Are you being trained?

My KH had me locked up since Tuesday (not long in the scheme of things) and wanted me to cum while in my cage. I tried and tried. Finally on Sunday afternoon, she let me out with a requirement that I needed to cum in 5 minutes, or get locked back up. It was under a minute. Amazing. Training for what, I don't know...but I liked it.

 

Yes, i an being trained in several ways, but that is a function of my submission to my Domina, @MistressAMA, and other Superiors (other Female Friends of Hers) She has me serve.

For instance, Domina has trained me for PIV without climaxing, even during long periods of chastity. But one of my Superiors has me doing deep-throat training on one of Domina's dildos just for Her amusement, to which Domina happily agreed. That one has nothing to do with my chastity, it's a power play as part of our D/s dynamic.

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Nice

 

locked and forgot.........such a waste

 

I feel like i'm being trained for longer periods of denial. When we started I was allowed to come about once a week, which slowly became a fortnight and is now more like every 3-4 weeks. Could equally be my KH is now just more confident and has gotten over the initial guilt.

 

Sorry in advance for the boring answer.

Chastity is almost unavoidably a form of training for me. It's a bit embarrassing to admit, but 90% of the "training" has just been to get me to behave in the manner that I should have been all along. I'll list a number of things that we have talked about, and how they have changed me.

1. I used to get bored with her speaking her own opinion, so I would do us both a favor and interrupt her half-way into her first sentence. Usually with an eye-roll first. She had to live with that asshole interrupting her for the first years of marriage, and at some point after we began our experimentation with chastity, she put her foot down and informed me that I would never interrupt her again. It actually makes me start to cry now when I think about what a complete fucking asshole I was, for so many years (even 2 would have been 2 too many). How my attitude ripped down her self esteem. And for what? So I didn't have to listen to her opinion? What a fucking jerk I was. And how thankful I am that she corrected me. I only wish we had discovered chastity sooner.

2. Speaking of rolling my eyes at her, OMG she hates that. Every time I would do that, I ripped down her self confidence and let her know how little I respected her. What an asshole. She told me how it made her feel and informed me that I would not do it again. Like a bull being led by a nose-ring, I happily agreed and thanked her for correcting me, and I have never rolled my eyes at her again.I only wish we had discovered chastity sooner, before I had had an opportunity to hurt her with my disrespect.

3. Speaking of not speaking, not only did she not like being interrupted, but she also didn't like being tuned out and/or ignored. Crazy expectation, right? She actually wanted me to actively listen to her, and let her speak her mind on whatever topic she wanted to talk about. And she wanted me to keep my mouth closed while she did it. I, of course, imagined this to be impossible. She imagined that I had no choice but to listen. I have since learned that I have no choice but to listen, and I have learned to appreciate her sharing her thoughts with me, uninterrupted. I only wish we had discovered chastity sooner.

4. Toilet seats stay down. And toilets get cleaned. This one was remarkably easy for me.

5. She really did not like being pressured to have sex. I liked being able to expect sex whenever I wanted it. So we compromised: I no longer expect sex, ask for sex, or put any pressure on her whatsoever on this topic. She can relax now and allow me to caress her body, knowing that I have zero expectation of anything in return. It really has allowed her to enjoy sex much more, and while she still likes me to come (most of the time), she now comes first in my life, and she knows it. When she wants to play, she knows that I want to play with her. And when she wants to sleep, she knows that I want her to sleep. Her control over when and how we are intimate is definitely one of the most fascinating parts of my being trained. I wish we had discovered chastity much sooner; our libido mismatch (since day one) meant that she could have always had the leverage in our relationship, and I wish my training had started the day I met her.

6. I used to not really care what she thought when it came to what I did. That was my business, and while I might want her to be happy, I didn't want that badly enough that I'd substantially change my direction based on her requests. I have since learned that I really do want her to be happy, and I'm willing to change my direction on any topic immediately if she indicates her preference. Yes, I have learned obedience. I'm not a slave; it's just that I obey her completely, without question. It is a strangely wonderful and liberating feeling to know that I must obey her completely. But I have also found that I like doing what she would want me to do, not just what she says I have to do. We probably both wish that we had discovered chastity sooner.

It's safe to say that chastity has had a profound impact on our relationship. Yeah, a year or two after we started, I agreed to never masturbate again, and all the other normal agreements you read about here. That's all a bit cliche. What was really important is that my attitude changed toward her.

I am looking forward to her training me in whatever way she pleases, for the rest of our lives together. It's not much work for her; she simply adjusts my attitude and my direction when and as she sees fit. She has steadily changed me to the point now that I am as easy to train as an eager puppy, and she has made me every bit as happy as one, too. I long for her guidance, and I am literally desperate to please her. I only wish we had discovered chastity sooner.

 

Trained, I don't know. Punishment definitely. I'm in my 6th year of lock-up. I'm totally denied anything. She no longer allows me to have any orgasms or freedom from the cage. Last time she played with it was in 2018 and it was a ruined O in the cage. It sucks really bad, but I made my own bed.
My Punishment is for masturbating behind her back. She ABSOLUTELY hates that!!! She said she will never remove my cage ever, and so far she has kept her word.

 

She likes to be in control. Everything I do is to that goal even though we are good partners in most things. Chastity is a way for her to control sex. She enjoys sex, but she determines when and how. I am often denied since she likes me to be sexually frustrated and desperate. If I fail to respect and/or support her control, I will be disciplined. So I would say there is training involved.

 

I did this to myself, I initiated the process, and my wife was reluctant to participate, I did it primarily out of curiosity when I started now I'm addicted to it.
I did this to enjoy being with my wife more, I was a chronic masterbator which desensitized my penis and my wife thought she didn't satisfy me anymore and that broke my heart so here I am now I believe 3.5 months and I haven't touched myself except to shower.

 

Yes, every second of every day.

 

Similar to how others have responded, I would say training is a constant of my submissive position. Whether its a stated, implied, or something I discover on my own towards being better and pleasing my Mistress and KH.

Stated and enforced training with negative and positive "stimulus" (i.e. punishments as needed, teasing, etc) I know will always be there because our relationships are a living thing.

 

I am being trained to obey her rule - no masturbation.

 

Currently not caged. Not partnered. When I was partnered and caged. Caging was done to? Emphasize control, dominance(hers) and change me physically and psychologically.

 

Right now, mine is quite simple I need to loose weight, each kilogram I loose I get 1 orgasm.

I am not sure what happens when I hit my goal weight. But that is at least a few months away.

 

For sure. Trained to appreciate her more, understand sex is not my climax, and that I am far more controllable than I ever imagined. Not sure I have fully embraced being submissive, but it is on her list...

 

So yes even though I started this she now owns me and my orgasms, I'm being trained not to pleasure myself

 

Yes...I have been trained. Over the last three years, my Wife (KH) has trained me to obey her wishes. Body rubs, foot rubs, ass licking, oral sex for her, saying "no" to orgasms. She knows that if I want any teasing or touching, that I will do anything she wants. She has me by the balls. She reminds me that she has "trained me well" and she loves how she has shaped me. Every once in a while, she grabs my balls and says..."I love my new balls", gives them a good squeeze and laughs at me...

 

I have been the trainee ever since Mistress took control about 7 years ago. Whether it's been about my orgasms, putting the toilet seat down, feminine dressing, deportment, chores, or whatever, I have been in a constant state of training with no end in sight and I am loving it!

 

My KH is much the same , mistress told me only last night that she’s never going to uncage me .
I am only released for pleasure, then re locked .

 

While not as overt & intensive as it was in the beginning, I suspect, yes, I am still being trained. That will probably never end.

 

Trained, idk, but my Wife had fun wiping out my stamina for fucking her. Now I’m expected to perform for as long as she needs me to so she can orgasm once or twice from piv, and then it’s usually back in the cage.
On rare occasions instead of a handjob orgasm, she’ll lay on her stomach and I’ll be allowed to take her from behind and allowed an orgasm from piv, this she requires me to cum as fast as possible, if she’s feeling generous I’m allowed to hold off once or twice before pulling out and cumming. But most of these rare times, I’m ordered to finish as soon as that feeling hits, which is now probably around 1-2 minutes tops.
Before chastity, 45 minutes was average, an hour on weekend sessions was normal, and now she laughs and says, “sorry baby but those days are long gone and will never return, I like you being my fast cummer now”

So I suppose I’ve been re-trained, it’s humbling and slightly embarrassing, but my Wife is happy and I’m serving her, so I’m happy

 

Yes, I am being trained. I am being trained as a sissy and a maid. I am being trained to be submissive and obedient. My Mistress finds that only through total chastity do I behave well enough.

 

I could do it by simply pausing or stopping when I feel myself about to blow my load. Otherwise, cortisol spray is a thing and you could use that plus wearing a couple condoms to reduce sensation. Might need viagra to maintain an erection with so little feeling though. Porn stars do this by the way. Viagra + numbing cream/spray.