i am a top and i am needing some info from a sub female on chastity i am semi experienced with basic bondage and have always had an interest in chastity but the thought of it seems to frighten alot of women. i am 28(now single, was with a gal when i set up the account hence the screen name) and i am working on a new woman in my life she is also a sub, into bondage but not too keen on the chastity belt idea, but she also is not completely off on the idea either. my question is how do i get her comfortable to the idea if she is a little leary about it
We don't have any femsubs that I can recall. It's definitely an interesting topic though, there are plenty of devices out there. I wonder if the female psyche works the same as the males though when it comes to denial... I know that the more sex I get, the more I want, and the less sex I get, the easier it becomes to go without. I guess if I had plenty of teasing and punishment in between times I would be begging to be released... but I don't know! Anyone else want to chip in?
my Mistress can not go more than a few days without an orgasm. i know chastity would drive Her wild...and i would love to help out with the teasing...lol!!
My suggestion would be to find a reasonably good device and start playing with it. Just like every other step in the domination process, it should be done gradually and with her permission. She will either take to it or not. Of course a good dominant knows how to sweeten the cake with plenty of sexual conditioning and thoughtful after-care.
a couple of ideas pretty good lets here some more let me rephrase part of the question if you have never considered wearing 1 but your male partner is into chastity and would like you to wear one what would be the best way for him to make you comfortable with the idea of allowing him to lock you in a chastity belt
Wow... what an awesome question! That really messed with my head! Ok, I'm pretty open minded so I would be willing to try for the hell of it... at least I think I would, but if I was asked, I think I'd need a lot of convicing, which surprised me! So by bringing me into the headspace of someone who is about to be locked in chastity and have their sexual privileges taken away, that has given me a new perspective on pet's future predicament. What would it take to get me into chastity? A lot of shopping! Lol! Seriously though, I think I would have to still be used in a sexual context on a regular basis to ensure I didn't feel I wasn't needed any more. A lot of reassurance before and during would be essential. I think also for me something along the lines of being told I was a prized and precious possession and that my KH wouldn't want me to be spoiled by anyone else or by selfish personal abuse would do it for me. Very interesting question...
Perhaps another thing would be to suggest a "trial". Agree to play with it for a period of time, and check-in with each other on how it's going. Perhaps even allowing her to hold her own keys at the beginning. Aside from the fear of being locked up without release, there is fear of detection, concerns about safety and comfort, and just plain trust issues. I'd suggest talking through it and asking her "If we tried it, how could I comfort some of your concerns?" :character0109: Best of luck! It would be nice to have some female wearers on the site! I've known a few, but they are definitely few and far between! mikecb
Well mike, your wish is probably about to come true! Thanks to this thread and a discussion I had with pet about the thoughts it provoked in me, I am going to try a period in chastity! arty0019: Chastity Mansion is about to take a very interesting direction!
I am shocked mistress watchful that coming from a domme wow but anyways i would like to hear some more comments will check back later
I don't think we were ever going to fit neatly into the Domme/sub roles. Although I think pet will find it difficult to be Dom, and hopefully give him some insight as to what it's like! A purchase of that expense is not done lightly... but I think it will be a great experiment!
Where are u located watchful???? NEVERMIND I JUST CAUGHT IT ON UR PROFILE. PERSONALLY I LIKE THE LOOK OF THE LATOWSKI BELTS ON A FEMALE HOWEVER THEY DO NOT APPEAR TO BE PRACTICLE FOR LONG TERM MY RECOMMENDATION WOULD BE EITHER THE NEOSTEEL OR THE TOLLYBOY AND IF YOU LIKE TO MAKE THINGS INTERESTING NEO MAKES SOME E-STIM ACCESSORIES FOR THEIR BELTS AS WELL AS THE PIN LOCK BONDAGE SET THE SAD PART ABOUT THIS WHOLE ENDEAVOR IS I ALSO WANT TO BE LOCKED IN A CHASTITY BUT CANNOT SEEM TO FIND A SINGLE(AVAILABLE) WOMAN THAT SHARES THE SAME INTERESTS AND...... I DO OWN 2 MALE CHASTITYS I HAVE A CB2000 AND A CB3000 AND I CANNOT WEAR EITHER 1 THEY ARE TOO DAMNED PAINFUL FOR ME TO EVEN TRY TO WEAR BECAUSE OF THE TRAPPED BALL DESIGN THE LONGEST I WAS ABLE TO WEAR ONE FOR WAS ABOUT 3-4 HOURS
Wow Mistress Watchful, this should be very interesting to follow. I highly recommend reading all of Locked and Secure This is a blog by Alison Lockt who has posted on several message boards. She is in the UK and she has worn chastity belts off and on for many years. Also Tantalism This site is focused on female orgasm denial, including chastity. IMO, moreso than men, a woman who is kept in chastity should be teased as much and as often as possible. Men can often get aroused just by looking at something, while women need a more tactile approach. I salute your willingness to try something new and I think we'll all learn from your experience.
this is insane a domme that is talking about buying a belt for herself i wish it was this easy to talk one of my girlfriends into it and all because i asked a question aye aye aye this sucks i want a female sub for myself that is into chastity dammit
i'm on top... please don't make me feel bad. :sad0123: I'm not the best Domme in the world (by a LONG way!) but I do feel that this part of our journey will get us out of a huge rut, and will go a long way to helping me understand what pet will need from me when I lock him back up again. tightlockup, if you read my blog you will see I eventually found that site this morning, but I posted before I read others posts... you would have saved me a lot of time! Anyway... we shouldn't highjack i'm on top's thread any further! :sign0101: I hope you'll hang around i'm on top, we're enjoying your company. :manga_beat:
i was not trying to make you feel bad i was trying to be funny i meant i asked a question and you are ready to jump in to a chastity i only wished it was that easy to get a woman here in the states that willing to do so
I'm sure she's out there somewhere. If it's any help... I'm finding it really difficult to get my head around it. After quite an exciting and novel morning I'm feeling a bit teary... but I'll save that for my blog.