So last night my Wife/Mistress told me she would like to take me to a professional Dominatrix because she wants to find out what my limits are and watch someone who has dealt with submissives and knows how what she is doing. She is amazing but I think her self confidence at times is lacking in what she is doing with me. We are in Indiana. Is there a place online I can find a list of where we could go? I really don't know where to start. Any help would be awesome. Thank you.
If that happens, then you visited an idiot with a whip who calls herself a professional. I used to take a good amount of time on the phone and then 15 minutes pre-session to find out my client's requirements. Some didn't want beating at all.
Thanks everyone. I've been finding some things. Indianapolis doesn't seem to have much but Chicago has a lot of options. It's just a little farther away. I appreciate the comments. I know She wants to find someone she can talk to and explain what the situation is and the types of training She would like to see. Not just someone who will beat me.
Why pay lots to a pro domm? There must be some fetish clubs and thongs like alternative markets and munches . Get to them have fun meet some amazing people . For some reason people in that lifestyle I think you call it are very interesting and are very good company both playing and in vanilla mode. It won't take you long to make friends and get invitations to some very exciting private parties. You can then try things out in a very relaxed situation ,your wife will get lots of support and advice and all for free . Xx Wendy
Thank you wendygirl. That's good advice. We are about 3 hours from a city with groups like that and don't have lots of time and money to go regularly but I might try developing relationships online first. my Wife wants to join a site like this one where she can get direct advice from other Dommes as to how to deal with me, how to push me, what's realistic and what's possible. She's read a lot of femdom fiction and I think she's feeling unclear on what's really real and what is pure fantasy and unrealistic.
Exactly my point. Online stuff is OK up to a point BUT just seeing people in person is very different. That is why something like an alternative market or a Sunday munch will put you in direct contact with real people and they with you. Online too many time wasting dreamers . Go hands on Xx Wendy
@locktite Do forgive jemima. Her experience of pro dommes is limited and she has only been present when subbies have received beatings. She meant no harm.
She should come chat here! I for one can tell her the good, the bad, and the ugly. My aim isn't to put people off, but I have a lot of experience of what can go wrong if you take the lifestyle and run with it. A Pro would be good for guidance, techniques etc, but I also agree that talking to those who have "been there done that made the mistakes and survived" has its merits.
Thank you Mistress Watchful and Mistress B. I am going to tell Her about this site. We have actually been doing this or about 10 years but very gradually and it's been a little up and down but recently She feels like she's really accepting Her dominance and have less feelings of feeling sorry for me or worried about me. She keeps me locked much more than She used to and has become pretty skilled with the cane and paddles. She is not really a sadist though. And She is concerned about how much I can take or how far to push me. Only one time when he was really mad did she really go at me. She beat me with a leather flogger across my back until I finally said our safe word through sobs. It was very intense for me but I think it scared Her a little. I'm sure being able to use everyone here as a resource wil be great for Her. It has been for me.