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    #1 Andrea_NL, Apr 3, 2022
    My wife informed me yesterday that she thaught about what happened the last time when she rode the top of the penis. Even if it was only inside her 2 or 3 cm I came like I told you.

    she now told me that even we are quit now, it has made something with her. It was like a temporary lose of controll that she has over me. For her this is not acceptable. She didn’t want to have real piv sex with me, she only wanted me to feel her dominance and to accept that I can not have what I want so badly even if it is this close or allready on top of it.

    So she informed me about that it was the last time I got this close with the penis to her vagina. For her it is a to great risk, especially cause she doesn’t want to have children at the moment and doesn‘t prevent…also she told me again that she never ever had an orgasm when we had piv and that she sees no reason why she should do something that doesn’t feel good for her.

    I am very sad abour her decision and told her about it. Even if it is many month ago when she last time rode the penis I still had hope that this would happen again somedays. She understood that I am not happy about her decision and told me she would try to help me to accept it. Even now more intimacy with her would happen because she now feels save and free and doesn’t need to wonder about my not fullfilled expectations anymore as she told me.

    Who of you lives without piv? How do you deal with it? Have you accepted it? Do you miss to have regular sex?
     
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    #2 madams-sissysub, Apr 3, 2022
    No piv for me, I think it was easier for me to deal with as madam and I have always been in a bdsm/flr relationship and also I was never really any good at it. I have accepted it, as it’s been several years now. I do still miss it at every now and again, but as it was never that regular it’s not a big deal to me.
     
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    #3 Dr MBogo, Apr 3, 2022
    When my wife and I decided that I would go into chastity, and she would the key, part of the agreement was no more PIV. She hadn't enjoyed it in sometime, and so I agreed. That's been over 5 years now. I doubt we'll ever go back.
     
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    #4 Lazlo Toth, Apr 3, 2022
    You are far from alone. My wife might feel similarly to yours. She feels that it's inappropriate for chaste men to be inside of women's vaginas--either hers, or others.
     
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    #5 Surrendered, Apr 4, 2022
    You are not alone. I am PIV free for over the last two years. I can not get full hard but 3/4 erect.. Wife said I should not take anything to help with erections and that I should remain PIV free forever.
     
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    #6 starflyer, Apr 4, 2022
    No PIV for me for over a year now, i miss it, but wifey is just satisfied with my tongue and her wand
     
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    #7 SlaveBoy73, Apr 4, 2022
    I have been denied penetrative sex for several years now.

    I’m not locked atm but she told me last week that she does have control over my joy so not even to expect to cum any time soon.

    She knows when I cum I lose focus on her so she will probably be denying me longer and longer.
     
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    #8 BlokeDenied, Apr 4, 2022
    I dread the coming of this day for me.
     
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    #9 DonnaSue, Apr 4, 2022
    It's been over 3 years without PIV or even orgasms for me. She does milk me and peg me periodically, but I don;t even think about orgasms of PIV sex any more!
     
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    #10 mcfeely, Apr 5, 2022
    leave her. Find a real woman, not a #$@%&
     
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    #11 Chili-boy, Apr 5, 2022
    My wife/mistress has said she doesn’t really enjoy PIV that much and prefers the intensity of lock-up. She said that she is not bothered as I hold a rabbit inside her whilst she has her want. With a finger gently inserted in her rear, she cums time and time again. I am not allowed out except for flying where I swap to a plastic one and an occasional milking.. if it’s a choose between PIV and fort and body massage, endles orgasms for her and total workshop for me, it’s only going to go one way.
     
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    #12 subhubandy, Apr 5, 2022
    Maybe a fleshlite would help.
     
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    #13 Deleted member 40459, Apr 5, 2022
    I have a fleshlight that I use while I watch as her bf makes love to her. I time my strokes with his thrusts so I can pretend it's me going inside of her.
     
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    #14 true42, Apr 5, 2022
    That's not very nice.
     
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    #15 true42, Apr 5, 2022
    Still a good amount of PIV here. Of course, much less than when I was running the show (I required it daily). But I can't complain.

    I would have a tough time dealing with zero. Being cut off. It's hard to say how I would deal with that.

    It is now completely within her control, so in a way I'm just glad she still enjoys and wants it. Because if she did decide that, then that would be that. She decides; I obey.
     
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    #16 Byron2002, Apr 5, 2022
    I think my PIV days may be over too. Not sure
    Over the past few years, sex with the wife has been more sporadic... about 3 or 4 times a year.
    Late last year, I told he her that I did not want to pressure her. For my bday last year (November) I actually sent her an email telling her I knew she always felt obligated to have PIV on my bday but I was OK if that wasn't the case.
    On my bday I got a handjob. That was also the last time she touched my penis.
    I introduced chastity into our relationship.
    For the last several months, our sex involves me given her oral sex and using a dildo but no need of reciprocation form her part... I Love it.
     
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    #17 Jail Bird, Apr 5, 2022
    Good for you. It's all our wives now that we're locked up. Providing her with good oral skills and a dildo like many of us is the new normal.
    This is what we asked for
     
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    #18 Jail Bird, Apr 5, 2022
    Same here. Tongue and Magic Wand. That thing is awesome
     
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    #19 Doczilla421, Apr 5, 2022
    I haven't had piv for over 4 years. My last orgasm was July 31st 2018 and it was a ruined one. I'm permanently locked and not allowed anything. I don't like it but I haven't a choice. She has the keys, I think, and she will not unlock me.
    We actually had a conversation about me being unlocked today and she said there was absolutely no way she would unlock me. Permanent is permanent period.
    Good luck with your permanent lock up. It's a struggle each day.
     
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    #20 archie, Apr 6, 2022
    to me, the above is very depressing. my wife and i have a nice sex life, and do lots of things mainstream or vanilla couples don’t necessarily do.

    i like PIV, i like blowjobs. me popping on a cage and tossing her the key does not change that.

    what did change is my access to my cock, and by extension, the granting of my own orgasms.

    so, she holds they key and decides when and how to use her cock. it might be 3 days in chastity, then out for some PIV or something else (she likes to watch me jerk off, for example), then right back in. it might be a week, or a month. i don’t count days, and i don’t care. while i’m locked, i’m as attentive to her as i’ve always been, and she is wonderful to me. all in all we’re both very satisfied, and i’ve not been stripped of those things that are important to me. if this ever devolves into No more PIV or blowies for you, then i’m out, figuratively and literally
     
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    #21 archie, Apr 6, 2022
    to me, the above is very depressing. my wife and i have a nice sex life, and do lots of things mainstream or vanilla couples don’t necessarily do.

    i like PIV, i like blowjobs. me popping on a cage and tossing her the key does not change that.

    what did change is my access to my cock, and by extension, the granting of my own orgasms.

    so, she holds they key and decides when and how to use her cock. it might be 3 days in chastity, then out for some PIV or something else (she likes to watch me jerk off, for example), then right back in. it might be a week, or a month. i don’t count days, and i don’t care. while i’m locked, i’m as attentive to her as i’ve always been, and she is wonderful to me. all in all we’re both very satisfied, and i’ve not been stripped of those things that are important to me. if this ever devolves into No more PIV or blowies for you, then i’m out, figuratively and literally
     
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    #22 Mario188, Apr 6, 2022
    You should stand up for yourself,if not having PIV makes you sad what is the fun in that!!
     
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    #23 locked_top, Apr 8, 2022
    I think the reason why is important.
     
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    #24 archie, Apr 8, 2022
    not sure what you mean?
     
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    #25 nbto962, Apr 8, 2022
    I don't think we had PIV this year. It's much easier for her to cum with a toy so PIV would just be a waste of time for her.

    I'm don't feel like im missing out though. I'm still allowed to stick my penis into a fleshlight and there's no pressure to be "good at sex". I'm free to let myself go and cum as quickly as I want sometimes even before I take my underpants off.
    It feels really good in the moment but I'm not sure whether she'll ever allow for me to penetrate her after seeing me be so pathetic.
     
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