it was for the few few weeks.

If your relationship is already on the rocks, this will sink it. As with most fetishes, you need to start off with a strong relationship. Believe me, denying yourself an orgasm or even having someone you do not have feelings for do so. will wear thin quickly and you will not like it if the key holder does not do as you say to match your fantasy. I started off on the honor system before spending money on a chastity device. I suggest you do the same. If you cannot refrain from masturbating without being locked up, nothing will change when you are locked since there are at least three ways to masturbate while locked. Chastity works best with both the chaste man and keyholder work towards the same goal. No one can make you do something you do not want to do.

 

I'll second much of what has been said re: relationships.

But in your defense, I'll point out that at 18 I already knew I was deeply submissive, and had I known anything about chastity (or if there had been an internet as we know it today) at the time I would have absolutely identified with it 100%.

My advice is take it slow and steady. You have plenty of time to delve deeply. And while you're doing the usual vanilla thing, start exploring local kink groups (most munch groups will have an outreach contact specifically for people <30 or so) to see if this is really your thing.

 

Fish in barrel - meet bullet...

 

I wear my cage mostly to keep me from masterbating when I'm not with her. I have a key for maintenance. So I don't cum without her. Wearing it really helps me break the habit, of cronic masterbation.

 

Oh my, what a fun time for you!!! @Thatguyontheinternet knows what he is talking about.

There will not be another time in your entire life when you will be able to pursue women like right now. This is what they call the salad days, and my friend you are right in the middle of it.

You won't have this opportunity again, in a few years you will have plenty of time to pursue your kinks, especially if one of them is NOT having sex.

 

If I had any say in the matter you would spending a very long time locked away to contemplate your boring adult life.

You may try to live vicariously through an 18 year old boy and that's fine. But as a Keyholder For my husband, if I ever heard him teaching a young man to be so disrespectful to women I'd ensure that he had a looooooong time to think about his behavior.

Through chastity my husband has learned to respect all women at a much higher level than ever before.

I hope that this young man chooses a way to pursue his desires in a way that is respectful to others. In the long run he'll "slay" a lot more pussy that way (or not if he chooses chastity, but whatever floats your boat).

 

I don't think he was being disrespectful to women, at this age females are just as indescriminate and experimenting as the males, if not more.

You can never go home again. Meaning he can sew his oats and be a normal young man now, but ya can't go to spring break, hook up with coeds, and do body shots off of strangers when you're 30.

it would be a shame to see a young person deny himself, when at that age you truly don't know what you want or what you're missing.

 

As much as I like you @Keyholder For CSG, I have to disagree with your post. The only one who has a say so in the matter of @Thatguyontheinternet lockup time is me. Period. I don't like hearing other people saying what they'd do if this person was their family member or what have you. My man and I have light hearted fun and his post was meant to be a joke, but obviously wasn't taken that way. Believe me, I read it before he posted it and had a good chuckle. No harm was meant. And even though my guys post may have offended you or whatnot, you imply that he is not respectful of women. That simply is not the case. Sure, his post was like that of a typical dude's but I assure you he is highly respectful of women. He is also not "living vicariously" through an 18 year old kid.

 

I was trying to be tongue in cheek when referring to your husband, that's why reference the boring adult life he mentioned. I obviously, once again, failed to come across with the right tone.

No offense was meant and I apologize if it came across that way.

 

What ever happened to not having sex until after marriage?


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