I'm not a real sub because I don't like chastity at all; or am I because if a mistress orders me to go, I go to chastity? To sub or not to sub, this is the problem. In my case chastity is used as self chastity because I have a chronic masturbation problem that I try to contain. So I decide how and when to enter chastity and when to get out. Of course I would like a mistress to decide, but who assures me that she would then let me free? In truth, for contingent reasons, I have already used the drill to break several padlocks. So if he closed me for life I could always break the lock. But if I decide not to use force against the lock but rhetoric towards the mistress; it is not said that I would be able to free myself. Submissive, sub, slave, loser, beta, sissy. So many names and I don't like even one. What is the name of someone who would like not to want? I can't even call myself undecided because I know that's what I am. It is not my fault that what I am has no name. Perhaps I could call myself an "obedient", but with nothing to obey. What is chastity used for? Just to punish? Have a nice weekend! Saluti, Luca.
Hmmm. 1) Chronic masturbation. If it doesn’t keep you from going to work or making love to your wife, I don’t see this as a problem. 2) Do you need a label? 3) Are you not a human being? 5) A chastity device is a piece of bondage gear, to use how you wish just like any other piece of gear. Including as a paper weight. Your welcome.
I self lock for better orgasms. Getting aroused while locked puts a strain on my dick that makes me even more aroused. i do masturbate a lot and it’s giving me shoulder problems…. I get around by massaging the the sides of my locked dick. Index and middle finger on each side. And I press in the root of my penis. Sublime feeling. Other sensations. Better ones. i think you like a challenge and you are bored with conventional sex. Just go with it. I’m not a sub either. I understand. No la les for me. Just great arousal and sex.
Even though the I love the thought of being caged and denied orgasm, I will jerk off the first chance I get. The cage goes back on within hours of it coming off. Otherwise, when the Mrs is ready for sex, I won't be.
Chastity is whatever you want it to be. There is no “real” of anything in BDSM. You can call yourself whatever you want. Why is the need to give yourself a name or be something or someone… If you dont want to masturbate get a PA ring or but yourself a full metal chastity belt. If you cant do any of those then enjoy every moment of it. At the end chastity is created to make people happy.
Ciao, amico mio. I'm the same, I'm not particularly submissive. I don't enjoy chastity. But there are still benefits to be gained. Like controlling masturbation. In that sense it acts like a buddy system. Additionally, volunteering to submit to my wife, even if we both know I can break the device, even if we both know I'm not submissive in any other way, just that act of volunteering is a gift to her that helps build closeness and trust. I'm giving up something for her. I don't know what I'd call it. But that's how I think about it. I'm choosing to give up control to my wife for our mutual benefit.
I use chastity for more than une purpose. 1. Security-It keeps him faithful even when he's had a few. 2. Security-Husband's not allowed to play with My Property. Only I'm allowed to play with it. 3. Discipline-When husband disobeys me, there are consequences. 4. Enforcing My Authority-If I say he's in chastity, he's locked up. I don't have to give him a reason.