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    First let me start of with a little back round. About 5 years ago I was talking to my wife to try and spice things up in are sex life. I get her a toy and she gets me a toy. And we give to each other at the same time. I know it’s corny right. But we wear only having sex once every 3 -4 months.

    I’m a very horny person I like sex a lot. So I would masterbate like every day. But would not be satisfied. I needed sex or even the feel of her hand. Never told her I masterbate that much. So that’s wear the talk came in about the Toy’s. I thought it would be a good idea. But took her like 3 months to decide on a toy. She handed me a rubber pussy stroker. When I asked what took so long deciding. That’s when she said I was thinking of a cock cage. Dum me had no idea what it was. So I started looking them up and next thing I know I can’t stop looking at them. Even masterbating to videos. So I researched and researched till. I found one that we might like. Showed her and orderd.

    I used for a little while but never stayed on longer the a week. I thought that was good. But of course I broke it cause it was rubber. Plus was easy to get out jerk off and put back in. So I found a plastic one. First one my erections split the plastic so I had to brake it off. But only lasted two weeks in it. Ended up getting another plastic cage cause was under warranty. Same thing happened after a few days. So both times I had to take it off and heal from the pinch marks.

    She was done with cages. But me not so much. The whole time I was reading and reading about them all kindes of cages. Was looking at belts. That’s when I found and decided on a metal cage. So I showed her. She said no you are to big for a cage. I’m 7 inches when fully hard. Before you say ya right. She measured it. I ended up ordering a metal cage even tho she said no. She was mad for a little while. But once I got it on she was happy with it. So was I to be honest. But of course that didn’t last long. Cause it was a cheap solid metal cage. Ended up sour and smell. Yes I clean every day with water when I showered and used Q-tips. But didn’t help. So that cage was a waste. Of course I couldn’t stop. So found my next one. Metal ring that I could see throw and clean better. That to gave me a sore spot. I couldn’t go a month with wearing one with out something. Plus life happed so we stopped for a few years.

    Now hear I am got another cage. Thought if this don’t work I’m done I spent to much money on junk. I know I was getting the cheap ones. But didn’t have a lot of money to spend on expensive ones. So did what I could. So we stopped for a few years. Yes started masterbating again and sex life went back to normal once every 3-4 months.

    So hear I am now. I’m caged in my new one again. It’s open so can clean every day. Very good no smell no sore spots yet. Been about 3 months and looks like it’s going to keep going. When we started this time she would tease me then release me every week to let me cum. But that lasted a month. She went to every 2 weeks and that lasted a month but no teasing now this month going on three weeks no teasing and only being let out once a week to clean and shave then back in my cage. Or should I say her cage.

    As of today was let out for the night. She didn’t tease or let me touch myself. Said if I did then I would be locked for two months with not even being allowed out to clean and shave. I would have to wait two months just to be touched.

    God I love this mistress/ wife/ woman.
    Sorry for talking so long and not sure if belongs hear. Thank you for reading.
     
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    Well she has been playing with my nipples the last few days. Trying to figure out if she is getting horny her self or just wants to make me frustrated. Still trying to please just her but so far it’s a no go. What to do what to do.
     
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    Well happy 4’th to me. She said I go to quick so why go in her. When I would just enter and have to stop. Since I go quick I might as well just cum and call it a day.

    Man I just want to last long and please her. Guess could say my goal is to please her and not go myself and have her say lock it up. Man that would be nice. Wounder if it will ever happen. Some times when she is rubbing me. Part of me wants her to stop before I get there and tell me to put it back on. I know it’s a dream for lots.

    I will just keep writing in this journal. And read it some day again and comments. If I get any.
     
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    I have asked a lot about going down on her. She just laughed it off. I love eating her pussy. Did a few times. But right before she cums she wants me inside her. But only happened a handful of times in 22years. I have thought about a strap on even got one. But each time I say about using on her or even her using on me she just rolls her eyes. There are a lot of things I would love to try but she is more vanilla about it all. Slowly trying to get her to take charge. Aleast this time she has keys and hid them. It’s definitely a very slow process.
     
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    Well talked to her last night again and she’s on board for the 1000 stroke challenge. I know that’s going to make me very sexually frustrating. But again that is what it’s for. The more I’m locked the more I like being teased and not being let out. Some times I like watching porn just for the tease. It’s even better just mowing that I can rub myself throw cage and not be able to cum at all. So hear is what we talked about last night. 100 strokes per day for 10 days. I can do it with or with out cage on her choice. Plus I can do it or she can. I must not cum. Witch is pretty much how it goes. One lsat thing she tells me when to start it. But that’s the norm.
     
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    Sounds like you are on your way to a fun life of control please continue to keep us posted
     
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    It's tough not to reach orgasm nearly straight away when locked for a while. My wife quite liked that now.
     
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    Been having a the same dream lately. Maybe I should put it on heat and see what people think.
     
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    A little update. She hasn’t really been doing much to me. That is ok. It’s all about her. I rub her back every night. All can do is think is she going to touch me tease me or anything. But nope she never does. She came home a little tipsy the other night. When she gets that way she gets horny. But I was shocked that she never even touched me. Not sure if she played with herself or not.

    Now I have been watching porn just to get aroused. I like the feeling of my sorry her cock getting hard. Just makes me feel alive. Not sure if it’s a bad thing or not. Plus on hear a lot reading other experience or even looking at pics. When I’m caged I find a lot of things that get me excited. I never thought it would. Plus I find a lot of new things that I want to try. Such as pegging and I am feeling now that I really want her to show me to someone. Even have a dream almost nightly.
     
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    You can achieve what you want by doing one thing. Forget about your orgasms and concentrate on hers.

    Learn to give her good oral. If you go down on her, then you don't need to be unlocked. If you're unlocked, always give her a couple of orgasms by oral first before either of you go anywhere near your penis. If she's continually getting satisfaction from you going down on her, you don't even have to cum.
    It sounds weird before you've experienced it, but once you stop having orgasms yourself, instead of getting that cycle of hormones building up that make you feel good followed by the lows and non-interest after you've had an orgasm, you end up in a continuously high happy state, not needing orgasms.
     
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    I have tried to just go down on her and even just use my hands on her. I even said don’t unlock me let me please you. Not sure why but she just won’t let me. She says she loves the idea me being locked and loves controlling my orgasams. Before the cage we had sex once every 3-4 months. I even suggested doing the 1000 stroke challenge but has yet told me to start. So not sure what else to do. Cause don’t want to upset her and get more lock up time. Or maybe I should just try and if I get more time then so be it.
     
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    What you can also do, is instead of waiting for her to ask/tell you to lock up, is to just put your cage on yourself. First thing in the morning is a good time, put the cage on and present her with the key to click the lock shut and keep the key. If she has control over when you're unlocked, she's not going to worry about you wearing the cage when sex isn't imminent. That way you change wearing it to being your default normal.

    That way you can move from being chaste as part of sex (ie only initiated by her when she's thinking about sex) to being chaste as part of not having sex, (ie initiated by you, or her) when you're not going to have sex anyway)
     
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    I have cage on now and she does have key. She lets me out once a week to clean and shave then I put it back on and she locks it. She has the key as well. When I get to that point that I’m horny she would tell me to take it off after she unlocked and please me she don’t want anything cause I go to fast with using cage. I’m now finishing up week 3 with no orgasam. Am I horny yes but not saying anything to her to see how long I can go and see how long she goes. She says she’s into it. But not really the way I was hoping. thanks for help and advice
     
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    Yes, I think many men get that frustration when their keyholder seems to take their time, or not even be considering whatever new thing you're trying to introduce. Be patient, unless you've had an emphatic rejection of something, let them take their time, often they're just "waiting for the right moment".

    If she says she's "into it", then let that make you happy, and let her develop at her own speed.
    What I did was treat that frustration as a trial, her testing me to see if I would continue being good to her while she kept me caged, and the introduction of any "new thing" would be my eventual reward if I continued being good to her. Most women don't forget when you ask them to do something for you, but you have to make sure you're giving her something for it first. That helped me to stop topping from the bottom. If you do that, then she'll have the space to start "topping from the top"!

    It takes between two to three weeks for your happy hormones to settle down to a consistent "moderately high" level after an orgasm. Once you get past that stage, while the sexual arousal doesn't go away, you'll find that you need actual orgasms less, and you'll maintain that 'happy state' continuously.

    But yes, it all takes time and patience.
     
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    This is my dream. Have to put in two or three parts. Not sure what it means if anything.

    We head out have no idea wear we are going cause it’s a surprise. We get to this restaurant wear we sit down and I start to feel a buzz going on in my ass. Made me jump a little. She’s sitting there playing on her phone making me squirm. Then this couple comes over that I have never seen before. She says hi and they sit down with us. She introduces me and says watch him I will be back. Then I feel the buzzing going up and down I look and her phone is sitting on the table. The girl is smiling at me and says how you doing over there. Says come closer I can’t hear you so I slide closer and so does she. That’s when my kh comes back. I can feel the buzz going all over the place and both are on there phones. That’s when I look and noticed my kh was wearing the key to her chastity was around her neck. I turned and looked and the other girl is wearing a key also. He smiles and nodded at me. Seen him jump a little as well and starts to smile. The waiter brings us a few drinks and some appetizers and ask if we would like anything else. That’s when my kh said no he’s full already as they both laugh.
     
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    We are having are drinks and I feel a hand on my leg. As it’s slowly working it’s way from my knee up I go to take another drink then feel another hand on my leg. I look to see both kh are rubbing my legs and rubbing the cage. I tell her I can’t take it between the plug and both rubbing the cage. I might explode. She says you better not. They stop for a little bit. I start to calm down. After a few drinks we leave I’m made to go with the other kh as he is made to go with my kh. Both have fun playing with are plugs and rubbing are cages. I tell the other key holder I’m getting close to cumming. She says you better not but still plays with plug and keeps rubbing cage. I’m getting so close I ask to please stop she’s says nope and you better not cum. Some how I hold it back.

    We finally get to a house. We all go in and there is more people there. My kh looks at me and says. You having fun yet it’s about to get better. That’s when I look around better and notice all the guys have on nothing but cages and the kh have on night gowns or just bras and panties. She says strip slave. So I do and can feel everyone starring at me. Some even said nice panties. Kh says aren’t you going to say thank you. So I do. One says leave them on I want to see better. So I do she comes over touching and feeling them and I can feel the plug start vibrating again. She says ok now you can take them off.
     
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    Another kh comes over and ask my kh if she can take me for a few minutes. So I follow her the whole time I can still feel the buzzing going on. I’m told I have to serve her. So I start by sucking on her nipples and fondle them the I go down on her and start licking her guess I’m doing good cause she squirts in my mouth really quick. She says dam your good. I head back out and my kh is no wear to be seen. Another kh comes up and says my turn. So I follow her and do the same thing but she takes a little while to reach orgasam. She says I like you. Gives the cage a good tug and leaves. This happens all night till my kh comes and says ok your the last one. So she takes me and I start to suck on her nipples and play with her tits and rub her pussy. It’s really wet so is her panties. They are drenched. She asked me to stop after I made her cum like 3 times and she reaches to grab my cage and unlocked it. Says I want you inside me. But keep plug in. I managed to fuck her for awhile till I said I’m close that’s when she turns the plug on and I explode inside her. She looks at me and says time to clean up your mess and put cage back on. We head back out put clothes back on and asked by everyone if we would be back. She said most definitely. They said good can’t wait.

    This is just the type of ideas that run throw my head. Not sure if I could ever do that cause I can’t handle someone else being with her.
     
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    Wow last night was great. She said she might let me out if I was good. I said how about this. You deny me and I use the cock sleave on you. This way I can please you. Well she said we can use it. But how she moved it trying to stroke it. I cummed in the sleave and she cummed on it. She liked it and wants to try it again. Might get the hang of it. But fun night.
     
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    After that night using the sleeve. That’s all I’m thinking about. Want to use again on her. Would love to use and not cum at all. Even looking up ways to not cum in it.
     
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    Kh told me last night that shorten ways I move you can see out line of cage. Now wants me to find a new one. I asked if she wants me to just take it off and her reply was nope. Think she getting more into it. But wants me to find a soled one that can’t really see the outline. So been looking for a cage that is easy to clean throw the week. Cause let out every weekend to clean and shave of course put right back in.

    I have tried plastic one but I split two of them in half and started to pinch me. I even tried a rubber one and ended up breaking the ring. All of this is throw teasing and from morning wood. Not saying I’m hung like horse cause I know I’m not. I’m pathetic little slave.

    was looking for some help finding a new cage if you look at pictures I posted before you can see the one I have on now. Just looking for advice. Thank you before hand if you reply to this.
     
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    Maybe you should look for a cage with a more pronounced downward curve.
     
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    Whether the cage is solid or wired won't make much difference to the outline, but the thing is, you and your partner both know you're wearing a cage, other people will have no idea unless you're wearing very thin and tight trousers, and even then, other people just don't stare at your crotch! You're both far more conscious that you have something to hide down there than anyone else ever will be.

    To minimise the outline, based on what you're currently wearing, do two things...

    - Get a cage with an integrated lock, having the old style padlock on the top of the cage adds considerably to the bulk. The integrated lock disappears next to your groin.

    - Get a shorter cage. It doesn't matter how long you think you are, penises are happily compressed end to end, and most men can compress their penis right back on itself until it disappears inside their groin. No, I didn't believe it either until I did it. Your 17 June 2021 photo confirms that you can easily fit in a device half the length of the one you have. If it can shrink that short once, it can always be persuaded to shrink that short.

    Do both of the above and the style of the cage doesn't matter so much, a solid one will protrude just as much as a wire one, but the more enclosed it is the more difficult hygine will be.
     
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    No issues with my MCN Adaptus, we went with the security screw instead of just using a padlock. They clunk around sometimes and add bulk. Just looks like a cock bulge even in thin gym shorts. The Adaptus is very reasonably priced compared to most “custom” cages, it’s 2 1/4 inches long, downward curve and very open for easy cleaning without removal. After the first night of a chastity cycle, night time erections aren’t an issue at all and i find it so comfortable I could wear it 24/7 indefinitely…..thank goodness my Wife still really loves piv from me so I don’t have to go indefinitely! :D
     
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    Well back in my small cage. Will write more in a little while.
     

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