No orgasm in a month

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    I have gone without an orgasm for a month. My last time was the 12th of July. I have just had the most incredible week of messaging with a man who crossdresses. In that week, in his female persona he mastered and dominated me. And i loved it. Absolutely loved it. She unearthed my desire to be submissive and locked. My cage arrived. My sexual feelings are at an all time high. I don't want to cum. My imagination is so erotic right now anyone could have me if they knew it. I have discovered I'm major attracted to crossdressers and being dominated. I love the thought of being dressed in panties and having a cock deep inside me. These feeling are new to me.
    I have to shave and upload photos yet. I'm so looking forward to it but it will have to wait. My wife is at home all the time for the moment so a few days more at least.
    I feel once I upload even two photos I will properly belong with this group. And I know that is what I want.
    :love::love:
     
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    Congratulations I think
     
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    I love the 'I think' bit. yes, what do you do?:+1:
     
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    I have been kept denied for 6 weeks now. If not in a chastity cage I have a slave disc on my penis held on by my PA. Mistress did order a Kali’s teeth she says i will be wearing a lot
     
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    A slave disk?

    Could you explain? I never heard about this.
     
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    I have never heard of a slave disc either. But you sound like you are very happy
     
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    It is a dog tag with who owns the property
     
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    @Anthony lee I am not sure if I am reading this right… but it sounds like you are about to blow your whole marriage up…
     
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    Nice. Lovely idea
     
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    No...she has lost interest. medical issues. I entered voluntary chastity to stop excessive masturbation. I have an addictive personality. It is best I keep in firmly under control.
     
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    This was the exact thought I had.

    To the poster I seen you replied "NO, she lost interest." Due to medical issues? Not asking the issue but medical issue doesn't mean she lost the desire to be intimate with you. I am an outsiders so I may be wrong.

    Is your wife completely aware of what you are doing? It seems not when you say your wife is home so you can't post pictures. Just curious?
     
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    No, she doesn't know. This is a kind of a solo run :) I'm becoming very feminine and submissive and want to try this lifestyle. I don't think she'd understand. I'm a much different person that years ago. I have strong submissive desires and want domination and chastity. Hopefully I can find it with a like minded sole. I'm also experimenting with crossdressing.
     
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    Disappointed!!! I don't appreciate your associating the community with cheating. The most important part of living this life style is honesty and open communication with all parties. For example the woman you married! YOU Made a promise when you married HER.
    How can you presume what she will think and feel without communication. Saying she won't understand is a justification to do as you please. If that is the case then why waste her time. She deserves to be married to a man not someone as pathetic as you.
     
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    Okay, I might have sounded like I didn't care. Or that I was taking it like a joke, which is not the case. It's a big risk. We have been together over thirty years. But I'm in a sexless marriage now for a long time. So I guess I'm looking for some way to vent my own sexual desires without hurting her. I have tried to talk to her. But not about actual chastity or getting a cage which i did get.
     
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    Hi Pixie_Nyx,
    Thanks for your comment. Just to say, I wasn't associating the community with cheating. I've read a few posts where men are practising chastity and struggling about how to bring it up to their wives or SO's. I love my wife. But this is not an easy subject to bring up. I'm here to try and deal with all this. Hope you understand my motivations better now.
     
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    Ok, so you are practising chastity for someone who crossdresses amd dominates you online and not your wife who may not be into this lifestyle.. ok, interesting. So is it called closetted chaste man?
     
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    .When you put it like that, I may have to revaluate my prioritieso_O
     
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    I think you need to have a talk with your wife about it all.
     
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    I'll need a drink first. A lot of drink. But yes, you're right
     
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    I would stop everything you are doing, and talk to her... Lying is never a good option, but I would act like none of this has ever happened yet. This is a mess...
     
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    "I'll need a drink first. A lot of drink."

    What you need to do is akin to coming out as gay. The advice is to not come out when people are angry, but in a positive moment. Be sober. Be fully honest including that you wish she'd be able and willing to participate. Your chastity means you're not having sex. You said that your wife cannot have sex (there's no need to go into details). Why not include your wife in this nonsexual activity of yours? You could explore intimacy of a different kind.

    Also make dinner, do the dishes, and rub her feet. That might be a good time to offer her your keys.
     
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    No, I promise she won't. Infidelity ends marriages all the time. Even marriages that have been around for 30+ years. Telling her how you feel about your needs not being met and maybe employing the assistance of a marriage counselor would have been better actions to take than having an affair with someone else behind her back.

    You've gotten yourself into a very precarious situation. If any news of this reaches her, you might deeply regret having done this.
     
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    i dunno what the solution is… but it isn’t what he is doing now…
     
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    Well I havr to say that I also played solo for several years. Also phantasies with anal stimulation, cross dressers and other "pervy" stuff.
    I had a small affair with a woman I really fell in love with.
    I did this all without the knowing of my wife.

    I once talked to her about anal stimulation - she discredited this as pervy and insane.

    The big bang almost broke up my marriage, broke my affaire, my heart ( I never felt that bad in my life ).

    And at the end it showed, that my wife didnt enjoy usual sex with me anymore.
    On the one hand, because I was a bad Lover and on the othet hand because we both didnt knew about how we could arrange with her loss in the interest if PiV Sex.

    Since I came out with my desires she got more and more attracted to BDSM play and how to play in a non PiV play.

    And I can tell you... There is much more than chastityplay and PIV-sex out there.

    Give her the opportu ity to be your mistress and she wil love it.

    And you too. J
     
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    Servus, this is interesting. I'm not actually having an affair with anyone. But the rest, I have looked into everything. I get that is dangerous to a marriage. I'll try and come around to giving her the opportunity to have some control in this. I have mentioned I was looking up 'men in our situation', Just have to get the mood right. Thank you for sharing your experience with me. I'd Love to get to a situation similar to yours
     
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