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    Yes, you read correctly - a blowjob. And we're in the correct forum and not Fantasy and fiction, although the exact choice could be questioned.

    So we were chatting, as we do a lot, jumping from one subject to another randomly, some about mundane rubbish, work, kink, sport, food. And the subject of blowjobs came up and my response was "I miss them". Her response was favourable - you can have one, but it'll cum at a price. So started the negotiations and bartering process.

    To put this into context I get frequent spoiled orgasm's whilst caged. They're not particularly good, but it's takes the edge off of the hornyiness. It's like being in a cramped bus or plane seat when you can't get your legs straitened.Lady C likes the feeling of hot semen on her body. She's tried to describe it but it's something to do with the initial warmth followed by the way it starts thinning and dripping. I've often said that if happily trade several of those spoiled caged orgasm's for one out of the cage experience. "So how expensive do you think a blowjob will be?"

    Her first offer was one. One week, one month I asked, nope, one year. No orgasm's for a year, spoiled, trading or otherwise. That's way too long, you like them too much for that. "I think you'll find that I can easily go without your orgasms for a year"

    Eventually she agreed that 2 months completely orgasm free was sufficient. I also had to concede to take her to the pub to see our friends - I don't like the pub, the beer upsets my stomach and other issues, and the other thing I was going to have to endure was 500 strokes of her favourite strap. That was deleted as she didn't want to be constrained to using one implement plus it's not something I can do on my own. "You'll be getting way more than 500 over 2 months anyway".

    On her list she wanted body massage on demand, foot rub on demand, her pussy licked on demand and picked up from work on demand. "But you've already got that", said I. "OK, change that to daily foot massages and pick up from work every night I'm on a late shift, save me from having to ask".

    So that was the deal. The actual blowjob I described was straight out of a porno. Me standing, her dressed in her highest tarty shoes with bright red nails and matching lipstick and kneeling in front of me. " I'll wear my short black leather skirt and that of the shoulder top that shows of my boobs". Nice. It's too be completely vanilla, no kink, no Femdom, no handcuffs or anything else.

    "You realise that it'll probably be all over in a couple of seconds as soon as you breathe on me, I'm rather sensitive these days. In fact I'll probably not get fully hard". "That's good, I should manage to get you in my mouth". Lady C despite being very talkative and opinionated and even describes herself as "mouthy" or "gobby" has a small mouth and restricted jaw opening, whilst when fully erect I used to be quite thick and girthy.

    So fast forward a couple of days and I, as I usually do, gave her a friendly pat on her bum. "That's enough, the clock will reset and the two months will start again". "That's not on the list", I argued. "You're forgetting our FLR rule, Andrew, - Lady C decides". "If it's too much effort, forget it", I said. "Do what you want but that next orgasm is still 2 months away, nice or otherwise, and you'll still be doing those other things too."

    So, by asking for a vanilla sex act she's gotten more dominant. But since then we've talked and she sometimes misses the act of showing affection and performing initiate sexual acts with me. "But I wanted to see how much you wanted this", she said. "This might become the new norm and it might be three months next time".

    So, a question for the keyholders. Do you miss having vanilla sex with your partner, not just intercourse, but masturbation and fellatio?

    And one for the boys, what would you do for a vanilla orgasm?

    For me, I think ended up making her stricter and demanding, which is fine and we both get what we want. But I was asked a question and have an honest answer. I just need to keep the rest of my "I want" list quiet for a while.

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    That’s hot and I’d definitely keep quiet on the want list for a while :)

    My wife will occasionally pander to my requests to see her in bdsm type outfits. It’s not that she doesn’t like the look and the mood it creates but she just not that motivated to incorporate it very often and on her own volition. I’ve noticed when she does dress up (which is always at my request) she makes it a point to get me extremely turned on as quick as possible and make me O as quick as possible. So I’m elated to see my domme eye candy when she is all dolled up but then can’t handle myself because I’m so turned on. She loves that she can make me PE so easily it is really a big turn on for her. Usually after I O the kink wear will come off and she’ll allow me to pleasure her how she wants. It’s ironic because like you said @Disciplined Boyfriend , we’re both getting what we want but it’s a shame we can’t control ourselves to enjoy the experience for longer. But that is also the sadistic side of my wife, she loves making me so I can’t handle myself after giving me what I want.
     
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    That's definitely one of the down sides of long term chastity - the extreme sensitivities that it gives. Sometime in the past we spoke about getting a stopwatch and actually timing how quick she could make me orgasm.

    The opposite side is that with skill she can edge me (uncaged), bringing me ever closer to the edge until less than one stroke pushes me over the edge. Sometimes it has been a gesture i.e. the forefinger in a come hither motion, a tap on the edge, or bending down and about to give it a kiss.

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    Actually, I crave the increased sensitivity caused by long lockups. It heightens every touch, every lick. It makes the teasing exquisite.
     
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    Not sure abour the "vanilla" term, as it seems that there is something like a "vanilla orgasm" or "vanilla sex" which is not true as sex and orgasms have so many different faces.
    Aren't we also transporting a picture of typical sex which we always see in movies and from our children get the totally wrong picture how sex has to be? Short intro, kissing with putting the mouth down to belly, rip the clothes of and then PIV, maybe some oral sex before and then the man is either "finishing" her or she is riding on him until she is totally exhausted while both come at the same time. Summary -> boring.
    So if this is a vanilla orgasm, I wouldn't do anything for it, because every non-vanilla orgasm is much better.
    I have had an orgasm where nearly nothing happened and I just felt her hand and her breathing and it was super intense.
    Other times she was sitting on came heavily and she ordered me to lick her straight afterwards. Both never was part if my "fantasies" and felt like the best orgasms I ever had.
    I would prefer looking at orgasms as a teamsport if its just the mechanics ... Boring.
    Don't see a big difference compared to just taking care of myself.

    Sounds a bit like topping from the bottom, "making her stricter and demanding". No offend. Have been there too. The risk is that " making her" do something will also increase the insecurity that she is doing it "right". Biggest fear is that she doesn't get as much from the FLR and she is maybe agreeing because she wants to see me happy. I think the sub will always get more intense feelings out of a FLR (if I look at myself when I am "charged".

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    She initiated the conversation so hardly topping from the bottom. It was a frank conversation and never was there any intention for ramping up her dominance, she's perfectly good at that on her own.

    I shall ask her when she gets home what her thoughts are on it.

    As for the other comments, I guess I maybe used vanilla sex when eroticism might have been better, but definitely not as raunchy as 50 shades.

    Cheers, A
     
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    Poor thing imagine negotiating for a blow job I’m sorry
     
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    Are you offering one without conditions? ;-)

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    I've only received 1 complete blowjob which was nearly 20 years ago. It was the first and last time i came in my KHs mouth, it was shortly after healing from a circumcision and i was extremely sensitive, probably the best orgasm I ever had.

    Earlier this year KH agreed to give me one but i had to wear a condom as he will not swallow. I got a bit excited as i got close and found myself thrusting a bit. This made kh gag and take it out his mouth just as i was past the point of no return, so my first full blowjob in 2 decades was a ruin.
     
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    Ok, it's now 8 days until the promised day. By then it'll be well over 100 days locked.

    Lady C never missing an opportunity to do mind fuckery takes advantage of it and threatens to add a couple of days "just because".

    We spoke about it earlier and she had put some conditions on it. Hmmmmm. This was cut and dried nearly two months ago, but argument would not have a positive outcome, otherwise called "no cum".

    The other factor that's playing on me is that my daughter was intending to visit us in July. And with my eldest son staying this weekend... You can see what's going to happen. Arrrggggh.

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    Intercourse: yes, I miss it a little, though not as much now as when we first started. Certainly not enough to give up all the other good stuff that comes with chastity.

    Masturbation: n/a - I love stroking hubby, but I haven't given that up, so there's nothing to miss. I used to enjoy making him cum, but I actually find a ruined orgasm just as satisfying, perhaps more so. I guess I like the challenge and sense of accomplishment of timing it just right.

    Fellatio: no, I stopped doing that years and years ago. Ironically, they've made a reappearance, but only while hubby is caged.
     
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    I haven't had a blow job from my wife for possibly 12 months. Last week she hinted at giving me ablow job however I was secretly caged. I said of course I would love one however I would rather remain caged and give her oral sex until she is satisfied.
    After convincing her that I really just wanted to do that for her she instructed me to remove the cage. I reluctantly did this as I had a raging boner going on inside. Always seems painful to remove when I am hard.
    She then instructed me to have sex with her. I begged her to stop me from orgasming if I did as she asked.
    She said she would however when she knew I was close she thrusted her hips and milked every drop out.
    I had the dreaded drop, luckily for me this weekend will be a no orgasm weekend. I expect it to be at least 14 days between Orgasms, maybe longer.
    Should have taken the blow job though when it was offered.
     
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    There will be one for us on September 13th.
     
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    Lady C no longer enjoys intercourse. Its an age thing. However she does enjoy playing, teasing and making me orgasm both caged and uncaged, the latter quiet infrequent. Lady C likes me cumming, and wants to feel the warmth of the semen on her body, usually on her boobs. Feet, stomach, pubis, and ass even face are all targets for her.

    She's also know to tease with her mouth and tongue whilst caged too, and would probably give more blow jobs if I were uncaged more. However that's not going to happen.

    I think since this promised blowjob has been put up there as a treat, they'll be no more given freely and I'll need to earn them somehow.

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    Yep, do as your told :) The keyholder always knows best!

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    That's a long time away. Any reason for that day - a special occasion perhaps? And who's giving and who's getting?

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    Thanks for asking.

    We are going by a release schedule. I offered him a bonus orgasm by giving him a blowjob on any of our release dates, he may choose on which date.

    He will get a frenum piercing in Sebtember, when bathing season for lakes is over. He wanted to make the experience getting a blowjob without the piercing a lst time.
     
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    Ah, so it is kinda a special occasion then. Although all blowjobs are special.

    Yes, the Bavarian Lakes - been to Chiemsee and the one close to Neuschwanstein. Also been in the Eisbach in the Englischer Garten, can't call that swimming though.

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    Been nude at the Englischer Garrten? ;) There is an official area for that.
    Eisbach is famous. Did you see the surfers?
     
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    It was a long while ago when I was in Munchen, about '86. I was there for three weeks on a school exchange visit as a supervisor, so nude sunbathing was not an option. Didn't see any surfers, it was only swimmers and one guy on a bike.

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    Never had a blow job with my current wife. She experimented one time fully crossdressing me (not sure why but I liked it so I got hard), and she took me in her mouth for a few seconds and then stopped. That was as close as I have come (pun). I've had many blow jobs with previous partners, but it's been a long time now. I would do anything for one!
     
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    Anything? Be Careful What You Wish For!!! I would do lots, or give up lots of things, but I have a limit to what I'm prepare to do.

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    I'm somewhat desperate! Once a year would be heaven. Would trade it for weekly pussy licking...
     
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    It’s exactly the same situation for me regarding fellatio, only teased with it occasionally when caged, which is 24/7. Cunnilingus, on the other hand, has become extremely frequent. Before, I would experience it all the time and never reciprocated or was expected to. I do miss it, but I’ve come to accept that this will is unlikely to ever change. Before chastity, she was doing it less and less, saying it was not pleasant for her and degrading to women, all while demanding more and more oral for her, saying that it’s not the same for men, and how women need it, but she still occasionally did it for me on special occasions (birthday, anniversary) because she felt obligated. When I finally agreed to chastity at her request, she said it gave her the courage to finally do away with fellatio completely and not feel guilty about receiving unreciprocated cunnilingus. Now, horny and desperate after lengthy chastity enforcement, I’m just grateful for anything she gives me, like allowing me to bath her.
     
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    For 30 years, my Wife, (KH) would give me blowjobs all the time. If she wasn't in the mood for sex, she would always go down on me. If I was horny and just wanted a quick orgasm, she would do it. I have had head while driving to work, up in our barn, on our deck, out in the bush, in our boat, while fishing, just about anyplace. And she would swallow 99% of the time.
    That was then, now I might get a quick lick and a suck for a few seconds. My Wife know how much I like and want a blowjob and will tease me with short ones, once in a while. She gets a kick out of licking my cage and sucking my balls, seeing how bad I want to cum. She will uncage me and suck on my penis for 30 seconds, get me leaking and then put the cage back on. I haven't had a orgasm from a blowjob in over a year. In fact, I haven't had any orgasms in over a year.
    Sometimes, I would like a long, full, orgasm ending blowjob, but I know it would be about 20 seconds long now, and I probably wouldn't enjoy it like the good old days.
    Since we started MC, 5 years ago, my Wife has told me she never really enjoyed giving blowjobs, but did it because she knew how much I enjoyed it. Knowing that, I have probably had my last full blowjob and didn't even know it was my last...
     
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