slimswitch

Short version: the wonderful partners I live with are happily very supportive of me sometimes being locked up on the orders of a lover who lives 5000 miles away!

Long version:

I've identified as polyamorous and kinky and bi for 30 years. I've been lucky to play with a lot of people and try a lot of kinky things - including dabbling in chastity play. I've been with my primary partner for nearly 20 years and I'm devoted to her, though due to her health we don't get up to much kinky fun now. But we've always had other partners, and today we live with another partner. I've been seeing the woman who is now my keyholder since late 2011, a sexy goth lady roughly my age; she bought a strap-on for our first date which was a great start. Very often our dates would be with her and a very beautiful person with whom we'd have every combination of three-way fun, and she's always strongly encouraged me to cross-dress, to an extent that it has at times shaded a little into a delicious forced feminization kink.

At the start of 2016, I moved 5000 miles from our shared home town of London to Silicon Valley, saying a sad goodbye to my London lovers, though of course hoping to visit frequently; I've had much fun connecting with the kink scene here in the Bay Area. Near the end of 2019, I was looking at her FetLife page, and noticed an entry that said: "Curious about: chastity devices (giving)." Goodness me, I thought, and messaged her. It turned out that she had fantasized about attaching a leash to a chastity device at a fetish club. I had a visit to the UK planned, so I immediately ordered a short A273 with 45mm ring to try out, ready for the club.

I was checking the post every day for it to arrive, and I put it on as soon as possible, and left for work - taking the key with me. But I knew immediately I wanted her to have control of when it was unlocked. After our first three-day experiment with it, we agreed that she could simply order me to put it on at any time, but that I'd make sure she knew about any dates I had planned so it was only me that was inconvenienced Unsurprisingly the UK visit has had to be postponed, but I've worn it around half-a-dozen times since then, the longest stretch being 15 days. It's a fantastic way for the two of us to connect across all this distance.

When I put it on, the keys go in numbered evidence bags, which I show her before unlocking, to demonstrate that I've been good. In so far as it's possible given our long distance arrangement, I have no safeword; I am permitted to unlock for medical reasons, but otherwise it's up to her. There are various ways I could cheat (I could pick the lock) but I have sworn not to cheat, and outside of an emergency I don't think I could open the bags unlock without her permission if I tried.