About guys asking to be locked

There are always new members that assume that we are eager to cage any passing male that enrols on here but a simple word or two in chat will usually get the message across.

 

So is that a no for asking every five minutes for one of the gorgeously beautiful wonderful clever lovely ladies here to hold my key...

Even if I give sad puppy dog eyes look..

Just asking like...

 

I understand. I've been with my wife for 10 years now and I still don't feel I can ask her for sex any time I want. It doesn't seem right. I prefer to ask what she would like first.

 

Agreed. This is something my wife and are working on now.

 

We all know from recent news that the internet is a fabulous place for trolls. Sad, lonely, angry people have a free(ish) pass to say whatever they like. It's a problem everywhere including here.
As my ex used to say "the odds are good but the goods are odd" online, so many men and far fewer women. Add to this a lot more men seem to want sex without any kind of relationship and you have a recipe for trouble. Unfortunately places like this are no different from a nightclub, a woman just wants to go out, have a drink and a dance, enjoy herself but she keeps getting men hitting on her...again and again. I think the men who do that figure that if they ask enough people eventually one will say yes.
The odds get even worse when it becomes a Domme and sub situation so subs get desperate and fire out daft message after daft message, when what they should actually think is that with the odds stacked so badly against them they need to make a real effort, an extra effort. Try and work out what she might want, not what you want.
Misquote, ask not what a Domme can do for you but what you can do for a Domme.
But it's hard, we see a Domme and we think I need to act fast, there's millions of subs and if I mess around she'll be gone.... go go go fire out that badly worded, ill thought out message, do it now!
Sorry Dommes, we can be a bit rubbish, I know. But it's a tough world out there and it's populated with idiots. Over half of us Brits voted to leave Europe, and (hopefully less than) half of Americans think Trump would be a good President, enough said.
As an aside, from a subs point of view, I know you get flooded with nonsense but over the years I think I have sent out some pretty good introductory mails, most of which never get even a thanks but no thanks. Maybe they weren't as good as I thought, but when you do get an honest, well written well thought out mail, please send something back.
Ramble over x

ps I know my profile is crap, I just joined and it will improve, fingers crossed!

 

I don't mind, this sort of approach doesn't bother me unless it's rude or abusive.
If I'm interested in that person and enjoy their communications I might coach them a bit. (if they are lonely self lockers)
Of course if I get harangued then I just ignore them.
It is a chastity site after all so I suppose some of the more ignorant male members might assume that female members are some sort of facility.

 

It's only my keys that are lonely!

 

I think its just fantasists and novice subs really. It happens very often with gay subs I think. They really have a "I'm young and hot, be nasty to me, but in eactly the way I wnat" type of attitude not realising that Id rather hammer nails into my cock than be a service top for someone I don't know and love. Young female subs can be a bit like this too especially if they are hot, but its not as bad as with the gay boys I find.

 

This is kind of the issue I'm running into, sort of. My wife is cool with going down this chastity path with me but she keeps talking about it not being the best time to do it. She stays at home with our two young kids (nearly 5 and 2) and becomes mentally exhausted nearly everyday because of them. So I will lock up, give her the key but try not to expect her to tease me. It isn't easy and I have to be patient. Hopefully one day she will be able to fulfill the whole fantasy but for now, I'm happy with just being able to lick her to orgasm when I'm locked up and not have to be teased.

 

Even as a bloke and I guess because also a manufacturer I also suffer the same fate, recently from one particular person, I wont name him as that's not fair, eventually I got through to him when I explained in good old Yorkshire terms !!! then he took offence !!! Just because I make things, I certainly dont want to hold things !!!

 

Hel

l yes it's hard work and worth it- as you put it for that special someone.

 

I disagree...some of the best things come in small cages...or is it boxes

 

The thing with chastity it's got to be one of the few fetish games where for much of the time nothing happens.
Thus for those who are asked to do the locking it's not easy to see why or what's in it for me.

Certainly an out of the blue" will you hold my keys " is likely not the most exciting idea of the day.
With all these things having depth to a relationship is much more important first. Knowing what both of you find exciting or what both may get out of it is a better way to start off a new idea .

I have had conversations with people on CM that must run into hundreds of exchanges. Thus you find out a lot more intriguing stuff that keeps the conversation going.

So guys make your profile interesting including a rough location and then others may feel more able to want to start a conversation.

Xx Wendy

 

Woah, you read way to much into that. No where did I say that is what I expect, it is only what I hope. I can tell you that I know for certain it isn't her fantasy deny me without the teasing. I would love it if certain things happened because they would fall in line with my fantasy but if they don't then I'm not going to mope around the house because of it. I'm certainly not saying she SHOULD do anything though. But you are correct, submitting is giving up full control.

 

Truth be told, our situation is one where I am locked up but it is essentially on my own. She has the keys but doesn't tease me and doesn't really deny me either. I try and pamper her by giving her foot rubs nightly and will give her oral as often as she accepts it. Sometimes she wants PIV sex and she has the keys when she wants to use them but as of now, I don't think she has ever denied me once. And all of that is okay and fine with me. Would I love to have teasing sessions, hell yes. Denial, of course. But just wearing the device and serving her and being as helpful around the house is our dynamic at this point. And that works.

 

It gets funnier when for example i specifically say i am mostly submissive, which obviously means i can be dominant in very specific situations, most likely as a reflection of my own submission and i still get asked if i want to dominate guys, do this, that, chastity and so on. Many guys just assume that if we are on a kink website, everything goes which is super childish, especially since they don't even bother to read descriptions and have a decent conversation

 

A few things about this thread surprises me. I cant believe there is really that many guys who are actually asking a complete stranger to lock them up(not saying it doesnt happen) I guess I was raised with more manners then that lol. Also surprised that someone would really want that. Maybe they are asking just for some fap material? I think alot of guys like to talk about fantasy and such, but the actual being locked up part terrifies them. From my perspective having a complete stranger lock you up would be pointless, as there is no connection. Without the connection it would seam meaningless to both parties.

 

I am one of those guys

 

As I mentioned in another thread. For thouse members on here thay are self lockers. Maybe you guys could do key exchanges. If there is enough interest I would suggest starting another thread and go for it...