Hello everyone, masters, mistresses or anyone else looking through here. I am a newbie within this community but I've been into chastity cages for a long time. My interest started at tumblr, moved to getdare and then all over the place. I found small communities at basically every site on the internet. I was forced to move to bdsmlr with the fall of tumblr. I wrote a few fiction pieces at literotica, but mostly focus on consuming rather than creating content. I found games on tfgames very fun (some of them). That's my internet history revealed, my IRL one is a bit wild (as is everyones I assume). I started with crossdressing and bondage back when I was younger (everything was self-induced, nobody else participated). I actually managed to go solo until I was 18 - "borrowing" stuff from my mom, buying a few toys online and so on. Once I turned 18 I did a bit of camming, performing for various masters and doing great many perverse things. I bought my first cage when I tried college. It was a knock-off CB6000S, I bought it along with a few buttplugs and started wearing it almost everywhere. To school, to friends, to bars. I was single at the time and it was so much fun. I went to a few sessions at a local BDSM-club in Prague (shoutout to "the Atelier"/"the Studio") which was great fun, but it didn't stick and I moved - discarding all of my toys along the way in a hope for "a change". I moved elsewhere and in a short time, I bought myself another set of toys. A full-face leather mask, glass dildo, some plugs and, most importantly, a knock-off Holy Trainer v2. I had a lot of fun once again, but was forced to get rid of them as I moved into a shared-flat with a roommate. I refused to risk exposing other people to this kink, so I stopped completely for a few months, reversing back to only jerking off to beautiful people doing the stuff I wished I could do. It took me over half a year during which I found an amazing girlfriend whom I deeply love. Within a few months, we started experimenting in the bedroom and discovered that she is naturally dominant and quite enjoys being so in bed. We did some light bondage, anal and so on. However I think she mostly enjoys teasing me - and so do I. I currently do not have a chastity cage but I am considering getting one anytime soon. There is one thing though: I want to discuss it with her first and buy it only if she agrees. Currently I am trying to find a good way to bring the topic up and prepare a few talking points, so that it appears interesting to her. Any input in that regard is very welcome.
Welcome to the site. You probably know that there isn't one correct way to do this. I think that you already have a head start if your gf and you are already doing what you are doing. Personally I would start from two different angles. First I would bring up the topic of chastity and see what her reaction is and judge your next steps from there. Second I would explain how effective using chastity cages can be in teasing as that is something she already enjoys. I would be prepared to give her time to think over what you have told her and go at her pace. Good luck.
Everyone's situation is different, but I brought the chastity device up after I identified a problem I thought that that chastity could fix... However I wasn't thinking of male chastity before all this happened. Once we both identified a problem or behavior we wanted to change and male chastity was a possible solution to it... #BINGO
Have a conversation. I imagine that 9 out of 10 women would be freaked if you presented her with a cage, or just told her. Introduce it gradually suggesting that it could spice up your sex life if you were caged for a few hours leading up to sex.
Some years ago there was a, true, story about a couple traveling to America and a scanner at Border Control 'flashed' because he was wearing a chastity device of some kind. We were going to America, from the UK, later that year (for the first time and a very special occasion) and I said to my wife: "We could do that !" And we both laughed about it. However I secretly purchased a CB2000 - we really knew nothing about chastity at that time - when I arrived I put it on and presented her with the key. She guessed immediately and was very good about it . . . didn't freak-out at all ! And, no, I didn't wear it while travelling. Also I have written a number of erotic stories over the years - some but not all about chastity - and my Wife, and now, KH is used to being my editor / proof-reader. So we are both fairly broad-minded.
Thank you all for your responses, they are great. I have been thinking mostly about what "benefits" for her I can mention to get her on board. I believe I do my fair share of housework and other chores and don't want to oversexualize our everyday lives, but there has to be something.
We already talked about it a bit - she saw som porno where it was and got curious so I told her a bit about what it is and what it does, after that she found an awful article about it (it's in our native language so I won't link, but it was a gross fantasy more than anything) and we talked about it a bit more. But that was few weeks (maybe two months now) ago. After that during a different conversation I let her know I used to have it before we met, but that was it. It almost feels as if I missed an oportunity as it's hard to bring it up now.
I think if there is one thing in life I have learned is that honesty is the best policy. I would find some good, short articles on the subject and speak with her about it. You can provide the articles and ahe can read them for more information. My KH knew nothing about this and as we discussed it she was reluctant at first but decided to check it out with me. She has grown to love it and we have a lot of fun. Good luck.
Any good suggestions on reasonable articles? A lot of what I found is just a bit too much. I will also have to translate them since my SO doesn't really speak english, but I don't really mind that. I'm very happy for you and your KH, just enjoying it is exactly what I hope to achieve one day.
Suggest to her that you want to try a chastity cage the next time you have sex/make love. Emphasis on try and also try suggesting that you think it would make you really horny and she would get the benefits
Yeah, that's what I'm probably going to go for - basically use it as an extended forplay and maybe even afterplay. I'm still not sure about the exact benefits for her - other than being able to tease me in a different way, which is nice but it still is primarily my benefit.
I guess. It's not like I'm not eager at the moment, which might be my fault to some degree - I am more than willing to do anything to please her anyway. Thanks for the reply
Thank you. It is a dream come true for me and she is loving the benefits that come with keeping her boy constantly aroused yet unfulfilled brings her. I find that M loves my own words and you might consider writing your own short article on this to present to her. Being a personal work you put time and effort into could be a plus. One thing I can say is dont push it on her. I have learned to not push things i want to explore on M cause that will ensure they never happen. I also accept that she may never want to do some things I find exciting and that is okay too. M already gives me so very much that satisifes me and I am not left wanting or lacking. Take your time and if she doesn't want to do it ask if she is okay with you exploring it without any pressure on her. She may take an interest or may not. I hope that you have success and both find it rewarding and fun.
That sound interesting. I don't want to scare her by being too much into it and writing an article might do that. I will think about it. I was planning on making a list of things for myself.
Hi there and welcome to the mansion! If your partner isn’t in to kink already then have a talk with them, better than shocking them!