Husband sees ME as porn!

Why would you want to take away the drive behind the Chastity experience?

Removing his sex drive would leave him a slug with no desire.

Now, rerouting that libido and making him understand who's in charge; that's the better way to go.

Edge and tease for an hour, give him a taste of what is just out of his reach unless he does as he is told. Then lock him back in the cage. Deny his pleasure, until he acts as he should.

All of that pent up frustration, and a list of chores and requests from you to keep him preoccupied.

I would cut off all porn while your not around though... there isn't any need for it. His focus needs to be you, and you alone.

G

 

it will help there are some males on here that can help with that. but in my opinion you have to treat the addiction before you can change the behavior. and most if all your man has to want to stop and be willing to put in the work to do it.

 

maybe take control of the WiFi connection. Switch it off. Delete his porn pics including of you.

if he wants chastity. Make sure it's under your rules. Chastity and male masturbation for most couples don't mix.

also talk. Tell him how you are feeling. Tell him your worries.

 

Isn't anyone going to talk about the fact that she is fiddling with idea of giving an unprescibed hormone inhibitor that could have permanent side effects?

Hey if this is just a story for online fantasy, more power to ya. If not...its crazy, irresponsible, and downright criminal. You could cut off his penis too, remove his limbs, you see where this is going? Silly. Talk to the man. Any person willing to wear a chastity device secured with a piercing is taking it pretty serious, so communicate what upset you, describe how it made you feel, ask or tell him what behavior you are willing to tolerate, and listen to his response.

The best part of chastity is its almost mandatory verbalization of wants, needs, and desires. We all might not get any of those, but they shouldn't be a secret.

 

That was already discussed above I believe and she withdrew the idea.

 

obviously she is new and desperately seeking answers to control his materbating addiction. she was driven by hurt and emotions and was not out to permently hurt her husband if she had all the answers and knowledge she would not have even posted.

 

By stating I would never do that...but please tell me more about depo provera.

 

Lol, that's not what I meant! I meant that putting ideas up such as leaving open castration porn on your browser. He could possibly read that and know that is what you are gonna do, so it won't phase him.

 

Yes, we are - at least I am. I mean I get it - men will always have the urge to get some strange, and porn is an outlet for that. My guy never really had a problem with tons of porn/masturbation, however try being 6 months into a new relationship, making a move on him and nothing happening since he had already taken care of himself earlier that day. It hurts very badly, not only your feelings, but your self-esteem can take a blow as well. I mean, he'd rather watch some young, flexible, plastic pornstar and make love to his hand instead of coming to me? I had made it clear that I love sex so much, that he could even wake me up if he wanted it. Needless to say, that had only happened maybe a handful of times in our relationship. He understood where I was coming from - that he gets that it could make us feel bad. I guess guys just have a different mindset when it comes to porn and masturbation. I mean, I NEVER store pics of some young, handsome guy on my phone to use as "wank fodder" later on. But since the chastity came along, I really have nothing to worry about anymore. I have been more lax on him since he got his piercing, but that is about to come to an end. His new PA cage should be here very soon and the piercing should be good to go by then.

 

please Mistress, curtsy. i think he is a very silly man and he shud have smack for not being nice to You.

 

I really think a majority of women think this way. From the pic i saw of you, you are absolutely fine! Very attractive in my opinion, however as women, a lot of us have latent insecurities stemming from our past, rather it being from rejection, cheating, weight, teasing from the popular girls and so forth. So, men take heed! - that is why so many of us are hurt by you guys looking at porn and masturbating. It makes us feel as though you'd like to put your sexual aggression towards something totally unattainable, whose sole job is to have men swoon over her, and want her more than their real female partners - all for the sake of money. Little does she know, it hurts us REAL women.

Also the testosterone reducing drugs to work...there are several of them. However, it will reduce his sex drive to null. Most of the male patients I have talked to on anti-androgens are frustrated because they lost their "bite" so to speak. So if you did that (under physician supervision of course) You'd end up with a docile husband, that wouldn't be able to get it up even uncaged, whose sex drive has tanked. That, to me, is the exact opposite of what you would want. I like having my man caged, testosterone raging. It makes him into a puddle - and very subservient - but still able to get it up, caged or uncaged

 

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Considering the fact that your sub has a pa and it's incorporated with his device he literally can't masturbate unless you give him his freedom. Why not just leave him locked all the time until you are ready to play. One way or another he's going to have to cope with the fact that he can't masturbate for the mere fact that he literally won't be able to touch himself. I know for me as time went on for me the "need" to masturbate diminished. I'd be lying if I said I didn't have those urges still, but the fact that I know the best touch comes from my mistress and not myself has encouraged me to not to masturbate when I'm on the honor system. Also the fact that I know I'm hurting my mistress and our relationship.

If he's serious about wanting to quit then he should be willing to day anything you tell him to do. Start with the basics and just go back to plain old vanilla chastity. Take away all his sissy stuff, I'm sure it's more exciting for him to get dressed up than it is for you anyway. Make him earn being able to cross dress by being a good boy and following your instructions. He also needs to earn your respect back too.

 

I like your pictures a lot. The front view and the hint of tan likes from the back well make this guy think about playing with himself....but I will stop there in respect to CM as I see this forum as discussions between the ears not other areas.
I agree 100% with your post as it is sometimes hard for us men to delineate from female fantasy provider to female led RELATIONSHIP. Relationship is the key word that is easy to overlook especially in the early stages.
Of course we all need trust love respect blah blah blah..but really that is very key to have that base. I believe female led relationship is an aspect that helps to build communication into the primary bond. I have communication issues as do so many other men and I see for me this aspect of being free to admit my submissive side and have it acknowledged as being very liberating.
What you are doing for your relationship is so very special and a gift of friendship as well communication that your partner should cherish and I'am sure he does. He was put in his place by you posting those hot pics but at the same time he will begin to understand you are not his pro-Domme but someone who he is in a relationship with. You have taught him a profound lesson here that should synthesis into him noticing for the aspect of flr is incredibly helping your commication as a couple.
I have tried with my SO for 10 years to establish even a trace of what you two seem to have but it has been met with resistance. We still have a wonderful bond and I cherish that so I am ok with it. I bought a CB-2000 ten years ago ( i still have the receipt)
and we played a bit with it and she sometimes is domme in the bedroom but her level of flr is well very low and I am fine with that.
CM is so great that we common minded can comfortably share ideas.
I think in time your man will truly understand your reason for being upset on this issue. Your actions will enlighten his thought process like when in a foreign country if your long enough you begin to think in their language. Trastamare

 

Sometimes this site is more like a pantomime than a serious dabate.

 

behind you.....

 

Yeah, a lot of times we are that's why some of us are so lucky to have such wonderful women take control and help guide us.

 

I am confused. He has pictures of you he wants to masturbate to, and this is a bad thing? He isn't wanting to masturbate while looking at some porn model with a ridiculous unobtainable figure and a desire to do everything and everything a man could possibly want. He has pictures of you. You have become such a powerful influence on him that now you are not just his reality but also his fantasy.

My Wife absolutely loves how this same process has happened to me. It makes her feel so much more sexy than she used to. She can see how her figure affects me and how much I desire her.

So yeah, I'm not sure I understand why this is such a bad thing. Maybe that's because I'm a guy and don't have the right Venus brain.

 

he wanted to materbate to her photos instead of being with her

 

But according to her original post, that's not what he said at all:

"When I am gone" does not equate to "instead of being with her". If she doesn't want him to masturbate, that's one thing; but I still see his desire as devotional, not insulting. That's why I agree with @Jasmic68 in not understanding the negativity in this thread.

 

i guess men will never understand