"My Journey into Denial & Chastity..."

Congratulations on the lock-up! :happy0158:

I'm glad you had a fun session beforehand, it seems to have enabled you to cope with the consequences quite well. :anim_63:

Keep us informed!

 

Recently I decided to start a new lock up period for my boy toy (bt) so the morning of Jan. 18, he was back in his CB. My bt asked if I would tell him a min and max time range but not an exact date this lock up period would end.. He wanted me to keep the exact end date to myself.



I was not quite sure how long it was going to be at first and needed to think on it for a bit.. The more I thought about it I realized I wanted him locked up permanently. I like the feeling it gives me knowing he is willing to sacrifice something like that to me and being willing to do anything I might ask or want from him. I cannot even put the feelings of love and worship into words. I decided on a date and kept to myself but wanted it to be more.



We discussed it several times over a couple of days which gave me a feeling that he was looking for me to tell him the actual end date rather than a min/max range.. It also seemed the more we talked about it, the longer it got in my mind. At first I told him I was thinking in between April and June. Then April to August got mentioned so why not April to October or December. I kept putting it off till the last minute and decided on Oct 19. Oct 19 was chosen because it was the date of one of our first longer trial periods and I thought it would be a good goal to set - the rest would be up to him based on his behavior.



I told him a min/max range but also the date which I think was disappointing to him. From our discussions I think we both want a permanent lockup but want to do another trial run to be sure of our feelings. There was a little miss-communication between us, but it has been worked out. In the end, I decided not to tell him the new date but informed him that he would be released from lock up sometime this year.



I also decided to include a couple of new things into the mix such as painting his toe nails a pretty pink color and for him to wear a toe ring. His response was not want I hoped for, but the next day he apologized and suggested he be punished. I agreed he should be and decided to include a punishment for it which included 2 weeks without any orgasm and he would not be allowed to give me a orgasm (but he had to watch). Saturday was his one week mark and he had to watch me give myself 6 orgasms with another week to go before he would be allowed to possibly have an orgasm (if I feel like it) or to be allowed to have the privilege to give me any orgasms.



For clarification purposes and to summarize, boy toy was locked up on 1/18/2009 and will be till some time between April and December 31, 2009. During this period, he will only be released when I want to play with or use him, a medical issue occurs, or I decide for convenience sake it would be best. Throughout this period, I will decide if and when he’s allowed an orgasm and what kind. It may be fairly often, or it could be much longer than the current record of 28 days. Should be fun.

 

Quite strict - S&S Mistress - but I like it! I can't imagine why he has such a problem with pretty pink nails and a nice toe ring. It sounds lovely that he should be adorned in such a pretty manner. But, it seems you found a very good way to provide a little incentive for the future. I'll bet he is replaying your Saturday fun time over and over in his head this week. He won't soon forget this I think... Next time, you offer an adornment, I think he'll be much more accepting... Maybe a nice frilly apron when he cooks you dinner this weekend...

And for bt - there is no problem with using a stall for your potty needs. You are over-thinking this. Do you really think men are watching what you do in the bathroom? Don't be silly. It's simply practical - you don't want to wet all over yourself do you?

I enjoy how you share with us a 'both-sides' writing style of your chastity experiences. With the new time limit imposed, it seems that this experiment is quickly becomming a lifestyle - an attentive bt is a very good thing.

 

I guess I'm a little confused between a deadline to be "locked up" for many months, and the fact that you say you're going to allow him orgasms as often as you see fit. You mention his current record is 28 days. I think it's just a terminology thing that's confusing me.

Honestly, it sounds like you are moving toward a 24/7 arrangement. Why not say "He's locked up permanently, and will only be out of the belt for ..<your list of reasons here>".

I'm sorry if I'm being a bit dense (lord knows it happens!). Why the time limit on "locked up"? Is it that you're just still trying to decide if this will be a permanent lifestyle? Are you going to stop at some point in the future, and re-assess whether to continue chastity play?

mikecb

 

Thank you Miss D for your comment and I will keep the special dinner in mind.:sex007:

 

Ahh, gotcha! I understand now. So many wearers around here are struggling to achieve 24/7, I had lost sight of the fact that you guys are still experimenting to see if you like it.

As for sitting in the rest room, I have to agree it feels weird. One of my resolutions to myself, as I TRY to get to the stage of having a wearable device, is that I would sit in restrooms regardless of whether I'm wearing or not. It's amazingly uncomfortable at first, to feel like everytime someone walks in, they KNOW somehow. I can assure you, however, that it gets easier. Part of me now actually gets off on the fact that some people on my floor at work may wonder about it. When it all boils down, there might be a hundred reasons why I sit to pee all the time. None of them are any of their business. Let 'em wonder! lol

Best of luck!
mikecb

 

Dollyanne's problem in the restroom is not the chastity device, but having frilly panties around her ankles that can be seen under the stall! Sometimes dolly has to go fast and there is NO WAY she can hide them!

To Miss D's point, dolly thinks it's difficult to see them unless someone makes a concerted effort to peek under the stall. It seems that most men mind their own business and go out of their way NOT to peek at other men--unless of course, they are sending some kind of signal, which is a different situation all together!

Huggs,arty-051:
dollyanne