Locked for two days now, in my PA orion. We had a looong break from chastity but might come back to it now if I'll start to behave, I guess. So far she has no plan of unlocking in the near future.
Subject: One of the most exciting things to hear for me "Lockit it up, mister!" It shows a clear desire and interest on the KH's part to do it for her because she wants it! It's been a long time since I was in the position to hear that as I'm perpetually locked.. but from time to time, current holder allows a locked duration/session to end and instructs me to have a leisurely hygiene opening followed promptly by telling me to lock back up, just to say it and start the clock over again... She likes saying it and I like to comply! "we" lockees should not know if there is a plan or not! It does feel good to know that there is a plan, but if lockee and locker are both into the chastity, our not knowing if or when there will be an unlocking is part of the thrill, right?
Last night I was allowed to use plug for the night. Let's see where it will take us this time. The unknown is OK, as far as it doesn't take forever. I don't like to work to preffered time or date as there is only dissapontment either from KH changing her mind or the fact that it's over and who knows when I could experience the pleasurable moment again. At least we stop arguing since the lock.
She's your wife! This isn't like you're dealing with a random online thing. If she's willing to be your keyholder, let her! And let her be the one that determines everything! That said, you two need to have good communication. Share with her how you are feeling and what you are experiencing, YES, but not in the form of complaining or whining about anything to do with it.... Good luck, dude.
We have been playing for last two years.. But with more and more breaks. Maybe it will be different now. Longest I ever been locked, never really went for more than 3 weeks due to the redness and spots. With Orion I don't have many problems now, apart of the pa pin sometimes. So it i might go for really long period without removing. Not sure how to fell about that. We might do unlocked Sunday's she suggested today.
Something I was introduced to very early on when going long enough to need hygiene/inspection openings was to be bound in such a way that I couldn't resist or help with anything that was going on. I was also gagged and at least blindfolded if not in a full sensory deprivation hood. She would then approach things clinically and remove the cage, clean it and my bits, shave what I couldn't reach while caged, then relock me and let me sit in bondage for a while before releasing me from that. We would then have a moment of relaxed roles for communication about the chastity and anything else that the chastity had to do with. Once we were both okay with things, our lockee/KH hats were back on and went about life. This was done about once a week, for us it wasn't a static time/number of days.. It was when we both were available for this. This gave her a chance to play with my bits and chastity and make sure everything was going okay physically and that the cage wasn't getting nasty. It gave me a chance to have that done, but without being able to do it myself. We both enjoyed this time and if there was anything that needed to be addressed or talked about, this was the time to do it. Hopefully you both get something out of this!
Thank you for such great insight. It would be fantastic to experience the cleaning routine in such beautiful way.