Hello, Finally got the courage to post rather than just look!

Typical white male (43yrs) middle management with a deeply hidden kinky side! Started in mid 20's to explore corsets, then chastity and finally restraints (Segufix), lived on my own so was able to experiment in private with various bondage items and a bit of cross dressing. Overtime stumbled on chastity belts and neosteel (The joys of suddenly getting broadband!). The more I looked the more I just had to have one and so in around 2003 I took the plunge and got a neosteel total she male belt (Some how skipped the cages and at that time cheap Chinese belts were not around that I was aware of.). Unfortunately I measured myself and did it over my favorite corset, this lead to the belt being a bit to long and therefore sitting was uncomfortable as well as the waist band being a bit tight if I was not corseted to 24". Finally I married and had to hid that part of my life as my then wife was very vanilla, life continued for over 10 years of marriage before we separated and my desire for Chastity re-awoke! I'm now in the process of looking at a mysteel belt to contain my urges and hopefully re ignite my passion for chastity without the corsets!

 

Happy to chat about my work and yes it has affected as I have gone through phases where I have been thinking more about chastity or wearing my belt when I get home than perhaps I should have done. Also taken a few risks wearing it to work on the odd occasions but as the fit is not right I was always worried I'd get noticed so abandoned this a long time ago. Maybe with a better belt I may think about it again, thinking a hip design make help with this. Interestingly working from home a lot at the moment and think having a well fitted belt would actually help me focus if you know what I mean. I have previously used the timelock software to effectively lock myself away and this did work, but as I can't sit for more than a couple of hours due to the too long front shield it prevented me from working effectively. I would like to get to the position with a future belt that I could wear it for several days and stay focused on things.
Not certain if I'm submissive or not to be honest which probably sounds odd to say. The reality I have never been in a situation in a relationship were it was submissive or dominant as my wife was just very very vanilla! In life we would both make decisions on various things (House, child, finance etc) and it was give and take. In work I'm a manager, so have to make decisions more than be lead by direction. Maybe one day I will find out .
I think if I ever had a true key holder that I was in a relationship with then I would most likely be submissive, but that's just a guess.
What about you? Does it distract you?

 

Let's just say Bob comes out and plays more that perhaps he should!

 

I have to say it was great and beat anything else I used for self bondge, but you have to be really really careful in your setup as there is no way out of it. Having said that it was great fun and when used with a tens machine for milking it made for some mind blowing experiences. Sadly sold it with most of my stuff when I married and these days the sets are so expensive, I think I paid about a quarter of the price they charge these days, but that was over 15yrs ago!