Penis size and Chastity

Very similar to my experience but never thought I was that small!
My wife rarely climaxed from intercourse and since my journey began six months ago I have had sex once and it was over in a flash!
She prefers oral so just as well!

 

With respect to size, there are two things to consider. There is the "blood cock" and the "meat cock", also known as the "grower" and "shower" respectively. Meat cocks will stay the same size, more or less, whether flaccid or engorged. A tight device will always be tight, whether experiencing an erection or not. Blood cocks, or growers, will tend to start out small and grow when engorged.

i have a blood cock. It is quite small when i am not aroused, but grows to what I have been told is a very satisfying 8" when i am. Any Chastity cage that fits me when i am not erect will be incredibly painful (unless there is lots of room to grow) if i am aroused. When my former Owner and i played with Chastity, She was fully aware of this, and sized things accordingly. Some cages are sold with spikes (fairly dull protuberances designed to quell growth through pain). i never needed one of those, as the process of growing for me was always excruciating. Many nights, i woke up with a half-erection and a fair amount of pain caused by the device, which always really amused my former Owner. She loved teasing me and did everything She could to try to elicit a response from me—but She is a Sadist, so that is something one would expect. i simply cannot imagine how a full erection would feel—it certainly would not fit.

Thus, in my case, vaginal intercourse for Her orgasm was always an option. The Chastity regimen for me was always about taking the device off and taking me to the edge, only to deny. This included frequent vaginal intercourse to Her satisfaction and my eventual denial, followed by an ice pack and reinsertion. Additionally, oral sex was frequent as well. She knew that i tended to get aroused by Her scent and that arousal, and the pain it caused me, was always a goal.

To answer the original post, one does not—of necessity—need to be small to enjoy Chastity play. One should never assume that small penises=Chastity, large ones=freedom. Certainly, in my experience, my ability to grow, combined with my own masochism and Her outright Sadism created a wonderful dynamic.

 

I think the reason some women choose a ''cuck'' is mostly because of her hubbies penis size being small, and not satisfying her.
I am a size queen when it comes to cock.
Just my personal fetish.

 

@Max51 I have often wondered the same thing.You could set up a 'size survey' to find the answer.

 

I think It would be fair to say that there is a correlation for a reason between small dicks and male chastity.
It is no different then the often mentioned reason for men to introduce their vanilla wives to chastity in the first place, - an unbalanced sex drive. Once you are locked up, what to do with your bigger sex drive. Not much... Lol! -
- but to wait for her to request for oral service or penetration without release for you...
There you have another correlation. Unbalanced sex drive can be the gateway to male chastity as well...

And one for the record:
I consider the size of my member to be the best protection against cuckoldry. Yes I believe there is another correlation between so called useless smalls dicks and the craving for Cuckoldry. Often as the "useless sub" being the one fantasizing the most about it...

 

This raises an interesting philosophy, now just because a a man has a small dick doesn't make him a submissive, nor if boasts are large one does it make him dominant, although this does tend to be the norm. I've also seen several submissive who are shall we say are hung, but it's the other end of the spectrum that intrigues me. Are they any dominant males with small dicks? Does anyone know of one? Would the dynamic still work?

 

What an interesting question! - I would love to see my personal prejudices being torn to pieces...;-)

 

Well, the only time I seem to see kinky males discuss the size of their genitalia is:

• "I'm so 'dominate' because I have a large dick, so all you subby girls better form a straight line with no pushing!" *shudders*
• "I have a small penis, and as such should be humiliated."
• Discussing how to best fit a chastity device to it.

I do recall a porn clip with lots of women dancing and entertaining a guy who was slowly masturbating his rather small penis, and he seemed to be in a rather Dom-ly attitude (though it wasn't an explicitly D/s or kinky clip).

 

i disagree with the stereotype or, perhaps i should say my own desires run counter to the stereotype that all men with small penises are submissive and all Women with large breasts are Dominant. i know that i am big enough to please, either through oral sex and other manipulation or through vaginal intercourse. i believe this stereotype is set up by the porn industry and one can pretty much be assured that the actions depicted by pornographers run completely counter to actual practice.

For example, i have never actually had a session with a Dominant Woman, not my significant other, where i got anywhere near Her private parts. If one is to believe what pornographers portray, Women strip off at the drop of a hat and moan as men achieve orgasm as if they are achieving one themselves. Variance with reality? You bet!

With respect to Chastity play, it has always been something that allowed the Woman to harness my desires and use them to please Her own Sadism. To a certain extent, then, Chastity has been the same thing as a good caning or whipping: A means by which a Sadist may enjoy Herself. But Chastity does not create an endorphin rush like a good caning will in me. Its effect is subtle, frequently disagreeable to me and, thus, a means by which a Sadist's urges may be fed continually over time.

She may, in the middle of the day, reflect on my status as locked for Her amusement and derive a lot of pleasure from that—even though we are not physically in the same space and She is not active in Her Sadism. I received ample communication from my former Owner that it thrilled Her to Her very core knowing that i was denied for Her amusement and that, every time i became aroused, it was a painful process for me; one that i could not eroticize.

 

I was totally unaware of "small penis humiliation" until I became more active here. Personally, it's not my cup of tea and I would probably just chuckle if someone tried to humiliate me because of size. I'm no Ron Jeremy, to be sure, but I've never had a partner not orgasm or seem dissatisfied.

But as to the original question @Max51 , I'm certain you are not the only one drawn to chastity out of size or perceived size. Society, being male dominated as it is, is fairly phallo-centric so we are conditioned to acknowledge size as some kind of standard by which to measure manliness or masculinity. The validity of this is surely debatable, but I think generally speaking those who view themselves as small or below average are set up to think of themselves as less masculine than the average or standard, and this seems to have some correlation with a "submissive" identity.

 

@Living Curious :size does count

and not just for men.Chastity and the D/s dynamic allows small males to find their place.
It's not equality that matters but equilibrium.

 

I didn't say there was a problem with it. I just said that that's one of the reasons why I see kinky males discussing the size of their penis.

 

Uhhh, what? What is "the place" for "small males"?