How do you know if you are submissive?

I know just what you're talking about. There are things my K/H likes and wants me to do, that to be honest, do nothing for me however they are obviously things she is into or wouldn't have said them. I do them to the best of my ability for one simple reason, this can't be one sided. If I am asking her to indulge in some of the things I like, I have to do the same. I am sure she does things just to appease my kink that she's not crazy about, I don't think it's to much for me to try and do the same for her.

Give it a shot for awhile, you may find doing these things gets her so turned on she may surprise you with things you never expected. If it doesn't work out at least you can say you gave it your best shot.

Good luck

 

Definitely just give it a go !
Apparently you have jumped the fence into "Be careful what you wish for " terrain.

So see what happens worst way you have to do a few chores or walk on hot coals or take a few hundred lashes of one implement or another. Lol

Xx Wendy

 

Give it yiur best shot! From my experience FLR relationships are a slow grueling grind at the beginning. Almost like you have to prove your seriousness or something. However, once your Mistress starts to be aroused by the fact she can make you do anythng...things get a lot better. Also, unless she is a cold hearted bitch at some point she will naturally want to do something(s) for you. Patience patience patience. This is her show now. Let her enjoy it.

 

Are you for real?

Please Mistress, tell me what to do. No, don't tell me to do that, I'm not interested in doing that. Tell me to do something that I want to do. No, not that either. And while you are at it can't you where some high heel leather boots and hold a whip.

If you are submissive you do what you are told and are happy to obey. It doesn't matter what my Wife tells me what to do, I do it. How do I know I am submissive? Because when my Wife is assertive it makes me feel like she is in charge, and that makes me feel safe and cared for. When she tells me I am a good boy it makes me swell with pride, that she has noticed me and I have made her happy. When she tells me off it makes me sad that I have made her unhappy, makes me try harder not to repeat the mistake I made ever again.

It is good that you are going to make an honest attempt to follow her instructions. It sounds like she is trying to do what you have asked her to do but it has to be done in a way that she enjoys or she will not want to carry on doing it.

 

well i don't like having to do loads and loads of ironing but its my job so i has to do it. Mistresses wont keep you if you don't do what They tell you.

 

How do you know if you are submissive?
You have a penis!?

 

Apart from that I have no idea. I am just myself. I get confused with such questions

 

That's as plain as it gets...

 

You have a full fantasy in your head of how you expect this to go.

Id say that in a FLR or vanilla relationship it is good to have your dreams but the reality is almost certainly going to be different.

The way it normally works is for me is, obey unconditionally and make sure you put her needs first. She might then let you suggest some things that you like and make your dreams come true! These are rewards for your hard work.

 

you didn't say in either your post or your profile whether or not you two employ bondage. but if you do you may be able to tell you're a submissive once you are tied up and you are still enjoying yourself. I am a submissive. have been all my life but no more so that when completely bound and gagged. I used to think of it as "what choice do I have but to obey when tied up" but now revel in the submission. for me being tied up is a reward for doing all those little chores and "things" that don't necessarily float my boat but are required of me. there is always a quid pro quo. and mine involves a plug, gag, blindfold, chastity sleeve and about 150 feet of rope. yes Mistress!! anything you say, Mistress.

 

honestly, your Mistress sounds a bit mean and perhaps lazy. hell, if I could get you to come do my dishes no matter how tired you are, then so be it. hopefully, you are getting some of that quid pro quo I mentioned (above) and having Mistress perform some of those boat floaters for/on you. if not....well, you may want ot re-consider all of your options.

 

A bottom is someone who enjoys submissive acts in the bedroom. A submissive is someone who enjoys submitting to his partner not only in the bedroom, but also out of it.

 

That's as plain as it gets...

 

I think @Von Routen (above) said it best. and it doesn't really matter what you call it. the fact that you willingly submit your power to someone else is the essence of it. call it what you will. whether you are doing the dishes, serving Mistress' tea party in a maid's outfit or tied naked to the whipping post. it's all pretty much the same. "Attitude is Everything!"

 

and I think that works both ways......males and females.

 

Just do as you are told, no backchat and go with the flow

 

I hadn't thought of the bottom or submissive difference in that way and it confirms I am submissive rather than a bottom.

Maybe I did go a bit over the top with how I pointed out what I thought you were saying and I apologise. Reading your other posts I can see in more detail how you are trying to be a good submissive partner.

As for my own situation we are very new to this and so far my Wife hasn't asked me (or told me) to do anything I felt I was unable to do. I don't know how I will react if it ever happens.

 

I would have thought that if anyone is submissive, they would definitely know they are.

 

Mistress B, humbly if I may...it has been an eye opener for me to discover that I am a sub. I had no idea until a couple of weeks ago that my male macho world was a lie and that female superiority is very much fact and that my role in life is to serve my wife selflessly. I didn't until recently, and it has been good, but still tough sometimes.

Again, I humbly seek your indulgence Mistress...