Guilty Feeling Wife/KH

It is interesting reading about the relationship improvements which people experience. It demonstrates the natural imbalance between the sex drives of women and men. I know that chastity devices are not the whole answer, but it seems to be proving to be part of the puzzle.

While I realize that it is still a niche interest, who knows what will happen in the future. An example of improvement through technology.

 

True, we quit doing "duty sex" several years ago. We only have sex when the wife wants it. It makes it easier than me asking and getting turned down.

 

Exactly right. The man does not have to ask, it is totally up to the woman to initiate. And, the man cannot sneak off and release the tension in some other way. I realized this many years ago.

 

I almost never ask my wife for sex, I let her initiate when she wants it. She also tells me when I can masturbate instead of having sex. I know it sounds strange, but it keeps me reveved up at a lower level, but knowing I am not going to get to masturbate or have sex keeps it calmed down too.

 

After reading some of these MY KEYHOLDER is very vanilla when we first got together we had sex daily. After 23 years to kids we know have sex 1 once a year. So i found chastity to balance it out her tool is hers when she wants it no orgasm for her non for me. It has made me a better husband. After a month of lock up she lets me caress her more and she actually has been Cuddling in bed.

 

Obviously lots of sense in most of the above. However I think there is at least one angle that doesn't seem to have been covered.

Most women, including my KH and Wife of 40 years, seem to be natural 'care-givers' and often feel guilty abut locking up their significant others and 'depriving' them of even 'duty sex' (like that term).

One way of addressing that is by taking that aspect of control away from the. We have just started using a new Qiui Cellmate which works via an App. on your mobile or Android. This is not an advert and are there are a number of issues with it, but it does have some fun features. If you, as the Wearer, allocate the Keymaster function to your Wife then you are unable to unlock or operate the device. However there is also a Set Timer function when the 'clock' can be set for minutes, days, weeks and even months and once it's set neither of you can do anything about it. She can choose the time, you can suggest or you can discuss but once it's set that's it.

Also there the Keymaster can assign a Regulator Role which electronically grants the Wearer a very limited chance to unlock. If you get desperate enough, and ask nice enough, your KH may - or may not - allow you, but can rescind the option at any time and by a keystroke on her phone!

There are obviously other ways of incorporating this options into your play: dice games are a common and random way of determining lock-up time that you make as hard / difficult / long / short as you like. And I think there still a cute little piece of software called The Wheel of Missfortune that will also do the job for you.

Have fun and I hope this give you something to think about !

 

As far as duty sex, we quit doing that several years ago anyway, I didn't enjoy getting it that way and she didn't enjoy giving it. My wife is the same way, it takes all the pressure off her to have sex and we can enjoy cuddling way more. I am not locked all the time, but when I am, it is for 10 days to 2 weeks at a time, we BOTH enjoy that time.

 

good advice!

 

I think the only time my wife performed (performs) duty sex was when she has her period. We are fairly scheduled with PIV on a weekend morning (sometimes both days), but if she is on her period on a weekend, she would usually give me a handjob one day and a blowjob on the other. I am sure there are/were times when even normal PIV may have been "because its Saturday", but we both genuinely enjoy sex and I always make sure she has at least 1 orgasm before PIV.


It was only 2 weekends ago when she had her period did she stop herself from gratifying me in the normal way(s). I encouraged her afterwards stating that what she had done was perfect and its these positive reinforcements that help ease any feelings of guilt.

I have no idea what percentage of chaste men are locked up initially at the request of their partners, or whether its the men who lead their partners into a chastity lifestyle (in whatever guise that takes), but if it is lead by men to begin with, it stands to reason that a female (particularly if she has strong caring / nurturing instincts like many mothers would) would find it difficult not to satisfy their partners urges / needs.