Primary reason for male chastity?

I’m struggling to answer…

maybe point me in the right direction?

I got started in chastity as a bit of a kink. Some adventure. Orgasm denial wasn’t my wife’s thing.
Over time she has now taken control of that front, stating that basically I’m a better husband, father, person etc without my orgasms.

So I could answer:
‘It turns me on, as a locked/submissive male’

Or, perhaps more suitably with:
‘I do it for my dominant partner/keyholder who wants this’

But, I could go with the third option of:
‘Male chastity improves my marriage/relationship’

That said, because she has told me I’m a better person without them I’m also now starting to believe that I am too. Therefore I don’t really want to masturbate without her:
‘I think it is wrong for me to masturbate (for any reason)’


Obviously, I could pick the one that fits the best, but none of the options actually work without the other. My wife wouldn’t know about it improving our relationship if it hadn’t been for it turning me on. She wouldn’t be the dominant party if it hadn’t improved our relationship. It wouldn’t work if I masturbated…

Lots of pigeon-holing ourselves into categories on this site of late.

 

1. Being locked up is a turn on for me.
2. I am not submissive in general, but like her to be more in charge when it comes to sex.
3. I find a week or two between orgasms makes them better, and I have a hard time waiting.
4. She tends to think of my pleasure before hers. Being caged helps me put her first; if I initiate sex while I'm caged and it is not time to unlock, she knows it's for her and relaxes and enjoyes it more.
So lots of reasons.

 

I found my way here by accident, I became extremely curious about what it would be like to wear a cage, so I bought one, immediately became addicted to wearing it, and I use it to stop myself from masturbating a d now my wife holds the keys, because since I can't masturbate I've become so much more attentive to her and so much more sensitive.

 

I share the difficulty because many of them are good reasons. I chose the one that I think best suited the reason that initiated the process of my wife being my KH.

 

I voted that I do this for my dominant partner/keyholder, as it was Mistress' suggestion (i.e. requirement). But I do find that it turns me on as well, so I could have voted that option.

 

I am pidgeon holed into this by my mistress. I thought it would be fun but now I'm locked up permanently because she gets turned on by it.

 

It helps me pick up satellite TV on my Mature Metal Jailbird

 

it is a combination of several of them.
1. being locked is a turned on for me.
2. excuse to get my wife into it is self improvement (losing weight)
3. I think male chastity improves our relationship.
4. from wife's perspective....(she does it because he submissive male partner wants it)

 

I voted for "Male chastity improves my marriage/relationship"
but I was really looking for "Male Chastity improves our sex life".

Now that we do Male Chastity, I spend much more time blissfully anticipating the remote possibility of getting an orgasm, she spends much more time having orgasms, and neither of us would have it any other way.

 

Because my Madam commands it.

 

That works.

 

I had suggested placing me in chastity while tied to a chair, and watching her masturbate. This led to buying a cage, and wearing it while we had an encounter. As of yet, this scenario hasn’t happened. What had started as a once in a while kink, seems to be turning into a potential lifestyle. Not complaining, just an observation.

 

Because I think it is how my God, myself, and my wife want me to live. Certainly has an erotic appeal, I feel better about who I am, and chastity helps me go from being selfish in bed to controlled and gentle. But the main driving force is the desire to live as I think I should.

With that said, my wife will not enforce the cage and I fail, a lot.

 

I voted for the first option, this whole sex life changing thing started when looking for some new toy options on a bdsm toy site. Thought it might be a fun way for my Wife to have some revenge on me for all the times I tied her up and spanked her ass, tortured her clitoris for as long as I wanted and made her wait for an orgasm while I took all the pleasure I desired.
Little did I realize what was about to happen within a couple years once she saw what kind of power she’d have over me by locking him up!
So while other options on the list could apply as well, I went with the one that was closest to what started the trip.

 

I started it was because it was hot and I wanted to be a better partner.

I still think it’s both those but not sure I would have went down this route if I had known how much I’d be locked to be honest. So now it’s mostly for her.

 

I guess I better make myself clear. I am sure I would have started this, but I might not have been so eager to agree to “the anything you want, I’m happy with whatever” agreement we have. Because in all honesty, I wanted, and still want more sexualization in our dynamic. However there in lies the rub, knowing we are doing exactly what she wants and it will always be that way, is hot enough for me. Kinda goes with the territory

 

I think this is the main problem of most people fantasizing about chastity - not realizing on how it most certainly will look like in day to day life.

I myself can count myself lucky lucky that we still have a very active sexlife, but even so in between it does not always feel exciting. In the contrary - beeing excited with her showing no interest in this moment at all is anything but. Evenn more so when you realize that this will be also some of the more common situation in this game.

Last but no least for my main reason: Apart from the fact that it seemed kinky it also was a good sign o show my devotion for her and it is a great symbol for our FLR.

 

Because she always wants me in bondage and my steel manacles and the attaching chains weigh nearly 50 lbs. So it’s impractical to wear them out of the house.

 

It turns us both on.

I'm not sure what else to say really.

 

I am not sure, I just know we met on this basis.

When we first met she very intent on keeping me locked, and we did all manner of kinky stuff, then along came menopause and lost interest in anything to do with sex including chastity really. With the help of HRT and female testestorone cream we now have sex pretty regularly about on average 10 days, but its pretty straight forward and doesn't vary. I am not complaining I consider myself lucky. I think me being in chastity makes those encounters so much more valuable

Before this current session we had a long break from chastity, she told me that she did not want to have to think about it. To be fair to her she has a lot on her mind. I at the time explained that it was ok for her just to keep me locked, we didn't have to do all of these things that we used to do, she could just let me out when she felt like more or less traditional sex. We do little things like I like to give her a few moments of bits kissing after her shower, ill get the occasional paddle when I get frustrated And these little things are important.

Which is kinda where we are at now, we talk about stuff but it never seems to happen. We had/have a points system that lasted 6 months and Ill probably never reach the end, I think if she really wanted to do any of those things in the lucky dip it wouldn't take 6 months to get there, so I kinda give up on that. It would be like her doing it for me and I cant have that.

But I think she likes to know its locked. I don't think it actually turns her on. But she does enthusiastically lock me back up by slamming the door on our keylock with a smile, so I like to think I am doing it for her as well as for me.

She has told me we ARE going to start a denial period , as of now....we will see how that goes. Id like to demonstrate by not having orgasms it really is about her. But as one other person said in here maybe she likes me to O when she does. and that is fine too.

I am letting her take the path she wants.

Anyways i answered because it helps improve our relationship and I think it does.