Husband sees ME as porn!

I'm confused by this. Surely getting aroused by your pictures when you're not around is preferable to him getting aroused by photos of other women, yes? It seems to me he really is focusing all his attention upon you, even when you're not there.

 

I totally understand where you're coming from. As a man I can confirm that porn and masturbation with porn can kill a marriage. I've been there, actually it's quite similar to our situation.

Last winter was long and cold here in Indiana and I found my passing the time when I was home alone by viewing porn and masturbation. At first, basic porn maybe once a day. But that was never enough. It got bad, real bad and I was jacking off three or more times a day and regular porn didn't do anything for me. I had to watch torture, rape or really extreme tranny/sissy porn just to feel a little excited.

I realized that when castration porn became my favorite that I had a problem. I hated myself.

I talked to my wife honestly about it and begged her for help. I went cold turkey with porn and promised my wife that I would not masturbate. The deal was I would wear a chastity device and she would hold the keys and whenever I needed to have an orgasm I had to involve her. It was a rocky road and sometimes surreal, but she helped me through it.

I understand the hurt you feel when his mind was on masturbation and not sex with you. But try to understand, if he has an addiction to porn it can be worse than heroin.

By all means keep posting pictures of yourself. You are beautiful, sexy and obviously very exciting. Your husband is a very lucky man, he might just need a little time and help to realize that.

Good luck, and if I can help please contact me. And did I mention that l love your pictures? If not, I LOVE YOUR PICTURES! Keep them coming!

 

I don't think it's nice for him to get off to your photos while you are not there especially in preference to having fun when you are.

Device and a welding torch be best thing .

Xx Wendy

 

Hmm. IMO this is just the sort of thread needs to be on the new F Keyholders Forum when it is set up. Raises a lot of issues. But I don't think welding's appropriate for plastic.

First step IMO is upgrade to steel, needn't be Lori -yet - though can!!

 

Make sure you tell your guy to NOT read this thread! You don't want him knowing your next move.

 

Is tumblr porn? I look at that all day long, always searching for the right pic or saying that I can send to my KH @Mistress Amanté. Obviously I'm not masterbating, and it always involves her or us.

I guess it's a form of foreplay that keeps me openly communicating. If she said it didn't turn her on anymore, or that it upset her I would certainly stop.

That being said, a device, no matter how inescapable, is just a tool. You two need to communicate your wants and needs. Acceptable and unacceptable behavior, should be easy enough to talk about. He obviously didn't know it would upset you since he openly asked for the pictures. He might have even thought he was flattering you by having a reminder of his goddess with him at all times.

It's unbelievable how the two genders can missunderstand each other so much. A man can say he isn't hungry and a woman can hear "you hate my cooking". A woman can say she's tired and a man can hear "I don't want to touch you tonight". Talk to each other and know what really is meant, and what you both can accept.

 

It took me a minute to read (and read again) your concerns and while none of us knows the whole history, it makes sense that you aren't happy with his going back to the "old way" when you aren't around. I think it is a step in the right direction that he wants to use you as his masturbation fodder, at least he is focused on you. Now you need to work on changing the learned behavior that he handles things himself when you aren't around.

If he is locked in a secure cage now, I'm not sure how he would be able to masturbate but he has a plan. Maybe you could set him up for failure so that he cannot carry out his plan (wrong key, misplaced key) when he wants to carry it out.

 

It took some time for me to convince my K/H that I prefer looking at pictures of her over some younger porn model. We're both older and don't have the bodies we once had, but she always has and will turn me on. Now she teases me with them all the time, let him look......he can't touch what he wants, use it to your advantage.

 

I think the underlying problem here is that he had masturbation on his mind instead of her. I think she saw how turned on she had made him and was hoping for him to beg her for attention/sex or something. If he told her that he wanted to have her more than anything else in the world right now she would feel validated and desired. Instead, he wanted to express his sexuality alone. Even if it ended with a T & D session, if he at least asked (begged) for her attention she could have done whatever she wanted but at least felt that his chastity was making him want her more, not just want an orgasm.

 

Beautiful picture, Ma'am! Please post more!

 

@Keyholder For CSG, I just like @innocent.in.574 was before asking my wife (now mistress) for help. I started looking at porn when I was 15 and it just kind of consumed me creating unrealistic scenarios and expectations. All through my misstress's and my relationship porn was always there. I think I may have given my mistress self confidence issues because she would try to be really sexy and do some hot things for me but because I clouded reality with porn it made it really hard for her to get me really excited and get me to orgasm.

I never considered how my mistress felt about the porn watching because I'd been doing it for so long plus a lot of masturbation, it just was normal to me because it existed before my relationship with mistress did.

Years later when I really realized this was a problem and was hurting our relationship I asked for help. I confessed everything to my mistress which I hid for a long time. She was shocked and disappointed in me and that hurt. She made it clear to me how hurtful the porn watching was to her. Basically like I was cheating on her whenever I fired that laptop up. I didn't realize how hurtful it was to her until I saw her face as I confessed. It was good for both of us in the end. It sounds like your chaste boy toy doesn't understand how hurtful the act of unauthorized masturbation can be. He thinks he's paying you a compliment by wanting to only masturbate to your image but what he's failing to understand is that his act is selfish and serves you no purpose. That's what he needs to understand.

 

Since you are his key holder maybe he wants you to be more assertive and controlling. Maybe he needs to be punished for not showing you the respect you deserve. If I were you I'd turn into a real take charge bitch and make him dance to my tune. Several months of not being able to jerk off would be a good start, along with female domination. He should be put in his sub place and learn to treat you like a princess with total disregard for his wants and so called needs. I know that would get my attention.

 

I just sent a private message to @Keyholder For CSG telling her that I sent private messages to her husband, @CSG in a Pink 18CP, about how much i liked each of her pictures. I made it very clear to him that I found his wife very sexy and someday when I'm not locked up I will be enjoying her pictures in a more intimate way, but he. I told him he blew a golden opportunity to honor his wife's sexuality. Etc., Etc.

@Keyholder For CSG responded that she was very glad I did that and hoped it might help him realize what he has.


I think @Keyholder For CSG could use our support tonight. If you like her pictures maybe you could leave a nice comment for her. Or even better, send @CSG in a Pink 18CP a message about you enjoying her pictures. She just wants to feel sexy, I think we can help with that.

Maybe it's because we both live in Indiana, but she seems like a good person. I think she's struggling with some events in her past that she'd rather not share. She said her marriage is solid, but she's just having some "issues" right now.

 

Lol!

 

I'm in Indiana also feel free to friend me

 

I think deep down a lot of women are hurt by men masturbating to porn or even masturbating period you are not alone