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    This thread may possibly be a repetition to a degree, but, I have a question for those who are self locked with these variables, to address those out there that are choosing this lifestyle on purpose and of their own volition.

    Here goes: You are single or married. You have no kink, no keyholder, no domme or mistress, no one forcing you to lock. You are doing this with some personal reason or goal that you feel that chastity caging will help you achieve. It has just become a part of who you are.

    I am just trying to provide a thread for you to express your thoughts or share a quick story about your chastity journey.

    Anyone is welcome to comment, but I just thought it would be cool to give a place for those who are not doing fantasy stuff, but chastity is just your reality.

    It would be interesting to know, since many may think chastity caging is just a kink (which is fine that it is, but it can accomplish so much more).

    I personally see it as a very useful and practical tool that has helped me for real life issues.

    Your thoughts?
     
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    I first started mine because I had a problem with masturbating way too much. Holding my own key was a struggle so I used chastikey. After awhile I started to enjoy being locked and my fetish has only grown from there.
     
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    i started because i have never done it before i am a BIG bondage and selfbondage nut.being to get out.one day a few years ago i was locked up and couldnt remember the combo to my safe where the key was.
    it was locked for a few days and i remembered it in the middle of the night.
    i will never forget the feeling of being helpless about not
     
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    I found chastity due to a masturbation problem and after getting used to using the device I told my wife about it She was willing to take control and it’s grown from there it’s helped me as a person grow and it’s also helped the relationship grow better than it honestly ever was
     
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    I am laying on a bed in a hotel in South Korea. After arrived at the hotel this morning, I removed the cage from my bag and put it it on. It will stay there until I leave for the airport to fly out. I'm a long way from home. The keys are on the end table by the bed. I could unlock it. But I won't.
     
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    It is so freeing to have your manhole locked away. It opens a hole new world up
     
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    what if the maid moves the key?
     
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    I have the same problem , I masturbate way to much and I can't trust myself with the cage
    Having no keyholder makes it even harder so I'm gonna try chastykey or something similar. Wish me luck!
     
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    I have read several times now that there are few (or maybe no) chastity devices which can prevent a man from giving himself an orgasm if he is hell-bent to do so. Does the chastity device alone give you sufficient pause to deny yourselves?
     
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    Well it does make it harder for me.
    I can't say it will prevent it 100% because I haven'r locked myself for a long duration my max being 3 weeks more or less.
    But it definetly makes it harder , the irony lol
     
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    As most would agree, the question is, if you are trying to break free, and you are self locked, wouldn't that be a redundancy?

    You are self locked because you know you need to be locked. So your mentality should be that it represents a physical means to reach a goal, be it, stopping masturbation, relinquishing control, or whatever it is you want and need.

    To lock yourself means you have retained some or all control. So, it seems pointless to think about whether you can break free from it, rather than focus on the achievement of your goal.

    If you are locked long enough, it can and will allow your mind to conform to being locked as your new normal. It will feel right to be locked. Being out of your cage will become less desired than being in your cage.

    After 3 years plus, I have reached and gone beyond my goal because of that very fact. I needed behavior modification, and worked mentally and physically in sync with being caged. Now I just don't feel right if I am not caged. It now has become the strange feeling.

    Before, putting on the cage felt odd and took getting used to. Now, I can't even fathom what it must be like to not be securely in my cage. With no reason to be out of it, I stay locked literally all the time.

    I am not saying this happens to everybody, because we are all in chastity for our own reasons. But, for me, being caged at all times, has freed me from my dependency on other things, that I thought I could not live without. Now it is the cage that I cannot live without.

    My mind thus associates mental and physical freedom with my caged penis. It is ever present in my mind that it has liberated me. Always seeing it and wearing it is as much a representation as it is a protector of my goals.

    Trying to break free from it would make my goals pointless.
     
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    I kinda understand what you are describing .When I reached like two weeks in chastity I didnt feel the need to unlock myself. But I had no desire either. Then at week 3 or so I unlock for cleaning and then I got really hard and I could not control myself...

    I know the time I was locked is nothing compared to most of you but It was kind of a big deal for me. Being a person that masturbates mostly every day.
     
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    I agree totally very well said
     
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    I guess I was more asking my question of the folks who use a service to keep themselves locked. I too am seeking an uncompromising devotion to not orgasm unless permitted by my KH. I had a couple "slips" early on but have not since then. But I fear what I will do in my darkest, most desperate hour some day in the future. Maybe my device will put up a high enough hurdle that I stop myself?
     
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    The Encoded. Maybe you should direct message with DarlyDixon. He is high on his new PA. That is definitely a way that would support your efforts in those difficult moments.

    I totally get it bro. I haven't had intimacy in 20 years. But the last 3 have been great because I am locked 24/7/365. Before I was climbing the walls and stressed to the limit and beyond.

    But it's not her fault. She has health issues. Tha cage gave me a means to stop bothering her and her consequently feeling bad or guilty. The cage meant I could absolve her of that feeling. I didn't want her to feel that way, it's just kind of the natural order of things.

    I have had plenty of those dark moments, so I do understand.

    Daalgi. It doesn't matter that we have gone longer. What you did to go three weeks is a fantastic accomplishment. I know the temptation is ever present. The fact that you accomplished what you did means you can conquer.

    However, a lot can be accomplished by the type is cage you have. I rarely take mine off, just for shaving. I use open design stainless steel which makes cleaning easy.

    The feeling you had where you didn't feel the need to unlock after a couple weeks will be even stronger the longer you stay locked. I know that I hit somewhere between 3 and 4 months locked.

    You will feel the need to unlock less and less. Maybe when you unlock less, you will have enjoyed being locked so much that you don't want to lose that feeling, and this can help you not to lose control.
     
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    The paradox in all this is I want freedom from my animal instincts. To do so I need to will myself and cage my manhood. But if my will is strong enough to lock myself and forget about getting hard and self pleasure why can’t I just use the same will power to leave my cock be and just refuse myself solitary good times ? Wouldn’t that be a greater test in strength ? Not to use something that is freely available for your own pleasure. A bit like liquor. I have a bar at home but I only drink socially and try to never abuse it. I find self restraint easy enough with alcohol, food, I don’t smoke. Why is it then that my cock is my master ? Why can’t we just coexist peacefully ? I find that fighting an emotional imbalance (self pleasure) with another one (being caged) is not the answer... what is then ?
     
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    You understand perfectly what I'm suffering right now. That's why having a KH is so important I guess.

    About what 4everlocked said : I have a cage that is comfortable enough to wear for extended periods of time that is not the problem. I wish I had a honorable cause like yours to lock myself in chastity but I th reality is that I masturbate too much and I need control , coming from me or a KH or a app.

    Thank you all for your replys , such a nice comunity :love:
     
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    Just a few of my reasons:

    It feels good to wear it: snug, and safe, and under control
    It's a constant reminder of what should be normal
    It's practice for when there is a keyholder to take over
    To set personal challenges and goals and feel satisfaction for meeting them
    To up the intensity of my own teasing and denial regiment
    To keep me focused on being subservient to women in everyday life
     
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    I do enjoy self locking - my max is still around a week, but it's always enjoyable when I do. I have used Chastikey, and I have also had several keyholders that I found through Chastikey.

    For me, I love the feeling of the cage, I love swelling inside the cage, and I enjoy seeing how long I can go.

    Of course, I also really enjoy blue balls, and the eventual relief when my time finally comes!
     
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    I really like selflocking don't get me wrong but eventually I got bored of it. What's the point of locking up your manhood if no one knows that it's being locked. No one is keeping it caged nor cares.

    I think the interaction between the keyholder and the loocke are what makes it so fun and enjoyable. Being a contract or a demand from the other person.

    I know I sound selfish and needy but I'm not that way . That's why I'm asking you all about way to self motivate or enjoy the selflocking experience more untill someday I find the right person to devote myself and be happy with.

    My next move is to try Chastikey with a new cage , wich is more comfortable to wear. I will post my session so anyone can "keyholdme" even if it's online so I finally can reach the second month.

    Wish me luck :p:p
     
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    Well that is true Daalgi. I don't have a key holder. My wife knows I am locked, but doesn't participate. I did this for her benefit.

    I will never get a release. She is happy and relieved because of her health. So I derive pleasure by denying myself for her.

    Although, the pleasure of wearing the cage is a whole lot more than not wearing one. For me, having to go without intimacy without a cage was a miserable time of life.

    Now that I have been locked for 3 years, I would never go back to being unlocked. It has just become routine, buy I remind myself how good it feels to be in the cage.

    So I understand that pure solo is tough, unless you have some goals associated with it.
     
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    Yeah it is... as a young man I jsut can't control myself...

    And I just end up unlocking , with no goal or somebody behind the key I just convice myself to not follow up nd unlock.

    I'm starting to understand that chastity is not about my cock or myself , is about the pleasure or wellness of the other , doesnt have to be sexual at all.
     
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    I self lock mostly because I don't have a key holder. I enjoy the feeling of being under someone's control, so until I find a new key holder I'm sort of fooling myself that someone else has control when they really don't. I probably sound like a total nut case here, but I really just crave being under someone's control so much that I pretend like I am even when I'm not.
     
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    i LOVE this Willie! Just one gender change in the last sentence and im with you! :+1:

    Going to the original thread, i will add that i was started on this path by my Training Master, before i was claimed by my Owner Master.
    Both of them have passed now, and i continue to lock down in honor of their training, and for the reasons Quote Willie above.
    And one other thing.
    Staying in orgasm-less lock-down keeps my sexual need at its highest level constantly.
    It makes interactions here, and on other favorite websites, so much more enjoyable. The porn, the fantasies, the chatting, just turn me on easier and keep me coming back for more!

    Good Thread!
     
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    I do nsfw comics as a side gig and look to adult sites on the internet for reference and inspiration. I'm finding as of late I'm far more productive when I put my cage on. I'm reminding myself of what I'm there to do and it helps keep me focused.
     
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