Hi chastiy mansion I am here to embark on my goal to be caged & pussyfree for 1 year. I will update this journal everday or try to. I am very new to the lifestyle i may ask stupid questions. Please comment ask questions. 1 year from now = 24 February 2022
Voted Yes. Too long. However, I would like more information. What is the longest you have gone without an orgasm? Are you in a relationship with a Keyholder? What are your reasons for such a long time? That's for starters.
One year is too long for sure. You are setting yourself up for failure. Try a week, then 2 weeks, then a month...etc. Have successes and build on those. As for being pussy free...that's easy, just be married for more than 10 years... j/k.
Longest was 3 weeks with no orgasm. Currently single no keyholder considering one i want to be locked up for so long because i have friends online who do it. Something about wanting to cum but you can't turns me on so much.
Ran into a few issues when it comes to working out and running. I might take it off when i do exercise then put right back on thoughts ?
I am new to this and walked quite a bit last night. About 9 miles. I had quite a bit of chaffing and soreness today. I work out with it no problems yet. A little fear with squats but I have leg day tomorrow and will see. I’m using metal and I personally would run with metal.
Mine doesn't have the usual locking post/superstructure, so doesn't dig into my pubis when I do squats.
The first 30 days are the hardest. If you can stay busy, avoid porn/erotica, it shouldn’t be too hard. Focus on keeping control of the times you are most likely to falter. If your week time is after work til bed time, you can put a cage on and put the keys in a timer box that opens after you go to sleep.
You need to grow into this lifestyle. When we started chastity , 3 days seem like forever . I am now wearing 24 / 7 for over 2 year's now, but it takes time and a good KH to get there. Don't push yourself , that is your KH job. Hope it goes well for you . Welcome to this lifestyle .
How can you cum while wearing a cage , I can't understand it lol. I can't even when I'm stimulating myself...
I've tried that but I just can't cum like this. Maybe I need a stronger wand or more days in chastity
5 years after getting into chastity seriously 'as chastity' and 2020 turned into something odd, and just passed my first 'year' without orgasm. I have no interest in doing it again, or continuing the 'dry spell', but 5+ years ago, I would have never been interested in or willing to try for a year! That said, your body purging goo, normally just a little, but sometimes quite a bit all at once, well, you can call it what you want, but it's not like a "spontaneous orgasm", especially if it wasn't the result of stimulation. It's gotta go somewhere, and if this 'purging' doesn't just pop out from time to time, well, either you've dried up or it's become an unhealthy blocked thing. Get over it, move on, and think to yourself, "damn, that could have been an orgasm"!
I’m now 4 months in my 1 year cage challenge. The 1st month was extremely uncomfortable. Things settled down in month 2. Month 3 just shot by. I doubt that I would’ve made it this far without an engaged KH. We are a vanilla couple and share all home duties. So, we experimented thru rôle playing to find ways to keep me motivated. It wasn’t long before she asked if I wanted to be released. Just saying “no” was causing tension. I pointed out that she can order me to do whatever she wants. But, that’s not in her nature. My solution was to buy a textured strap on dildo that I named “Ben” (after a guy I know she is sweet on). So, whenever she wants intimacy she asks for “Ben”, and refers to me as “Ben”. There’s been a marked increase in her pleasure. Ben is successful, single and lives in a big house a couple of streets away. He is “ripped”. And, being a really nice guy, a gentleman, I can see that Ben will be helpful in me remaining caged for the year and possible beyond.
There are a lot of women of a vanela nature that wouldn't have been keen on a dildo substitution. A partner that IS keen on this and a guy that is willing to use a strapon can really help get past any 'issues' of her keeping you locked and being supportive of your desires while continuing to take care of her needs. The pressure is lifted from her 'needing' you to be released for pleasuring her, by asking for Ben, and getting what she wants/needs without the need to release you. Regardless of the overtone of it being dubbed another man, your intimacy as a couple can stay a positive and healthy thing... Happy for you both!
Thnx for the encouragement. The emotions are increasingly intense for both of us as she asserts herself in fulfilling her needs and desires.
If you can be caged for a year, there is actually no reason to go back, is there? What not just be chastised forever? Do other more important things?
I voted it’s too long to start. It took many years for me to do 122 days and that was slowly building on the duration cycle and my wife pushing me further and further. The first time we started Locktober was several years ago and now we also observe Lent. We built off those durations and got to 60 days before release. Then a misunderstanding and my penalty was 100 days before the truth came out and I was released. My wife was so torn by her mistake she wanted to walk away from chastity forever. after a long talk, we decided to continue and she liked her power over my cock and continued to push lockup periods. To keep my interest, she has devised twisted ways to give me caged orgasms and when released some hot and wicked fucking. I recently completed a122 day lockup and we are planning for 180 days to start sometime after Labor Day. what I am getting to, set realistic goals and if you both keep it interesting, time will move and you will be part of the experience. So hard core members will say I’m off base, but chastity is what you desire and what you want to get out of the lifestyle. A cookie cutter approach does not fit all, I respect the hardcore members but I don’t have that kind of will, but I do love the discipline chastity has taught me.
It is an admirable goal to go one year. Wearing a cage full time may not be easy as a beginner, so if you need out, just take a break but stay chaste. There is not just one path for chastity play, take the way that fits you. Especially since you don't have a keyholder, you can make the rules. Good luck and enjoy.
Make your own rules. Keep it simple, something like "I'll try to stay locked for at least as long as my previous longest". Then it's both achievable, and you're working towards your original one year target.
My lady-friend actively holding my key and controlling my chastity clock, as well as other holders along the way, has been very keen on 'helping me with math' when it comes to my chastity and chastity journey. Early on, the durations didn't add up to anything special, they were about the current session and the end of each was simply the end of one, without much to do with the beginning or duration of the next one. Even the 'break my record' ones were simply about reaching the end of that one. The start of a new session was just something new and led to it's end. At some point the end of session 'instructions' started. No matter what else was involved, there primary topic was to either remain locked (here's your key, don't use it!) or the norm 'after x orgasms but within x time, lock back up' and a new session would begin. An so began my perpetual chastity journey. The duration of each session remained fairly random and wasn't about reaching a set goal like 1-year. Since each of my sessions had been documented, and based on when I first surrendered my key, math has been a factor. Like percentage of time locked, and the most referenced, the average days per session. Since most of my early sessions were quite short, the average was quite low several years ago, but has steadily climbed over time and is used as a baseline of the minimum duration of each new session which at the start of each new session is lower than the end of the last, so, it's unlikely that 'early' release is going to happen.. More likely is how many days to at least maintain that average, and even more likely, to increase it. Unfortunately, the longer this keeps going, the easier it is to maintain the average, so, the 'goal' becomes to increase it! Anyway, from time to time the clock throws a curveball and the average is just maintained and so the next time, it's a little longer to get back to increasing! It's just 'fun with math'.... Now-then... It has also been a 'thing' to set new records from time to time.. This naturally spikes the averages and leads to very long dry spells. The last 1.5 years dealing with COVID and social distancing has proven a good time to do several back-to-back marathon record breaking sessions. So, we did! Last night set a new record, and the clock started over again. I don't own the clock, so, I cannot commit to challenges with others, but, since she leaves it up to me to maintain the records, the math would be something like this: end of last average 25.5 begin this average 25.13 Earliest 26 days (always rounding up) to bump the average to 26, 60 days 'starting duration' joking about 9/30 being before Loctober - 106 days (26.7 average) To break record 157 days (but that falls in NOvember!!) (27.4 average) To be free after NOvember 168 days (just over 27.6 days) To "why not make it 28.0 days/4 weeks??" 198 days, which is also newyears eve! SO, with the key in her possession, I have no idea how long this is going to last! BUT, if all this math was in my hands, and I was interested in reaching a full year on my own, I'd obviously look at 12/1 We've always observed Loctober and NOvember) as my next 'increase record', then see what would come after that.