No one here needs to be told that chastity is full of surprises. One of the more interesting to me is how important erections can come to be. When I was unchaste the possibility of getting an orgasm influenced most of what I thought or did, sometimes directly, usually indirectly, but the degree of influence was considerable. But now I yearn for, lust after, erections almost as intensely as I did orgasms themselves. And a passion for erections is a lot more practical, more useful, because there are so many more ways to interact with them in a given time. I only have maybe four or five orgasms a year, because once I have one my refractive state lasts for a long time. (It is precisely because they are so important that they need to be spaced out.) But I can be given an erection, deflated, locked back up, and be just as eager for the next erection immediately! And I can get it! Instantly! That can happen ten times a day! Erections have no refractive period! That is a real virtue. So we have used this feature to develop a kind of chastity currency. I have chores which I do without asking, but a couple of times a week one of us -- it could be either of us -- thinks of a task that needs to be done sometime but not right away. Household painting or a complicated cleaning job or landscaping or an errand involving a long drive might be -- and have been -- examples. We put a "price" on that task, defined in terms of an erection. For example, suppose I point out that someone needs to drive somewhere quite a distance away for some reason. I say "I will do it if I can be cage-free for the same length of time as the drive." My KH might say "That's too high. I will accept allowing you to be cafe-free for half an hour but I will agree to rub your cock for one minute during that half hour." I might say, "How about two minutes?" "No. Just one minute is all you get." And I usually accept that. We have a lot of fun with it.
A couple of lessor points: erection currencies are a great way of rewarding effort. When I do things that are on my todo list, and that I would do anyway, I try to find ways to make my performance special in hopes that my KH will decide to give me a little erection reward. And of course when my KH is just feeling generous she will let me free for an hour for no reason at all. It would not be possible to have so many options with orgasms. Perhaps it goes without saying, but when I am uncaged my hands are almost always tied to a neck harness. The only exception is when we share a shower. Both sets of hands are too busy then ...
@Tracker1 we are trying out something similar sort of. I can earn points for footrubs and oral service. I have to at least offer 2x per day and get 1 point daily. We track it in the Obedience app and I have to remind her daily to check or update it (another point to earn or lose). I can trade 2 points for opening the cage, 3 for erection and 7 for a ruined (infinite for cum). As Queen she can add/remove points for whatever reason she chooses. Here's the interesting thing: my Queen refused any such quantitative games at first, but we decided to try it to help her also keep track of punishable behaviors. She suffered a brain injury that impaired her short term memory and would forget to punish me for transgressions. After a while the feelings would add up and she would feel out of control and angry and start a serious fight. So I said: why dont YOU make it MY responsibility to keep track (when instructed) and to remind you to check daily OR ELSE. And she decided I should be able to earn rewards when good. 2 weeks in and she seems to love it. If it stops the fights and helps me be a better person I will love it, too. Lets see if it "sticks" but at least 90% of the effort is on me.
Hey, What kind of things would she have you do? I am offering services to my wife and we're.both short of ideas beyond foot rubs, or service hair brushing etc. Whatever suggestions you have would be great!
Suggestions When your wife gets home from work is there anything that she feels she has to do if so whenever possible and without being prompted anticipate it and do it for her it works for you both... she becomes more relaxed and less tired with more time to think about things and you become less of pest to her and you are more likely to get some recognition/appreciation for the things you have done or at least fuel her desire to keep you locked
We started a points system I have to earn 10000 points and I get to put some treats in a jar and pull one out (she has vetted the treats) Problem is the first 5000 were pretty easy, I am at 6500 now and at this rate it will be next year. Then the points end up being too important and then I get resentful when I think I have made a really super good effort and she doesn't award any. Like the first really nice meal I made her when we started the points system I got 500 points, the next one....ZERO.... I am still hopeful, but probably a bit despondent, especially when most of the treats are to do with giving her oral worship which I haven't been allowed for nearly a year and I kinda figure I should be allowed that anyway. Its not all a bed of roses. Still I do get PIV most weeks, even if it is plain old sex pretty much but its better than a lot of people on here I guess I shoudl be grateful for that.
We did this a few years ago, I really enjoyed it! Got lots more done around the house too. I had a standard list to do every week, clean house, pay bills, shop etc. If I got every single thing done, I got to play that weekend. I could earn more releases, but they were more difficult things to do.
Two among those that work for us are: 1) date night and 2) weekly menu. 1) about twice a month we have date night. This reflects an event that I know she will like -- an event that reflects her interests (not necessarily mine!). I spend a fair amount of time checking out what is happening in our city -- what is happening with art, music, lectures, and other events. When I run across something I think she will like I set up a date night. I no longer tell her what the event is -- so it is something for her to look forward to. 2) every weekend I put together a list of menus with two choices for each dinner in the next week and she chooses what we will have. My choices reflect her interests -- she is a vegetarian, I am not -- and not mine. The only time I get to eat steak now is when she is out of the house.
Those are great ideas, I will utilize them. However, aI was thinking morebon the line of do this and I unlock you, or if you don't don't his you get another week being locked. Fun was my wife can assert control and pull on my puppet strings...... hopefully fun for us both . But, still the dinner date idea has been on my to do list for a while, thanks for the reminder!
My wife works for home and is very territorial about domestic chores. My washing the dishes would piss her off. Unknown this makes little sense. But as a homemaker she takes it as an afront to her homemaking duties, instead of relief. After a lot of fighting we've gotten close to the point where she's accept help in this area, but right now it is sinpley begrudging acceptance not welcome relief. I get mad when she does the kids chores and they skate...So domestic duties wouldn't be it right now. Perhaps later when the training wheels are off.
Lucky dip? What are the treats specifically? One was oral worship( which you said you were denied )....I'm hunting for ideas for the wife.
lol probably a little more than you bargained for but...ill add comments lol This is an exhaustive list. I had to come up with 20...She agreed to all of them but I have to put 10 in the bottle of my choosing Reverse milking release/tease, you decide if I Get to cum or not, if not straight back in cage. (that means I am on me knees and cock is drawn back between my legs) Vaginga licking with cage on, if I cant finish you Then you finish with palm power, punishment with paddle later (palm power is her aggressive vibrator) Strap on spoon with the one you originally bought, I can use palm power to Tease or cum I will ask permission Hands on and off with rope and pulley in the roof You siting on bed on control. U decide if I can get there or not (we have a pulley in roof, rope attached to my wrist, i get to stroke until she pulls on the rope) Hands on and off with rope and pulley You siting on bed on control. With zapper butt plug Rubber washing up gloves either reverse milk Or me on my back you choose. Blue lounge, you sit on my face may or may not Make you want to use palm power, cage stays on whatever (blue lounge is day bed) Blue lounge, you sit on my face may or may not Maybe use palm power, cage off, can stroke you decide if I cum We get to use warmed up little john on you with palm Power me still in cage (little john is a warm able vixskin dildo) I get to try warmed up big john like a real man and Use palm power, me in cage (big john is large vixskin dildo) Use auto stroker and you hold paddle behind me While I use it. You decide if I cum. (auto male masturbator with a motor...feels awesum) Use auto stroker and you hold paddle behind me While I use it. You decide if I cum with butt zapper You let me watch you use palm power or whatever you Like while I am strapped to the blue lounge in cage You let me watch you use palm power or whatever you Like while I am strapped to the blue lounge allowed to stroke, you decide if I cum Use the middle size strap on me with cage off I can stroke, you decide if I cum. Any position you fancy Thin rope around balls tied to back of bed, wearing mitts Use toy of choice right in front of my straining cock, locked or not Thin rope around balls tied to back of bed, allowed to stroke Use toy of choice right in front of my straining cock, you decide if I cum. Green band, allowed to stroke, cut off at point of no return Then cage straight back on. (green band is a castrating elastrator band) Vaginga licking with cage off, if I cant finish you Then you finish with palm power, can stroke but lock back up no cum, other you decide. Supervised crappy orgasm with palm power, cock still in cage Probably more a punishment still it’s a bit of relief
Ah!!!! I see . Treats. I misunderstood. I thought you drew things that if you did you earned points. This is what you spend your points on. Wow, some of those are a bit elaborate..... " Hey mom, why do you have a list on the ceiling?"
yeah, well i was surprised you asked ...it was hard coming up with 20 to put in the bottle that all didnt have to do with licking..lol. Even then when I gave her the printed list, a stern look...."there is a lot of licking on here"
Yeah, I have to admitt. S lot of licking on my list. So what is the list of things that earned you points to get a treat? Ie. " Make wife dinner"
Don't quite know what you mean about the pulley...anyways Don't you have a remote controlled butt plug zapper?....shame on you. Every couple should have one. We work at the same DYI store, and for shits and giggles Ill connect one side to the cage...and she sneaks up and zaps me while i am serving good looking women.
"Hands on and off with rope and pulley in the roof" That's what I referencing. I'll have to check out this zapper plug