Well....meow!

Since i was invited so kindly by the forum to describe myself, here i am. I will say things which don't exist in my fetlife description, because i find it useless to do a full one...A full one...not that is thought lol.
Anyway, as of today it seems that i am out of my denial, since my Miss got very busy and doesn't have time to take me anymore, so i find myself on a chastity forum, without actually being in chastity or denial.
I am a transsexual woman into a long list of fetishes, with years of experience in the community, had a few D/s type of relationships where i was denied. To be honest, i am not 100% submissive, reason why i like bondage more as a rigger than a bunny, but when i commit as a sub to a Domme, i do it fully. Never tried a switch relationship, although in my opinion it would be difficult to separate my sub and dom sides or it would have to be a kind if vanilla submission with temporary rules and such. I don't know that yet. I think that, because i am more masochist than sadist and i tend to submit to a great degree.
But back to chastity/denial, because describing my whole bdsm identity can be a long lecture. I do enjoy being denied, through my masochist side. I mean of course i enjoy having an orgasm and i can say i am a very orgasmic girl and can have multiple or long ones, but i always tend to over do it like a sex addict, so denial for me is a more normal state opposed to being a high sex drive freak lol (not that some people would not appreciate that, wink wink)
In my opinion, denial must be part of a more complex relationship, which means that i could never see myself being denied by someone close or long distance without an active involvement and building a close relationship which would also include teasing and other forms of power exchange. And more, i am definitely not into paying for it. I mean, lol, i am an adult model as well and i know that when money is involved, the relationship becomes mechanical in nature and that is just not my thing. Sure, if i would be to have a true relationship in which i would live together with my partner, Domme or switch, then of course the financial aspect would be a part of it.
As a conclusion of other people misunderstanding of trans women, i feel it's necessary to say that i am not into sissyfication. I mean let's add some logic to it. I think, act, dress like a woman. Sure i can behave like a baby, slut or whatever, but that i actually like and it can't be humiliating for me. And even if i am only looking for a female Domme, in fact i am bisexual, so men related sexual activities are not humiliating either.
When it comes to chastity, it's a little tricky. A cage is not always possible, especially because i have an athletic body and i am overall quite hot (and modest lol), because i do wear tight fit clothes and a cage visible through those, would not be humiliating, it would be plain stupid and i would be asking for trouble, especially in a close minded society. But either way, it's not like i would be masturbating while walking downtown lol, even though, hmm...neah, forget about it lol (exhibitionism overload). I just said because being locked for long periods of time it's just impossible and the whole denial thing must be based on trust. I mean common, if there is no trust, then to hell with it, because a cage is not a 100% infallible device after all.
Regarding teasing, edging and such, for me, edging in a long term denial, is actually a form of release. I mean if the purpose is increasing frustration, then edging for me decreases it and i link that to my orgasmic nature and the fact that i can feel pleasure in many ways. I was actually almost close to orgasm just by being licked and i don't even want to talk about anal, because purr, i can have some super orgasms that way.
Due to my hormone therapy, my cock doesn't even function like a man cock anymore, which is great for me, but then again, regarding denial, it is hard for me to get hard without actually touching myself. This is perfect if i wear some tight clothes or a short or tight skirt, but it's more difficult to be an instrument of teasing. I actually find it very frustrating to be made to get hard without touching myself.

So in the end, because i don't want to just keep writing forever, being a trans woman is a different from both female and male, even if i am alot more close to female than male. That's why, denial/chastity must be adapted more to me than to other people.
Why i am here? Well i think more out of curiosity for now, but since i am not in denial anymore, who knows...i might find someone with whom i can connect deeper than just regular chat and, as a person who traveled a bit and is quite smart, i can say that in matters of love and attraction, there are no borders.

PS: The smarty pants is definitely the most important factor in a relationship for me and kink is possible without a compatibility. That's why for me it's impossible to just jump in into some instant power exchange. Our minds must be mutually stimulated and that takes time, but eventually it's a rewarding one. Patience is a virtue

 

*purrrs*

 

Also, very much you i thank. May the force be with you...

 

Yay! N'cage!
I mean engage! (StarTrek kink frenzy)

 

Well, i take it this way. In order to build a mutual trust between whoever, someone has to make the first step. And eventually if i add some extra stalkers to my collection, i am already used to it, although i hope not