Premature Ejaculation training.

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    Funny, I was essentially able to do this before I was in chastity, and would now like to do the opposite. :) I've never been able to last particularly long. I would usually have to hold myself back to last a few minutes, but sometimes longer if we recently had sex or were in round 2. I know it's a metal thing because on rare occasions I could pound away forever before I came. My wife never minded because she often got off anyways, and she was actually flattered that she got me so turned on I would cum right away.

    I guess since I've already experienced this I would like to be better at not cumming. I would love for her to use me until she came, then put me back without cuming. Without a numbing cream I don't think I could possibly do it. She let me out for edging recently and only did 6 strokes before I was on edge. I'm pretty sure, given the opportunity, I would blow the second I entered her.
     
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    For me, it would be real punishment if, upon release from my cage, I was forced to cum immediately with little to no teasing. Just thinking about it makes me beg to remain locked up.
     
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    reading this thread and thinking about it, this seems to be pretty humiliating for us guys. If you think about it we desire(at least i do) long lock up times and when we do get the chance to cum it happens so quickly that its almost pathetic, like whats the point. If this does happen to me I can see her come to the conclusion of whats the point, better not let him cum at all lol.
     
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    Wow that's an amazing achievement :)
     
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    yep thats Quick.
     
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    I'm at a loss. I just don't understand how premature ejaculation is a good thing. I suppose if you want to be ruined for sex for life, then learning to come instantly is a good thing. Otherwise, it seems shortsighted to me to lose your staying power. Let me suggest an alternative: come on command. It's perfectly possible to be trained to come only when told you can. If you are well trained in that, you won't be able to come at all unless she tells you to. (That seems way more interesting to me). If she wants you to squirt right away, she just tells you to do it. At least that way you don't totally mess up your ejaculatory reflexes.
     
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    Mr Lion it's not for ever. You're ejaculation behaviour can easily be modified back the other way again.
    Cumming on demand is more of an art. Not all men can manage that and it's much harder to train them to do it from what I understand.
    Have you experiences of it that you would care to share?
     
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    or formula e!!! the new electric racing pmsl
     
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    Thanks for the support!
     
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    I am pretty sure it is much more difficult to reverse than you think. Ideally, a male should take the same time to ejaculate regardless of how excited he is. That way, his partner/keyholder will always get enough time for her fun. In our case Mrs. Lion doesn't want to control when I come. She knows my reactions so well that she can get me right to the edge every time. She does this every other day. She told me that in the interest of science she experimented on me. She timed how long it took me to come (on my scheduled date) without much stimulation other than just masturbating me. She also tried it a day or so after I had come. Last, she edged me at least five times and then masturbated me. In all cases, she says, it takes almost exactly the same time to get me to ejaculate. I asked her if she wanted to control how long I hold out. She said, "No way."

    It would seem to me that the longer it takes a male to ejaculate, the more teasing opportunities his keyholder has. You say it is easy to reverse premature ejaculation. How do you do it?
     
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    @gingers_sub

    That is such a lovely video and soo cute .

    Happy Christmas
    Xx Wendy
     
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    Great effort @gingers_sub . How long did it take you to get down to that 15-20 seconds?!

    also @MistressBitch I love the idea of a formula e race. If enough people are interested we should have a race!
     
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    #39 Mascara^Snake, Dec 26, 2014
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    Well it's not so difficult but it can take weeks of training.
    The best method I know of is The Masters and Johnson grip.
    At each training session, you need to place your hand so that yor thumb is on one side of the man's erect penis (the nearer side to her when you are facing him). With your index and middle fingers on the other side.
    The index finger is just above the ridge of the glans (the 'head'), while the middle finger is just below the ridge.
    When the man feels that he's near to a climax, he needs to tell you.
    Then you squeeze his shaft firmly between your thumb and the other two fingers. (Don't worry: it's painless!)
    It is possible this way to train him to last from twenty seconds to half an hour this way.
    And best if you can have someone familiar with the masters and Johnson to demonstrate it to you first.
    The Masters and Johnson grip is also a handy way to get him soft enough to pop his cage right back on too.

    It's also possible to reverse the effects by edging him again and again for at least half an hour or so bringing him close to the point of orgasm several times before letting him come.That also takes weeks.

    @AussieSexTherapy (our resident sex therapist) may also have some input regarding this.

    :)
     
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    From past experience i cant say that the Griping n stop technique had ever worked to stop my orgasm but if im on an empty tank (more than 3 ejaculations) I can last Waaaaayyyy longer to a point that i might not get to have another orgasm.
     
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    I agree with cagedlion that training yourself to premature ejaculation is a very dangerous thing for your long term sex life. Even in guys who have regular I-didn't-expect-this premature ejaculation find it hard to work on it using purely physical techniques like "the squeeze". It's easy for some, but not for most.

    Added to that, in the context described here, the submissive is actually fetishizing premature ejaculation. The worse he can make it, to the point of ejaculating on entry to the vagina, or even before, the more excited he is. One thing we know about fetishes, is that they are very difficult, if not impossible to change. They are part of your sexual imprinting, and they remain with you often for life once they are firmly entrenched like the example I just described. So the sub could get a lot better, maybe lasting two or three minutes with effort (and that's technically outside the realm of premature ejaculation) but he might find that as soon as he thinks of premature ejaculation he cums, because that's his fetish trigger.

    That's not necessarily a bad thing for future relationships though. As someone above noted, a lot of guys can just take care of this by having an orgasm or two before intercourse, and then they last longer. Having said that, most men last between 2-7 minutes anyhow, and we have this grossly distorted idea of how long orgasm should take for men based on watching guys last 10-30 minutes in porn (which most of them don't anyhow, they just stop and regroup when they are close, or have an orgasm off to the side and then keep on shooting the porn film). If a woman was having an orgasm, and then two minutes later having another orgasm, we'd consider her to be multi-orgasmic and that's usually seen as a great thing. So if you do get stuck with being a premature ejaculator, okay - maybe you need to start thinking outside the box about what a satisfying sex life can be for you.
     
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    I can't speak for other guys, but I think for myself, chastity has caused me to get to the edge far quicker than before. Granted I am speaking from past memory as I haven't had a full orgasm in 3 years, but my wife has learned how to control things when she used to edge me to ruined orgasms. During T&D sessions, If she doesn't try to control me, I get to the edge in less than a minute. This never used to happen before chastity. Fortunately for me (us), I am now on permanent denial of orgasm (full or ruined) and don't have to worry about premature or not.

    I have experienced premature and delayed orgasms in my lifetime and I would rather be premature than pumping forever to get to orgasm. My wife has never enjoyed vaginal because she always experienced some discomfort but would do it for me. The quicker I came, the better it was for her. So there is some benefit for some people for premature ejaculation and it turned her on more because I was so excited for her.

    Besides, there's more to sex than just the orgasm. We have had the best sex of our lives since chastity. Even better now that I don't get to orgasm at all. I wouldn't trade it for anything.
     
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    Yes! I love this. :)
     
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    My wife almost never has intercourse with me, usually about once every 10 months or so. She has always preferred me cumming as fast as possible and always encouraged me not to try and last longer on the rare occasions when she allows my cock inside her. I almost always cum on the first or second stroke and never last more than 10 seconds. If I do manage to somehow make it past 10 seconds, I will lose my erection and not ejaculate at all. I last came inside my wife in June of 2014, cumming on the second stroke, after no penetration since the previous September. The next time she let me attempt fucking her was in November, and after initially getting inside, I immediately went limp and slipped out after about 15 or 20 seconds.

    My wife's long-term denial has given me the PE she has always desired for me. I can't prevent cumming in only a few seconds when I manage to stay erect. She likes it, I enjoy it myself, and I don't want to change it.
     
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    My KH wants me to come really quickly. To this end we are starting a new regime. Starting next Wednesday I am to try and beat my fastest (42 seconds) orgasm. Then the following Wednesday the time is reduced to the new time as it's achieved. She wants me to keep going till I reach single figures. Of course all orgasms will be ruined. I'm rather excited by the prospect of a sub 10 second orgasm. I'll keep you posted.
     
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    My mistress used to love giving me limited time to ejaculate on my unlock occasions. These varied between full intercourse, mounting a false pussy (covering) or bringing myself off. As I got faster she would introduce things to make me work harder, for full intercourse/covering numbing cream and a full penis/ball sleeve, or 2 thick condoms. She never did anything with me bringing myself off only reducing the time as this was always done over her stockinged foot while wearing heels followed by me cleaning up.

    She would be saying humiliating things while I was performing for her, really unforced her control and my submission I loved it.

    I could bring myself off in about 20 seconds it's not effected my ability to have normal intercourse i.e. I not suffered any premature ejaculation issues.
     
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    yes please keep us posted .., Once i achieved 7s after 14 days locking time.. orgasm was almost twice as long ... it was not really her plan ( she usually unlock me when she us horny ) ... but I am now looking forward the same experience
     
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    My wife did the opposite with me. After a two week lockup we had sex. If I could last 7 minutes, I would be free. Anything less and I would go right back into chastity with the time period being shorter the longer I lasted. It took a lot of willpower and a half dozen attempts to finally get free.
     
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    PE UPDATE

    Today was my first day of PE training. As I wrote previously, my best time was 42 seconds achieved last November. Well, today I managed a new PB. I managed a ruined orgasm in 25 seconds! My KH was "averagely impressed." Clearly I need to do better next Wednesday.
     

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