Question for you subs if you have cage off...

Yes.. it works differently for a varied background of people… i was self locking too back in college when it was the time everyone was trying to hook up and trying out with someone else.. i was just trying to look at books instead of porn in that short 3 years..

 

We’ll, I was just unlocked for a few days letting an abrasion heal and I hated being out of the device. I really wasn’t tempted to take advantage because the attraction for me at this point in my life is connected to being locked and has more to do with the brain than the penis. I prefer a good mind fuck I guess.

 

Is your brain hung like a whale? XD

I do get that. Sleeping in the cage makes me horny and excitable, but when not in it... Not so much. I was hoping to get to a point where I wasn't horny at all, but... I think I need a new device, something that doesn't pinch/irritate my skin as much. I think I've got an issue with the steel in my current device, I'm going to try a CK soonish. My truck needs new suspension, first (rusty shocks, little no-no, clunking ball joints, big no-no).

 

Yes, definitely less submissive and less frustrated when unlocked.

I see it as a form of bondage, your most intimate bit locked up and controlled. I feel like it's a constant reminder of my submission to my Goddess. That symbolism does all sorts of crazy to my head.

 

When you wear the cage you have something on you wich is a reminder of the situation, even if you forget it for a while an erection attempt remind you quickly who is the boss.

When you are not caged, my case most of the time as my wife/mistress don't like it, you miss something.
She compensate the cage by making me wear panty, it works quite well in the same way but it is not as powerful as the cage. Both is perfect by the way.

I have been well trained and tamed and my mind is to please her and obey her, so I can stay on honor, but time to time an accident can happen and this can't when caged. The cage is a stronger waranty.
Some men are not that strong and need to cum. Also it could be for a period, after I cum I know I have to pass at least the first week caged, after the desire to cum begging to drop down and it easier to resist.

 

I was in a cage mostly locked for 4 years in my last relationship. When we split up I got rid of the cages. Now I am in a new D/s relationship and ma'am controls when and how I orgasm but we do not use a cage. She asked me to research cages and I sent her the one I would get with the measurements. I do not know if she will get the cage but I think she will - that is my hunch. She loves PIV so if we start using a cage I don't think it will be 24/7 which is ok because I do not miss being woken up by caged-attempted erections. I did feel more subby when caged and yern for that feeling again, but also being devoted
to pleasing ma'am has been so
wonderful - she gives me so much attention and instruction, that I don't need a cage to follow her rules and fancies honorably. But I do miss the feeling of constant arousal that comes with wearing a cage.

 

it doesn't make me feel less submissive, in fact, i miss it when i can not wear my cage. The cage is just a symbol, sumbissiveness is in the mind, so if your sub is showing less submissiveness, it is the mind You need to focus on and let him know and feel that he is nothing but your sub, inferior to You

 

I've mentioned before the 100 day locked/denied challenge that convinced my KH she didn't need to feel guilty about keeping me locked, but about four months later we stumbled into another experiment.

She unlocked me for a quick holiday, and when we returned I didn't lock back up as usual. Instead I focused on being 'normal', with lots of PIV and no kink. After about two weeks she told me to put the cage back on because I was just better with the cage and ruined orgasms. I suspect it is the stready attention she receives when I'm kept aroused, but she's never really put it into words.

That was four years ago, and to be honest I was relieved to be back in the cage, but I had always assumed the moment she took me to 24/7 wear would be some dramatic scene oozing with kink and power exchange. Instead she just told me to lock up and I did it. I've since realized this was her 100% comfortable with her dominance, and it marked a turning point in our relationship.

 

To answer your question, yes. Also, i know my Queen would recage me as soon as safe to do so.

 

So for work I have to take it off. Warehouse 3 days a week 12 hours. Can't risk it slipping a bit or pinching me in a weird way and no matter what when you start sweating it will eventually move around a bit. So it comes off right before leaving the house and goes back on as soon as I get home. I don't really believe there is a change other than I just feel terrible that it isn't on. But if I ever have it off for an extended period around the 3rd or 4th day I feel a change. I guess described as not in tune anymore. Idk hard to describe there.

 

Probably an endorphin crash. I get one pretty much as soon as I remove mine, and it takes me 4-10 days to recover, unless I can re-cage.

 

Curious if you've considered a PA? If my wife wanted me to wear 24x7, I'd definitely ask her if I could get one. Seems like much less fuss after things heal up.

 

I have considered it yes. But being a grower I don't know if it would be the better option. I'm also overweight which adds to issues such as the cage being pushed away from my body when I sit due to the pubis area (which also prevents a tighter ring. I tried one a bit smaller and it was cutting off circulation). I have thought about getting/making one of the belts or whatever with clips to hold it against me so that if nothing else I didn't have to worry about slipping out and it falling off.

 

if she unlocks me for any period, i take that as permission for free use

i will typically want sex every day, sometimes multiple times a day, or even just random blowjobs. she’s good with this to a point, at which time she locks me back up

yes, while i’m unlocked, i’m obviously completely different, almost like kind of trying to compensate for the submissiveness i show while caged, to being a fuckin cock hero while uncaged

not a good thing

 

I think that some of the PA options now don't even use a ring ... I'm not an expert though. (I've only ever used ball trap devices.)

 

i feel very insecure if i am not in my cage. Like i am missing part of me.

A PA piercing is so good to secure a cage longterm and i am sure that your sub will appeciate now much more comfortable a cage that uses the piercing to secure is. And very hard to accidently escape it.

 

As a grower I also need a larger base ring that needs a little help staying in place. A simple adjustable paracord waistband allows me to wear 24/7 and be as active as I like (including swimming, exercise, yard work, etc...). It's something you could experiment with cheaply and quickly.

You can find a picture of the setup with the simple sliding knot here (by the way this "adjustable loop" knot is amazing for all sorts of knotty adventures where you want to add or remove slack instantly):
https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?posts/502808/

 

I actually didn't think of using paracord this might would work well.

 

I had my cage off for a few weeks while stretching my PA from 10 ga. to 0 ga. to fit into my new custom made cage. Both my wife and I noticed a dramatic change in my attitude while I was out and swinging free. She made sure to lock me back up ASAP although she said it was worth it to have me locked in a cage that I can’t escape. She has been hiding the key for 7 years and I have no idea where.

 

I've thought of a PA as I'm the kind of person who doesn't want to do things halfway, all the way, or nothing, and I'm finding being caged with the option to pull out the back "if I wanted to" is always there... plays on my mind and I wish I could have better/best security option. Unfortunately, the KH wife loves to give me BJ and has an issue with there being another hole on the end.

Where am I going with this? Well, I too am a grower, a bit overweight, and wear a Bon4 Micro which I find to be the most comfortable and customizable fitting cage I own (also have a CB6000 but plastic traps the urine smell too much). Because I'm always looking and thinking of ideas not to escape, I've tried a couple of homemade belt ideas. The first attempt was to put a nylon belt around the body and attached each loop of the belt to the split ring of the cage; this worked well and not uncomfortable when wearing it all day at work. The only thing peeing was much more difficult, sitting down on the toilet, your belt doesn't let you push your cage down to an angle that looks like it's going to hit the bowl unless your ass is up on the back of the toilet tank (almost ). I've also tried with a light chain and hooked directly to the lock in the front, but the same thing, it's just so hard to pee with the belt locked tight against your body. I jumped onto my mountain bike and went for a 4km ride to work and now I'm healing outside my cage because my balls were chatting against the bottom edge of the cage causing a sore.
I know and have read about everyone talking about honesty and just don't pull out, it's the security and mindset of knowing the options are not there to slip out the back, just the way I'm wired. Removing the belt to pee isn't an option, KH isn't with me, and might as well not wear one if I can just remove it. Hope this helps with attaching a belt to your cage. Any other good ideas would be wonderful to hear.

 

The "adjustable loop" knot can be slid almost instantly to provide a snug fit, or loose to hang low when peeing.

 

If W/we are taking our usual break every month i initially feel relieved but after a couple of days i start to miss my cage. Every once in a while W/we take a longer break from our kink lifestyle and enjoy time together as a “vanilla” couple and don’t even talk about kink. During this time i become accustomed to not being locked but when She says She wants to return to O/our “other lives” i start longing for my cage.

 

I cannot wait to get home and put on my cage. It makes me want to please my wife. I can not wear it at work.

 

My wife and I don't have 24/7/365 D/s relationship. When we do anything kinky we call it "play." That being said, when we play I am in usually chastity and the play can last several weeks during which time it is something like a 24/7 D/s relationship.

My cage gets removed for a couple of reasons outside of regular cleaning. Sometimes, my skin needs a break or needs to heal a little and sometimes chastity isn't what she wants. We occasionally still play without chastity. I think that chastity makes a big difference for both of us. I sometimes feel insecure about my kinks. When I am in chastity I know that she put me in it, likes the things that I like and accepts me. She is not a naturally very dominant person but she often wants to be. It reminds her that she is in control helps her to feel that way.

Edit: my cage is also temporarily removed for some activities that would be unreasonably difficult or even dangerous to attempt in a cage, like certain work outs for example. It definitely is a different feeling being submissive and not being in a cage for me. Not that I feel less submissive outside the cage but I feel like my submission is more welcome while I am wearing it if that makes sense.