The Pro Domme Question

hi, I think the fundamental difference is that some 'Pro' Domms tend to advertise and spam everyone. That is annoying and can be considered rude. Ive got some online subs too, some locked and others not. I dont want money but it had crossed my mind to charge, but to be honest I cant be arsed with the grief. I do it for fun, plus I also find that people come and go, and as soon as money is involved there is an obligation on my part which I dont want. There is one guy, who i posted a padlock to, asked him to confirm when to send the key, he never responded, ive still got the key, no idea what happened to him. Anyway, I digress...... If you are not actively seeking people and demanding money, I see no problem. Also, it annoys me when people tout themselves as 'the best there is', as if the rest of us are substandard .... lol.

MB

 

Anyone who knows you, knows you to be a wonderful person, who gives and gives of herself, and asks little in return. My worry was always that you might burn out from all the takers out there.

I see threads about findoms and scammers, but less complaints about the men who promise much more than they deliver. There are bad actors on both sides of the gender line.

I suppose there is actually nothing wrong with being a findom as long as she is honest about it. There apparently are men out there who want their wallets raped. I do not personally know any, but there must me some, at least in stories...

 

Personally reading your post I fail to see that what you are doing is wrong or could be seen as a "professional" doing it. If your happy, provide a service, not ripping anyone off and can look yourself in the mirror, then I say keep doing what your doing, you know who and what you are. There will always be scammers etc but there are still always going to be honest people which you sound to be. Perhaps some people are just too quick to judge others before knowing the facts !

 

The definition of a professional is a person who makes their living, or makes a significant portion of their living from a particular activity. i can swing a hammer, but nobody has ever paid me for doing that.

One could suggest that You are a professional key-holder. You take the time to regulate the orgasms of males (and, perhaps, females) and take into consideration their stated desires, fantasies and so on. A professional Dominatrix is another matter entirely, offering a wide range of services.

i have known several professional Dominatrices. The ones i have known are fun-loving people who put their pants on the same way everyone else does—one leg at a time. They have worries, bills, love lives, concerns, dreams, hopes and desires that have nothing to do with the services they render. Just like a professional banker.

i think that, to a certain extent, we get hung up on the whole sexuality aspect. This hang up is at the heart of the whole anti-Gay movement. Those who oppose homosexuality and who would pass laws against it are hung up on the whole sexuality thing. They are, perhaps, overly focused on what happens in the bedroom, between consenting adults. Gay people are much, much more than that. And they are entitled to the same privacy all of us have behind one's closed door and between two consenting adults.

In terms of our fascination with professional Dominatrices, we also tend to get hung up on the whole sexuality aspect: There is this whole titillation thing, they cater to fetishes, they wear clothing that one might not wear to a black tie affair. And what could they possibly do behind closed doors in the privacy of their homes??!??!??!

How about sleep? What about have a cuppa? Listen to the news on the radio? Attend the theater? Play chess…

What about the good they do? i know some and know of others who frequently raise a lot of money for charitable causes that they believe in, from Animal Shelters to AIDS research.

Oh, but what do they do in the bedroom??!??!???!

i don't know about you all, but the first thing i do not say to someone i meet is, "how do you fuck?"

Professional Dominatrices do, sometimes, provide Keyholding services. Professional Keyholders may not necessarily be professional Dominatrices. But I know of no professional Dominatrix who will have sex with their client. Ever. And what they choose to do behind closed doors is really none of my business. While i may entertain myself with a fantasy of some sexual act between myself and a professional Dominatrix, it is certainly no different than half the male population entertaining themselves with the thought of having a sexual relationship with Angelina Jolie. It is not going to happen, and the sex a professional Dominatrix or Angelina Jolie has is really none of my business.

Probably more than 2¢ worth, but my thoughts.

 

More like your 10cents worth ! LOL ! But I think you have put it rather well !

 

I see absolutely nothing wrong in anyone providing a service and charging for their time and costs.
So if you work in the sex industry ( horrible term I know) then do it on an up front and businesslike basis.

I did a film once about a group of girls and they did what they did to in more than one case to put their kids through private education so they had a better chance in life..

However big big difference if you are say a guy put up a profile as a female pro domm . It makes not a lot of difference if you issue an invoice or not.

Xx Wendy

 

@Mistress Jules
Sorry my comments were imprecise .

Your credentials are not in question in any circumstances as we all know who you are beyond all shadow of doubt.

However others are not in connection with " fake or scam profiles"

Sorry for any distress I might have caused.

Xx Wendy