Masterbation: Compulsion, Habit or Addiction?

It's a Habit that need to be curtailed, my Wife calls it "the male habit" even though my Wife has her only habits

 

It could be a combination of all 3. Is chastity a way you hope to curb your desires or manage them. I hope you find your answers.

 

I learned about jerking off from my older friend not long after entering puberty. It immediately became a daily habit and i remember being very annoyed on days I could get the privacy. I think from a clinical viewpoint it is a compulsion not an addiction. I think you would need to experience more physical symptoms other than frustration or some discomfort in your testicles. Look forward to seeing other comments.

 

Your case of once per day (at the same time each day, no less) for so many years sounds like a habit. Best of luck breaking it!

 

Very interesting question. I imagine it could be any of the three depending on the person. In my own situation, I masturbated daily at least once and often more, for most of my adult life. Breaks in that pattern only occurred at the start of a new sexual romance, including the first few months of my marriages, or some really bad illness. That is until i became interested in chastity. Even then, i just played with denial, going a few days at most. Then I became more and more entwined in real chastity and experiences masturbation droughts of one month up to two months. I think it prepared me for my current situation where I was able to surrender my ability to choose if or when i could to a stronger person. Hopefully, it will help me be better.

 

For me it started as a habit and then later on became more of an addiction as I associated it with stress relief. That was the hardest part for me when starting chastity if I had a bad or intense day it really made me want to play with myself for those few seconds of relief. 5 years of chastity and I no longer associate with stress relief just purely pleasure when she allows me too. Luckily she’s been very generous lately

 

It's biology and evolution. Males are hard wired to blow their load whenever possible.

 

Hoping to get to this point soon. Masturbation is very much an addiction for me. Chastity does nothing to suppress the urge, but it at least helps redirect my attention/energy toward my wife. The real question becomes what my relationship with porn should be while locked... On one hand, I draw a lot of inspiration from amateur chastity content, but then again, the inability to orgasm means there's no clear point in which to stop watching once I start.

 

If being lying if I said I no longer masturbated or watched porn. It’s fairly rare when it happens but it still does. The difference now is my bad habits is down about 1% of what it used to be. I feel extreme guilt if I go through with watching porn or masturbate so I see that as a good thing. In a way the guilt pretty much makes “being bad” not even worth it because how I feel afterwards. But there is still somewhat of a drive to do those things. But truth be told, porn is way less fun since my mistress is my true reality and the more she’s grown into our lifestyle the more intense she’s become. I find myself fantasizing about her more than ever

 

Having been on both sides of the gender divide, I can say with certainty that masturbation in men is driven primarily by testosterone and the prostate. Testosterone causes the prostate to fill up, and that full prostate feeling drives a need to relieve it.

Masturbation for me stopped being appealing when I started transitioning with HRT. As my testosterone dropped, and my prostate function started to disappear, desire for masturbation went away.

This was the reason I stopped with the chastity device. It just seemed obsolete. That need to relieve myself was gone, and erectile function was, too.

Your brain really is fighting with you to get you to masturbate. Your brain gets the signal that your prostate is full and it triggers hormonal and glandular processes designed to get you to expel the fluid. This is why controlling a man's sexual activities is such a powerful tool for controlling the man in other areas of life.

 

I don't wear a cage and I don't watch porn or masturbate. The desire to masturbate has all but gone. Other areas of my body however have become sensitive even erogenous, especially my breasts. They feel so good. And I say this as someone who is normally reluctant to enter chastity. But this time round I've excepted it, I know my place now. My Wife has won.

 

Nearly all males learn masturbating feels good and do it often when they are young. Problem is, after they are married, they want to continue even if they are having sex with their wife. It is defintely a habit and has do with your brain chemicals. The prostate fills full within hours or a few days after ejaculating. This signals your brain to want to release that feeling, but you don't really have to. The thing I learned from chastity is, don't masturbate for relaxation or stress relieve. Orgasms should be used when you are truly horny. Your brain releases dopamine when you masturbate and almost gets addictive I think. If you are locked up, you get a different kind of high after a few days.

 

agree here! And just to add, you can get addicted to the release of endorphins on orgasm.

 

Hah, a subject on which I am something of an expert! For me, at least, it's both a cumpulsion [sic] and an addiction. As @Shepherdsflock teaches, I'm confident that our prostates compel us to empty them, but that's so subliminal -- and they're only full after several days -- that it can't be the reason so many of us masturbate daily or even more often. Mere habit is also an insufficient reason given the chemical rush involved, it seems pretty clear we're looking for that chemical. Thus, for many of us it becomes an addiction, an addiction to the dopamine rush. Chemically, though, orgasm crushes the warm buildup of oxytocin, the "cuddle hormone," and releases that nasty prolactin hormone that tells us we're done and starts the depressing refractory period. The fastest way to get out of the prolactin depression is to get more dopamine by masturbating again. And on and on it goes.

Chasity breaks that cycle. Now the oxytocin is building up, which is why so many of us get into that nice warm space with our keyholders. Chasity doesn't suppress the desire to masturbate, but it gives us that extra piece of willpower to let that impulse abate. For me, as @HisFreakySide also finds, chastity actually enables or facilitates porn usage because that former prolactin-enforced endpoint of cumming doesn't exist. I want to masturbate several times a day, but I submit to the cage, I submit to the knowledge that masturbating isn't good for my marital intimacy, and I submit to the knowledge that @Wonderwomanssub has recognized -- that I'll just feel like a guilty masturbator for short-cutting the chastity cage system we have in place.

Why some men become addicted while others don't, I think, is a matter of psychology. I'm no psychiatrist, but I suspect there's a deep narcissism among masturbators, a love of their penises and erections. And perhaps a hole also, a love hole that we're filling with erections and fantasies and semen.

Of course, for masturbators like me the chasity cage system has to remain in place. If she takes the cage off or doesn't require it to go back on, I will be masturbating furiously the next couple of days, so happy to have erections again and to be able to cum at will again. This is part of how I know it's an addiction. It's a little like alcoholism -- a recovering alcoholic should stay out of saloons. And a recovering masturbator should stay in his chastity cage and stay away from erections.

 

Well said

 

Wow, this is right on the money. I got addicted to porn and masturbating in a sexless marriage. If we had known about make chastity, maybe we'd still be married. I'm glad we didn't, I'm happier now with my current Mistress/KH/GF (@Destiny103181). She is helping me break my addiction, and have a little fun doing it, who knew we loved tease and denial so much!!

I now feel aroused almost all the time where before I was only aroused for short periods of time while watching porn and jacking off. Chastity is much better!!

 

The system double posted my response

 

Masturbation can also be a submissive, humiliating instruction. My wife would give me a weekly maintenance discipline caning after which I had to kneel in front of her and bring myself off. This was the only release I was allowed, PIV sex was not permitted and she never used her own hand to give me release.

 

There is certainly a psychological and behavioral part to masturbation addiction, but remove testosterone and within a few months you will hardly even think about it.

 

Very well said! You are exactly right with the brain chemicals. In chastity, we keep the oxytocin going and not the prolactin. I have read where women have the same process, but they recover very quickly after orgasm, but men can take many hours or even several days.

 

Masturbation and especially in combination with Porn is addictive as hell.
The whole porn thing is a very recent problem, and when it started nobody knew the consequences until it was too late, but know we know the effect of porn on the male brain a lot better, it's the same as it was with cigarettes back in those days.
Porn is a key substance to this addiction, Its like a bug being attracted to light, It's overstimulating and the brain cannot find anything to match that stimuli.
If Porn is in the picture than quitting it will most likely be a difficult way to go, this is not just a bad habit, it's an actual addiction.

If it's just masturbation than you probably only messing with the dopamine systems by overdoing it, your brain is conditioned to get that dose of dopamine every X time, it should be easier to quit.

 

Have you been successful at overcoming the habit and addiction?

 

If you read Cupid's Poisoned Arrow, or Dopamine Nation, you'll know it's an addiction and a habit.

Something to default to that doesn't require any braincells to be involved.

It's just a mindless way to make you feel better.

The craving that you feel as you are trying to sleep will pass, if you don't give in.

Training yourself out of a 30 year habit is going to be difficult.

Do a search for "nofap" as there is lots of advice for countermeasures to the urge to masturbate.