Part 5 ~ The best thing about the future is it only comes one day at a time...

Congratulations on hitting the treadmill, MW! Keep at it! :anim_19:

 

Nipple enlargement kit... How nice for charlotte. And golden nectar and dildos and rubber sheets... WOW!

Someone is going to be having a little fun I think...

 

MW
porridge, that sounds very british,:anim_25: on the treadmill or the rubber penis cock bondage thing

 

I must confess that I've never mastered working all the knobs and switches necessary to engage the female libido. My own marriage is a key example of that. However, I must say that it sounds like you're REALLY over analyzing everything. I think you might be obsessing too much about your appearance, your lifestyle, and your relationship. You're brain's working too hard to give your poor gonads a chance!

Here's a thought. Get pet to agree to turn off the TV, the games, and get the kids to bed early. Pour a few glasses of your favorite adult beverage, retire to the bedroom, and do not talk. Zip it. Not a word! You can wink, giggle, wave... but no talking. Lay down in bed. See what happens. Don't worry about all the accessories, like gags, whips, handcuffs, and chainsaws. Those are for another night. I think you guys just need to focus on each OTHER for a bit! :69:

If sparks fly, awesome. If not, just get naked, cuddle, and get some sleep. Wake up in each other's arms, having spent a night without complications or drama. A good night's sleep never hurts.

You guys love each other so much, but it's all getting lost in the noise between your ears.

That's my advice

Hugs,
mikecb

 

As usual - spot on - mike.

 

That's right! Stop you're whining and cuddle, dangit! ;-p :manga_heatwave:

 

i don't know if this will help but i totally relate to what You are saying, Mistress Watchful.

my problem is that i think too much. Mistress has been very helpful in getting me to understand that. She knows me better than i know my own self. with Her help i am trying to just live in the moment and enjoy life as it is. i am trying to stop over analyzing Mistress...what is She thinking, what does She really mean by that, etc. i am learning to just enjoy Her.

mikecb has great advise as always. stop thinking and just be and feel. if that means just enjoying each other's bodies then go for it.

 

Gees, I go away for a while and look what happens. What’s with all this over analysing it’s as if you’re minds gone into overdrive over the past few days.

You don’t need me to tell you that you are a sexy woman and that pet it very lucky to have you. It’s been said many times by many people and all have been speaking the truth and not just kissing you’re ass.

If you and pet aren’t having sex then I’m sure pet is having a hard time of it too and there must be stuff on his mind. I’ve been off sex for almost 2 weeks now and I’m sure Master thinks it’s down to him. The truth is though it’s not down to Master it’s the fact that I’ve been feeling down and had a lot on my mind. I didn’t even masturbate in the 2 weeks.

Master has helped me come out of my shell though, most by initiating things. I think part of the conditioning subs undergo in order to submit means that over time it can become hard to be become aroused without the dom initiating things. I can go from falling asleep to super horny in a matter of seconds, all it takes is for Master to take control and usually play with my nipples.

The problem I think with D/s is that the sub can become dependant on control, sometimes completely unable to become aroused unless the dom initiates things. No matter how sexy the dom the sub will only respond to control. I could be wrong but this is how it feels for me some times so I assume pet could easily feel the same.

I hope you feel better soon, you seem to be very down lately.

*hugs*

 

MW
Good luck on YOUR preentation

 

MW

"He has got a bit of a thing for the House Doctor though!" :licking:

You still have the House Doctor on the tele????????????????

 

Mistress Watchful I think I can see a pattern emerging. In order for pet to become interested you need to take charge or initiate sex but you are too scared that pet might reject you so you cant bring yourself to initiate things.

Initiating sex isnt rocking the boat. I think pet just needs a little nudge to get him going. Im sure hes not turning into a crossword playing middle aged man. It does sound like both of you could be slipping into a depressed state thought and thats a dangerous place to be, can be hard if not impossible to get yourself out of it for a long time.

If nothing else you need to have a chat about how pet is feeling and explain how youre feeling. Even if you have to force pet to talk by going on and on, not talking would be worse.

 

I agree with Kris, MW. I think pet's best aphrodisiac is when you take the lead. Meanwhile, you're stressing about your appearance, and waiting for HIM to initiate, to make you feel sexy. The result is you're both waiting on the other.

You're the Mistress. He's the sub. You want him? Take him! Sexy is, as sexy does. :love0077:

 

ditto here. MW, please listen to these wise folks, they speak from the heart!

 

The awkwardness of the situation

Hi Mistress Watchful

Long time since I caught up with all the happenings here at the Mansion... Thought you may like to hear (maybe you won't LOL) my thoughts on the cuckold piece.

As I remember, from my experiences of being a cuckold hubby, things are never straight and to the point. From my point of view I was always filled with a deep sense of jealousy and if Im honest, self doubt about my prowess as the male in our relationship.
But on the other hand it was the humiliation of knowing my Wife was dating other men and getting very real sexual satisfaction from them that turned me on so much, especially when she would tell me all about the things they got up to.

Again, Im bearing my soul here, If Im honest it was the times when she would go out to see her boyfriends without me that turned me on far more than when I was actually present when they had sex. The feeling of being left alone at home imagining what they were doing was always a real turn on for me.

Although we dont live the cuckold lifestyle these days we quite often fuel each others fantasies about it, especially when I am locked up and chaste. Nothing, and I mean nothing turns me on as much as when she tells me she would love to have me locked up and have a new Boyfriend to see to her needs Is she just teasing me?, or is she looking for my OK to start again..I dont know is the honest answer.

Anyway, back to your comments sadly in short, you cant do the dating thing if your partner is not in full agreement. I know most of the fiction written doesnt give the partner any choice in the matter, but in reality you do need that consent if you want to have a relationship to build on that is.

My advice would be to talk to him, talk, talk and talk some more see what his true feelings are and take things really slowly. Some of the best times (from my point of view) were the really early days when my Wife would come back after a night out and tell me how she had been chatted up by some stranger. One time we both went to a club and I watched from afar as she was chatted up by many men during the course of the night.

Keep with it and just for the record, from a male perspective I dont know why you are not filled with confidence. You look gorgeous and sexy, youre very intelligent and you should have no reason to feel any self doubt. Good luck to both of you.

JJ

 

Mistress Watchful,

It sounds like your day is starting great, the way it should!!!! Please remember how you feel now and keep doing things to make you feel this way, it's so nice to hear you so happy.

 

I agree with knightservant. I think we all spend way too much time worrying about perfect. Guess it comes from watching the new season of Americas next top model and one of the girls said she was a plus size model and i was looking at her going she is not plus sized. Don't get me wrong i have regular moments when I just stare at myself in the mirror and wonder where the person of 11 years ago went. Guess it is part of being human and wanting what we don't have, envy is a bad thing.

And yes sex is good and you should do it as often as you can think too often we forget to do things for ourselves. So bonk till your brains turn to mush :butterfly: Think a good self image comes from lots and lots of sex. Something about being worshiped and the act itself that make one feel like the most beautiful person in the world.

And sorry I haven't been around work and life unfortunately seem to be taking more of my attention than I would like. But well try to not let things get you down.

 

I know I've mentioned it before, but my wife is not thin by a long shot. I love her regardless because to me she is beautiful. I know that I am not the only one who thinks it as my friend has hit on her in the past and she is constantly getting away with things when it comes to men. She is a huge unintentional flirt.
Part of being beautiful is thinking that you are, though my wife hasn't gotten that into her head yet