I’ve noticed many trying to explain what male chastity is, and what many end up doing is handing someone a key to their chastity cage and asking them to be their key holder. They don’t describe what they are into, what they want or what they expect. The poor girl does a search on google and finds a pornographic hodgepodge of extreme kinks and she wants to pretend she never got the key in the first place. I wrote a blog entry trying to explain some of it and a basic rebuke to all the bull they may have found. The link is here if anyone needs it. https://suddenlysubbie.wordpress.co...k-up-his-penis-explanation-to-new-keyholders/
I enjoyed reading this Nicoftime. Thank you for posting the link. I agree with you there's far too much bull about male chastity online, often I wonder if written by people who have never really been locked or have only been self-locked, or probably most likely by companies wanting to sell more devices!
Great read, I liked the information. Always interesting knowing someone else’s well communicated point of view.
It is very funny how people seem to have the "Chastity must be done this way" view. At the end of the day however you do it it's a game! It maybe quite a serious game in your relationship but most blokes wouldn't allow themselves to be kept chaste if they didn't really enjoy it and most women wouldn't keep their men chaste if they didn't enjoy it. Even couples who really live the Dom Slave life do it out of choice. After all what could be better than living your fantasy!!! Just my thoughts. Life is far to short to take things to seriously. The only thing I really take seriously is having a fun relationship with my Mrs Chaste.
precisely my thinking! Chastity is what it is to each individual, and your own situation is all that matters!
I think a lot of people who wish to have a keyholder have a lot of other things in common. One of those things is being slightly introverted and possibly lacking in areas that would give them some of the framework for good communication. And that is what this is all about, communication. If you have poor communication one or both parties will most likely not enjoying the act or idea of FLR/Male Chastity.
@Nicoftime very nicely written. Clear, concise, informative, and interesting. I would love to have a potential key holder to send the link to. I'm sure it will be big help to many.
I hope it didn’t read that I thought it should be done a certain way, in fact I thought I mentioned several times that it follows whichever path she chooses. Mostly it was supposed to be an icebreaker and let partners know that they don’t have to run and hide after doing an internet search lol
No not at all. It's just a general observation. There's a lot to be learnt from different approaches for all of us. It's just that like with so many things some people (not you) sometimes want a "set of rules" to follow rather than take individual ideas from some and adapting them or just allowing things evolve at their own pace. It's a bit difficult for us chaps sometimes to get our heads around the fact that once we introduce chastity to our better halves and they "get the hang of it" we have to some extent lost control and should except that. After all, it's what we asked for. In our relationship my chastity is a requirement of Mrs Chaste now and as such is not up for negotiation. If I wanted out the whole relationship that we now enjoy would be completely different. Sorry, I'm rambling! Time for tea me thinks!
This seems to be an appropriate thread to add this chastity meme that I recently created for my wife:
I am a cuckold, but wanted to say that was really well done. Great writing, and informative. You should do more please.