Reality check on “necessary” release

I am currently 63Days locked straight, no unlocks for cleaning, shaving or cumming.

 

Not a KH...but I can say swelling comes and goes. Part of Sub/caged life for me.

I have no idea when I may be allowed an orgasm. KH and Mistress dont share a specific target unless they are teasing ... and then It isnt always a given.

I have been current lock well over a month and longer locks over many months. My only release when KH allows is a short 10 min hygiene where I clean the cage, shave, wash and re-cage. Late incurs punishment. When I relock I try to make sure my balls are "full" so the ring seats well behind. I guess that would be "swelling" of sorts but keep everything in place.

Unless your sub ring is too small which doesnt sound like that since been locked for a bit so far, I would say the swelling/any discomfort comes with the territory

 

I'm not a keyholder and my keyholders take on this is to do things her way. End of story.

 

Once a week Mistress leaves me without the cage for a couple of hours to relieve the pressure of the balls, but tied to the bed or handcuffed with hands behind.
Without possibility that I touch the pathetic penis and cum.
But each Mistress has her tastes, preferences and style.
That's why I tell you, you will see what you do.

 

The swelling and pressure in the scrotum comes from fluid that cant drain well due to the base ring of the chastity device.
Normally the body acclimatizes to this over time.

Just to be clear, the balls are not overfilling with passion or Semen from lack of ejaculation!

 

Ask if he wants you to make an appointment with a doctor for a check up - caged of course so the doctor can make a good diagnosis

 

Give him a good kick in the balls… it might help. It might shut him up. Either way, you win!

 

'blue balls' can be quite distressing. But for some of us it is just a not too gentle reminder of who we are and who and why we serve. The pain comes and goes over several days. A nice soak in the tub seems to provide a little relief for a while. I imagine he needs your comittment to your new life far more than he needs relief. Stern and unyielding is how you gain and keep control. He's waited and fantasised about this for years. Be strong make it real!

 

I’m lucky, my body purges some semen out with urine once I hit about 8-10 days of denial after my Queen allows an orgasm. After that my body adjusts and I can for however long she desires.

Im sure he’ll adjust eventually, if you start training him for releases every time it gets uncomfortable, it will always be uncomfortable won’t it? And deep down, he wants you to sympathize, tell him how good he’s doing and ultimately deny him any relief. Even if he won’t admit it

 

Follow your gut. No man "needs" to cum, its what works for you.

 

It's like someone saying they need a cigarette. He wants, craves and yearns to cum, but he absolutely doesn't need to. You should add time if his pleading becomes an irritant. If you're genuinely feeling sorry for him perhaps a pegging with a sizeable strap on to milk his prostate and relieve some of that alleged pressure.

 

Ball ache is very real, but it passes.

There is no need to ejaculate.

 

You should read about what happens to unejaculated semen (rather than cause cause testicles to swell and explode, it simply passes into urine). As some have said here, discomfort comes and goes. Let him sleep on it, he'll feel better the next day. I find your goal perfectly reasonable. It must be why they say April is the month of hope…

 

My balls will start to feel full and ache around the two month mark after a prostrate milking. It does pass somewhat. But by the end of three months my back even starts to hurt. My wife usually won’t take me past the three month mark without a anal prostrate milking. It certainly helps. However she is now moving to twice a year milkings. So I don’t know at this point how bad it will feel and be. I’m over two years now without a orgasm, and except for the horness and frustration. I’m getting by fine. Men don’t need to orgasm, they just need a little relief once in awhile.

 

and from what I understand, the body does this relief automatically when needed. To me it usually happens after I poop, and the semen comes with urine. The pressure on the prostate releases the extra build up.

 

I believe it does as well. I can sometimes see my urine looking cloudy. I don’t, but some will also have wet dreams. So the body will take care of itself.

 

I don't get any aching but she generally prefers me to sleep unlocked.

After about 2-3 weeks I start to leak and have little sticky spots in my underwear, balls seem self draining.

 

@Gloria88 : As long as you are both being honest, communicating, and setting boundaries with one another… there is no right or wrong way to do this. When people start this they will rarely get everything perfect and it’s ok the change things up, compromise is key.

 

What ever works best for you both, I myself am not allowed to be denied it is mandatory for me to cum

 

I don't think I have anything to add but I will echo a few of the posts above in saying that - His balls will take care of themselves. He/his body will eventually release it on its own via urine or a 'wet dream'. Swelling will always come and go regardless of release or no release. If he is new to this, he will realize over time, it may be best to keep his thoughts to himself as his lock time may increase (perhaps?). If they are not turning colors - i.e. he still has good blood flow, then I'd say let him 'deal' with this on his own. Warm baths seem to help sooth a lot of folks so maybe he could sit in the bath or shower. My last thought is - Schedule that doctors appointment like one of the above posts mentioned... then see how fast that 'pain' subsides.

Chastity will train his dick/balls but it will also train his brain over time. His brain will eventually learn to not even respond to this pain/swelling, but for now and because its new, its making him think he needs release - He doesn't.

 

My god these responses are fucking hilarious.

 

YES! That's exactly it. We tend to think so much of the physical aspects of chastity and the sperm retention, but such a good part of it is the psychological mind game that happens along with the physical changes. That act of putting one in chastity can happen in a flash, but the time needed for the mind to fully adopt it will usually take much, much longer.

@Gloria88 , As others have said, he doesn't NEED it. But ultimately, the decision should be YOURS. Of course good communication is key, too, so if he is sincere about being in real pain, that needs to be addressed.

Have fun.

~subrick

 

I find if I can help make my Wife have an orgasm it will tie me over for a few days, maybe 3 at the most.
We don't play long term and recently not much at all but I still think it might help.

 

Bullshit, excuse my French. This is him trying to maintain control. The male orgasm serves one purpose, and it isn't even necessary for that. Chastity is sometimes uncomfortable. That's what frustration training is for. His body will adapt over time, and besides, no one ever died from blue balls. Tell him to buck up and take it like a man. He needs to learn that his sexual gratification is secondary at best, if not irrelevant, now.