A new journal for a growing femdom and chastity marriage

I thought it was time to start a new blog, I wanted a new clean blog where I could highlight where Mistress Wonder Woman and I are in our femdom, FLR, chastity marriage. So much has changed, it’s been small when looked at from a day to day standpoint but looking back at the last 5 years there have been huge changes overall. Wonder Woman’s confidence as a Domme has really shown through this year. She had been in school for her masters degree since 2016 which had been a major wedge in our personal/intimate lives. I think because we had so little private time for each other it really made us lust for each other when she wasn’t so exhausted from her extensive studies. I had a lot to learn about being a submissive over this time period, as it turns out both roles take a lot of effort with trial and error to find a groove that works for both partners. There was a lot of awkwardness and shyness about what we were doing in the beginning, Wonder Woman and I don’t necessarily come from any sort of a kinky background. We both very much like sex and get very much into it when we have alone time and we’re not too tired. I also wouldn’t describe our sex lives leading up to chastity as vanilla, not really any bdsm stuff except for dabbling in a little restraint play a few times. My big thing was requesting Wonder Woman to wear slutty vinyl outfits during our play time. God I loved seeing her in all those short dresses and tight skirts, her big breasts squeezed into those silky smooth vinyl tops.

This is where there was a change in our bedroom play. After several years of buying these outfits and asking her to wear them almost every time we had sex she started to become resentful of them. They were uncomfortable and hot and she was tired of wearing them. She started to feel that I was always asking her to wear them for me to cover up her body and she flat out at refused to wear them for me. I had taken something special and something I loved into something insulting to Wonder Woman. She put her foot down and got her way, this was well before chastity but thinking back I feel like she took more control of our sex lives at that point and things were definitely more on her terms. Nothing extreme, but she wouldn’t give in to my wants it was what she wanted.

Fast forward a few more years and I discovered chastity. I discovered chastity because I was looking at porn, at this time in my life I was masturbating pretty heavily. I had always masturbated a lot looking back through my life and it wasn’t until the discover of chastity that I knew that my bad habit was bad me and bad for our relationship. There were also other factors that were at play here too, when we decided to have a child we were having a lot of sex. Even after we knew we had a child on the way we continued to have a lot of sex up until the last couple of months before our child was born. Unfortunately the actual birthing process was quite traumatic for her and did a lot of temporary damage. She was sore and things burned and there was a lot of healing that took place over the course of the next year. There was a deep intimacy between us. we were intimate with each other a few times over the next year but it was very hands off for me because everything below Wonder Woman’s waist was painfully sensitive. This didn’t help my masturbation problem, in fact it worsened it. There was less time for us with the new baby so I literally had to sneak off to do it, how pathetic is that. So finally after the discover of chastity then having all these submissive feelings and desires come forward plus me coming to terms that I had a masturbation problem I realized how much time and energy I wasted on being selfish instead of focusing that energy on my true love. This was a real eye opener for me.

Then came time to confess my bad habits and ask for chastity to be in our relationship and take things from there. I had gone to a couple of chastity related websites and luckily I had hit the right ones for the most part. I can’t remember the name of the website now but it looked at male chastity from a realistic healthy relationship standpoint and not just porn fantasy. They had a list of tips and suggestions that would help you become a better partner to your wife in general. I read through the list several times mentally cataloging the best and most applicable suggestions. Now was the hard part, I needed to ask her to be my key holder, to lock me in chastity.

I remember I was on an overnight trip and my wife and I were texting each other before going to bed. I couldn’t stand it any longer, I had to ask my wife for us to try a chastity relationship, there was something about the idea of the who lifestyle that just felt so right. I cowardly texted her about the idea of it, she was quite surprised but intrigued. I got the “we’ll talk about it later” when we see each other response. I was on pins and needles although the next couple of days until we finally got to sit down and talk about it. I had it all planned out in my head, my reasoning, why I think it would be good for us and empowering for her. Of course things like this never go as smoothly as planned especially when you’re as nervous as I was. I got my explanation out the next I could but she was still on the very unsure side. She said “let me think about it”.

An entire week went by without a word from her about chastity. It was driving me insane, I brought it up again and she was really reluctant to talk about it, feeling shy and unsure. I dropped it and a few days went by, I popped onto Google and looked up key holding books. After being as thorough as I could in researching these book because I know many are written by men under the guise of a dominatrix or are just purely unrealistic fantasy. I ended up finding a book simply titled Male Chastity written by Lucy Fairbourne. It’s very realistic and low key while bringing up most of the activities that occur in a chastity and FLR relationships, not focusing to much on one thing or just the kink. I let my wife know I bought her a book on the subject and it was going to be here in a week and she said she was open to reading the book. As the week went on she kept asking me if I knew when the book was going to arrive. She seemed to be getting more excited about the idea of chastity and female led relationships. Finally the book arrived a day earlier than promised, she came home from her job at the time, she got herself a glass of wine and went into our bedroom and read the book cover to cover over the next 45 minutes.

I was waiting in our living room with slightly sweaty palms, I wasn’t sure if she was going to love or be revolted by the idea. When the door opened I looked over to the hallway and she emerged from the bedroom. She had a huge grin on her beautiful face and her first words were “we’re doing this!”. My heart skipped a beat and I felt so relieved. We started chatting about the book and she said it was informative but not the most well written book she’s read. She said the only thing she was unsure about was the female led relationship part but she liked the idea of controlling me sexually and my cock being her property.

The next day I sent her some links to some chastity devices that I had reviewed and thought would be good options. I chose the Holy Trainer V2 at the time thinking it was a softer resin based cage and I sent her the model with the options of black, white or pink. I secretly hoped she’d pick the pink one, I like the idea of some mild feminization but it turns out that a feminized male is a huge turn off for her. She picked the black one and I ordered it. We were only about 4-6 months into chastity before I decided the HT was a piece of junk and not good for long term wear. It chafed me horribly after long walks, pulled off fairly easily and the material always left an unpleasant odor after a day or two of wear. It never seemed like I could get clean enough to get that smell to go away. It wasn’t to long before the cage broke near the lock which was very disappointing. I got it replaced under warranty but I was kind of over the HT at that point. I had read enough good things about the knock off cages from eBay so I decided to take a look there, I also decided to go with metal over plastic.

I found a short steel cage and ring for about $35, it showed up in the mail a few days later. I showed my mistress and it was like her eyes lit up with big hearts. She thought it looked so good on me and told me how much she hated the HT. She said she hated seeing a chunk of black plastic between my legs, it was ugly. My new one was high polished stainless steel and it allowed my mistress to see more of her locked property. She went from not really even eating to look at me down there to fondling the new cage locking up her property. It was more like a piece of jewelry than anything else. That cage worked fine for a while but was heavy and could be uncomfortable at times. So that prompted me to look for a lighter and smaller cage which I found almost a year after we started chastity. That one was by far the best ball trap cage I owned and most attractive. It’s still my mistress’s favorite but I have since graduated to a chastity belt for more control and the security. It took four and a half years to get to the belt, it was a combination of both my mistress and I becoming more hardcore about chastity.
To be continued... Up next, years 1, 2 and 3 learning my place...

 

Year 1:
This was probably the most awkward year in feeling comfortable in our new roles. She and I were both excited and she was chomping at the bit to take the reins. Only problem was we were both on 2 very different pages with our wants. She was happy to be given the control but she wasn’t ready to really delve into much kink. I on the other hand ignorantly assumes that giving her control meant that she was automatically going to be willing to crop me, put me in a collar and panties and slap on the strap-on...basically all the fantasy stuff I’d been looking at. Not to mention I’ve been into femdom my entire adult life so I’d seen plenty of porn to skew what’s realistic for a somewhat vanilla couple.

Mistress was taking things at her pace and I was wanting the full dungeon experience. My patience and obedience was not anywhere it needed to be. To be honest I’m surprised there wasn’t a time where she just told me to piss off and we’re not doing this anymore. Mistress was torn with her time, she had just started going back to school and was still working part time. Our son was also about a year old at that point so needless to say we had a lot going on, there wasn’t a lot of private time for us. Things were still fun though, I don’t want to sell short the experience we had early on but I looked right over most of it and didn’t appreciate her efforts as much as I should have.

Mistress’s workload to earn her masters was immense, she was ready to pass out every night by the time we were alone in the bedroom. Much of my service to her started out with comforting massages and back rubs before she fell asleep. Her school work was starting to give her tension and anxiety the further she delved into her studies. There were many times I felt locked and forgotten about because there just wasn’t enough time for us to truly have any intimacy let alone privacy. Yet she tried for me, even with all that she had to do she started to develop her domme attitude and behavior. What I found odd was that she was more focused on my sexual pleasure and orgasms than she was about receiving pleasure. This drove me crazy because I imagined myself going down on her everyday giving her multiple O’s and her teasing me till I was leaking but not allowing me to O.

She discovered she really likes to stand behind me and masturbate me. Especially after discovering how easily she could get me off after I’ve been locked up for a while, sometimes a little penetration would happen to but that was more later on. She marveled in how fast I’d O, 15-30 seconds and sometimes less if she really has be going. I’m sure she found this intriguing because in the past I could pretty much choose when I wanted to cum. She could be going down on me or whatever but because I masturbated to much I was desensitized. We hadn’t had much if any PIV sex in that first year or the year prior due to a traumatic child birth. She was very sensitive down there for quite some time which I’m sure I’d why she preferred to touch me versus me touching her. Thinking back on it it really played well into our lifestyle, initially I was ungrateful for what she was trying, I was upset that I wasn’t allowed to focus on her body as much as I’d like. But there again I was missing the point, she was very happy with how things were going and it made her feel powerful and in control. I could feel her excitement when things went according to her plans. I think I then realized the domme bug had bitten her and she was very much enjoying herself.

 

Years 2 and 3...

I’ll sum up these two years because they were pretty similar in regard to how we progressed. There was a lot of growth for me and even more limited time for mistress. For much of the first year I was a classic topping from the bottom wannabe sub, I didn’t know what I was doing. I thought kink had to be a big part of the relationship and one of my biggest fantasies was to be pegged by mistress with a strap-on. I had asked her to do this for me years before and it was met with some serious awkwardness and skepticism. It made her uncomfortable and the premise wasn’t right for her. With chastity it seemed like a more realistic possibility and so I finally pushed her into trying it. It went well enough for anybody’s first time but I could tell that at the time she wasn’t into it and was just appeasing me. Afterwards I found I didn’t enjoy the experience as much as I could have, it wasn’t her fault, it was my fault. I was directing my own fantasy and I completely took everything special out of the experience. I could tell that she wasn’t really into it and once realizing that I just felt kind of dumb for thinking she would like it if she just tried it. Being one of my top fantasies I desperately wanted her to like it but thereafter realized that if I wanted chastity and FLR to be real and see where we can take this I was going to have to be on my best behavior and let her make the final decisions.

Moving forward I promised myself that I was going to do my best to take care of her and serve her in the ways that she wished. It was hard because the more school ramped up the less time she had, plus she started to have some issues with anxiety. I really tried my best to do everything I could for her that I thought would help. She liked and still enjoys being catered to, She had chosen for me to be her butler/slave to serve her every whim. This was a lot of fun but could be tiring as well, sometimes I just didn’t feel like getting out of bed to get her a drink and I would be regrettably grumpy about it but I would still push myself to do it. Mistress would also keep pushing and continue to break me in as her slave. Much of these two years a lot of the sexual focus was still on me. With her anxiety flare ups she was prescribed an anti depressant that combats anxiety but unfortunately it also combats sex drive. Back then she’d have me locked on average of about 10 days, I would get roughly 3 O’s a month and she would sometime want only 1 maybe 2 in that time frame, it was really frustrating and sometimes I took her lack of wanting me to touch her personally but that’s what she wanted. It felt so backwards, I should’ve been going down on her while still locked and she should be having 10 times the orgasms I was having. But again, that’s what she wanted.

With no more topping from the bottom from me and keeping my mouth shut I we weren’t communicating very well. Whenever I tried to talk about chastity I would get shut down because she thought I talked about it too much. Admittedly I did because even a couple years in it still felt new and exciting. The sad part was that she really shared my enthusiasm for chastity, she just wasn’t as vocal about it plus not having the time to really explore it. How do you explore each other’s desires when you only have maybe an hour alone together before pure exhaustion wipes you out. I just tried to deal with the lack of attention between lock ups but one of my faults was that eventually I’d boil over every 4 or so months and complain that I felt locked and forgotten. Obviously that sounds obtuse because I was being released multiple times a month in most cases but the irony is there was literally zero intimacy in between those times. She was so fraught with stress sometimes even hugs or kisses felt kind of rare but that’s because she had to lock herself into her office so she could get her work done. That is a lot of the intimacy I crave, I love kissing, caressing, holding and being close to my mistress. There was just really not a lot of that because her mind was so occupied plus the anti depressant weren’t a help in that area either. Although it would be unfair to say the anti depressants didn’t help her, I’m not sure she could’ve continued school without them.

With the feeling of lost intimacy I would boil over from time to time but usually at the worst times. Seemed like it was usually within a month of her finals, it makes sense because that’s when she would be the most occupied. Often times I felt like a single parent having to run our son around to his appointments and getting him where he needed to. Although that’s unfair for me to say because she had to pick out son up when I was at work and there were times she had to get through her studies while trying to keep a toddler occupied. But then there’d be those times when we did have time for each other and we’d make the most of it. I think it made us miss and appreciate each other even more and reminded us how solid our love for each other was and is. It was just a tough time for everyone but we got through it and our love for each other is stronger than ever.

Upcoming, year 4, my awakening...

 

Whoops I made a mistake, we still need to talk about year 3, I got my time frame mixed up in regards to when I had my big epiphany. Right at the start of year 3 for us which would be May because that’s when our chastiversary is, I went out and bought some new dress clothes and I made a reservation at one of mistress’s favorite restaurants. I’m not sure what hit me, it was like common sense and Cupid hit me with a sack of bricks but I felt it necessary to treat my lady to a nice evening out, re-confess my undying love for her and apologize for my behavior as a sad excuse for a submissive. I had a big epiphany a few days prior to making these plans. What I had realized is that in the 3 years we had been living a chastity lifestyle, my sole motivation for serving her and being her slave was so she’d be willing to explore the kink I wanted us to explore. I was serving her for myself and not for her benefit. This is also why I’d blow up every so many months because I was trying very hard to fulfill her wishes and when I thought I was being a good sub I thought I deserved more involvement from her, i.e more kink on her end. I was performing all my tasks and chores and anything else she asked of me for the wrong reasons, I wanted more out of her. I realized I shouldn’t be doing all of this for kink, I should be doing all of this because I’m deeply in love with her. After that thought sunk in I got a warm fuzzy feeling all over, it was like falling in love for the the first time again.

I know it’s hard for a lot of guys to back off from the kink they desire, it falsely appears to be the main goal in these types of relationships. When I became a member of fetlife I was looking for like minded people and of course found them. What I also found was that almost all of the women who identified as Dommes on that website had a sentence or two dedicated to the fact that they weren’t kink dispensers and they were certainly looking for more than just kink. I think that speaks volumes because obviously all of those women have probably been approached by so called ”subs” who are really just looking for a play thing. I can understand how offended these women are when they have the gift of dominance to give. Don’t kid yourself either, dominance is a huge gift to receive from your partner. It takes time, patience and effort as well as self confidence to be a domme, I’ve seen all of those traits in my mistress as she has grown into an amazing dominant.

Guys, please be respectful to your ladies, if you give more than you’re trying to get you will feel a satisfaction and solidarity in your relationship. Just remember when you do something for your KH, truly do it for her and not for some underlying master plan, because if it appears you’re just doing things for her to get something out of her, your plan will collapse and your partner will feel used. I’m glad I “grew up” and realized my errors, now our FLR, D/s relationship is an amazing ever evolving way of life for us now they Mistress and I are on the and page.

I promise year 4 is coming soon! I’m back to work and my time is severely limited again. It feel good to be writing this all out. I’m looking forward to talking about all the developments that gave happened in years 4 and as we’re going through year 5.
Thanks for reading and feel free to comment and ask questions. I always enjoy a little Q & A, it helps me rethink things from different perspectives.

 

Year 4:

This year was such a fun year because so many things were happening. Mistress’s school was coming to an end and I could see the light at the end of the tunnel. Mistress could also see the light herself although she still had some major mountains to climb in terms of completing her thesis and masters degree. Her mood seemed lighten and she felt like she could have fun again. I felt more content as her submissive, there was a lot more playfulness and flirting with each other that deepened what we had started.

I also saw a lot more aggressiveness from Wonder Woman during this time. She freed the inner beast and started exploring her domme side further. Now that we were around each other a little more often other than just going to bed I really started to notice the little things that she would do. She would grab my cage all the time, I could be in the kitchen or doing something in the bedroom and she would come up to me or behind me and hold my cage rubbing it a little. This was usually followed up with a look in her eyes that always melts me. Or she’ll be in front of me and back into me with her but pressing into me. I can feel her but all around my cage and the warmth from her body. It’s especially fun in the belt because the belt doesn’t move when she presses into me which drives me crazy.

She really seemed to indulge in the benefits of her role in terms of bossing me around, doing things for her. She has always bossed me around but there was more focus and desire to do so now. She could actually sit back and enjoy watching me work and serve her. Before when she was going to school, I did all the same nice things for her but my over enthusiastic help was truly necessary versus just a luxury because the 20 min it took me to make her lunch was vital time for her to cram in more study or whatever.

She told her best friend about our lifestyle, that was a fun night for us because she felt so empowered by telling her friend plus there was a kind of “wow” and “approval” from her best friend which made mistress feel more comfortable. I very much enjoy when her friend comes over because I put on my best behavior and I take care of both of them like mistress’s private butler. I’ve asked mistress if I can serve both of them a meal and go over the top with servitude but mistress wasn’t quite on board with that yet.

She started to implement more tools such as her bull whip and riding crop. They didn’t come out all the time but she was much more enthusiastic about using them and I could tell they brought a new excitement to her. She also started to indulge in her toys quite a bit more when I wasn’t around, her pink hitachi wand is racking up the miles these days lol. Wonder Woman also started being more comfortable with me going down on her a lot more often. Going down on her is something she’s always enjoyed but it always took her a lot of warming up before she’d let me do it. Now (being in year 5) just to give you an example, when I walked into our bedroom last week after putting our child to bed she was waiting for me naked on the bed holding leash and collar. I crawled onto the bed between her legs, she put my collar on and asked me if the collar was comfortable. I said “yes mistress” then without another work she pushed me into her wet waiting pussy, pulled my leash so I was pressing into her and let me go down on her. I was able to give her 5 rolling orgasms before she allowed me PIV. And I was instructed to cum quickly after she let me in . I love it so much

Another thing I believe that really helped mistress was being prescribed a different anxiety medication. The one the doctor has her on before was killing her sex drive because even though her sex drive picked up as school was coming to an end it increased substantially more so a week or so after being on the new medication. Our FLR chastity lifestyle really felt like it was picking up steam and continues to do so well into year 5. I couldn’t be happier with our relationship and I know Wonder Woman feels the same.

That pretty much sums up year 4 and I’ll be updating year 5 as things keep moving forward for us. She makes me feel more submissive to her everyday in many different loving ways.

 

How things have changed over the last year... It’s amazing how a little extra time makes all the difference in the world. I finally got to have my mistress back and when we both realized that her schooling was over (aside from her clinical fellowship which is just work anyway) we could both breath a sigh of relief. Things were much more flirty and playful between us and leaning towards femdom and FLR. On occasion when we were in private she’d greet me with a loving mistress slap to my face or an extreme nipple pinching and god do I love it. She can really get get on my nipples and I mean hard and it hurts like hell but I love it and love the fact that she does it. I think she really enjoys putting me in a little bit of pain, there’s even been a couple of times when she’s nailed me between the legs. Nothing crazy hard but it certainly reminds me of my position. If I ever shown an expression of pain (because I’d never vocalize it) she reminds me that she gave birth, you can’t compete with that.

My biggest enjoyment so far is witnessing Wonder Woman becoming more bold every day. There is a kind of confidence in our roles now that wasn’t necessarily there before and that’s allowed us to be more exploratory. A couple of months ago I’m not sure what got up mistress’s sleeve but she was very into giving me anal play. I want to say prior to this week I had gotten mistress worked up enough that she allowed me to give her anal which she thoroughly enjoyed. She’s doesn’t allow me to do that to her often but it’s always so good for her (and me ) when it happens. I might be over thinking this but the next week she was a horny devil and let’s just say she was doing all the penetrating. She was really enjoying using her fingers on me and I think (and hope) we’re working towards her fist, she was really making me feel her hand and I was just melting and awestruck by this show of incredible sexiness and dominance from her. Usually after I’ve cum I don’t want my butt played with but she changed that lol. I had already cum and she tells me she wants me to again. I was saying I wasn’t sure if I could and then all of the sudden I feel her hand between my legs, she’d already been playing back there so I was well lubed and she just slid them into and started fucking me. In the past I would’ve wanted her to stop but it’s different now. This was another moment where I felt deeply physically and mentally submissive to her, the way she just took over and started fingering me and the attitude she exuded left me in her full control. I started to get hard again without even touching myself and she made me cum in under a minute and I had already cum before that! That’s never happened that quickly for me, I didn’t want her to stop playing with me either.

As I’ve often found sometimes life gets in the way of what you want and sometimes to be a good friend you have to make sacrifices... This last February, on my birthday as a matter of fact, we let my best friend temporarily move in. He was going through a bad break up and needed a place to stay for a month before he went back to work. He works out of state for half the year so we knew he had a deadline he would have to leave by. We figured we were going to lose some privacy with him moving in but we could deal with that for a month to help a friend. Oh did I mention he has two dogs too, did I also mention we have three little dogs lol. Luckily the dogs all got a long fine for the most part but it was a pretty crowded house. To our luck (sarcasm) (as well as the rest of the world’s luck) covid hit. Wonder Woman was let go from her new job, I was furloughed for the time being, our son was home from school for the time being and the cherry on top was learning our friend needed to stay with us for an additional month!

Among all the other things that happened that was certainly a gut punch for us. In one way I was lucky enough to have all this time off but now we didn’t have the privacy to enjoy ourselves although I was very happy to be spending this time with Wonder Woman. Unfortunately the whole time my friend stayed with us I remained unbelted, looking back it probably didn’t have to be that way and I think mistress was being kind in not putting that kind of pressure on me. It was also on me too though, I’m sure if I would’ve put my belt back on mistress would’ve happily taken the keys. Nevertheless our FLR persevered, she was and is still in charge and mistress made sure my friend saw how well I respected and treated her. He even pointed out a few times that I was a good person for how well I take care of my wife. I wanted him to see how well I treat her, my friend could take a lesson from us on how to properly treat a lady.

With the lack of privacy everything was pretty much confined to the bedroom and of course we had fun in there, we always do . But mistress was being playful in ways I had never seen. One afternoon she pulled me into our bedroom and quietly locked the door. She pulled my pants down and started rubbing me, when I tried to be touchy with her she wouldn’t allow it which of course made me harder. She gave me an intense handjob and of course I came quickly and hard, she had cupped the head of my penis to collect all the cum. She then gave me a naughty look and slap/rubbed my cum on my face. Talk about shock, that was a first for us and oh my god did I love it. She wiped the rest on my shirt, told me to clean up and then just walked out of the room. I stood there stunned and in awe of her for a moment before I could collect my thoughts to go clean up.

When we were fully alone (I.e. everyone in bed and our door locked) I could pamper my mistress intimately. Things really had changed this year because she started to let me give her oral a hell of a lot more than she used too. When we kicked this whole chastity thing off 5 years ago I thought I would be giving Wonder Woman oral on a nightly basis. That was sadly not to be and it wasn’t because I was bad at it either. There was a lot going on back then and Wonder Woman was just more shy about that activity and it really took her getting into the mood for me to be allowed to give her oral. It certainly wasn’t that she didn’t enjoy it but I think there was an element of self consciousness where she was afraid that I might not think it was very pleasant or fresh down there making her less inclined to offer her goddess temple. I can certainly appreciate her being shy and worried about being fresh, who doesn’t want to seem perfect when they’re presenting their privates up close lol. What I failed to help her understand is that her goddess temple is always perfect, I love her female scent and it just draws me in making me want her more. I think she now understands how I feel and how much I enjoy going down on her. I hope that puts her at ease and gives her more confidence knowing that when I’m giving her oral. I’m really enjoying the uptick in the amount of oral sex I’m allowed to give her lately and we very much both get into it. There is nothing I love more than when she starts grinding into my face the more excited she gets. I never realized how useful the tip of my nose could be other than it’s intended purpose.

I bought a special leash and collar for us, the leash handle says mistress and the collar says slut all in rhinestones and silver. Mistress very much likes this gift and it lights me up knowing she truly enjoys receiving things like this that are lifestyle related. We’ve had the leash and collar for a while now but again there isn’t a lot of opportunity to wear around the house when your kid is home because there is no school. To my immense enjoyment and surprise one late evening, I walked into our bedroom after finishing some chores and mistress was waiting for me naked on our bed. In her hands was my collar with SLUT emblazoned on the side, she opened the buckle and motioned for me to come forward. I crawled onto the bed, my head was just above her crotch when she put the collar around my neck and fastened the buckle. She then took the leash wrapping it around her hands a few times and the pulled down on it and pushing my head down between her legs with her other hand. I was immediately hard and went on to give her the best oral sex she’s ever had. She came 5 times and let me know that that night was going to be a hard night to beat. I love trying to break my previous records.

That’s all I have time to type out now but I promise I have more for later.

 

I had commented in my last message about how my mistress has changed in regards to oral sex. My comment was more stating that I thought I’d be giving her more oral during the start of our FLR lifestyle which didn’t initially end up being the case. Then this last year there was a major change in her desire for receiving oral pleasure. This has made me immensely happy as I love going down on her and it makes me feel so submissive and in the right head space when my face is buried between her legs and she’s grinding into me.

Last night she commented how she can’t believe she wasn’t more receptive to my willingness (almost desperation) to pleasure her this way. In the past I’d really have to warm her up before she would allow me to do it. Last night she told me that she loves that she can push my head between her legs anytime now, I start kissing and licking and she’s instantly turned on and wanting more. This was an impossibility in the past, even just a year ago, there is a new kind of intensity and confidence that radiates from her inner goddess. We’ve found we both truly love her forcefulness, it’s a huge turn on and so exciting to be led around in such a way by mistress. The emotional and physical stimulation from feeling her hand on the top or back of my head, guiding me to her female temple and holding me between her legs is so overwhelmingly wonderful and gives me a tingly sensation all through my body at just the thought.

As we continue our journey in seeing other ideas that are peaking her interest. We have a set of chairs to build for our new dining room table and said said how she’d prefer that I be naked except for my belt and collar, building the chairs while she sipped wine. She looked truly excited at the idea, looks like we might be delving into CFNM scenarios when privacy permits

 

I’m in the blue prints phase of building a queening chair right now. I bought some “plans” for a couple of styles of queening chairs but the instructions are garbage so I’m drawing up my own on . I’m going to post it all in a thread here (blue prints, pics and instructions) when I have everything complete. Maybe Lucy will make it a sticky thread so others can see the plans more easily. I’m hoping if the build goes well enough I might just start building and selling them via eBay or Etsy.

 

Thanks for your comment. I enjoy typing my thoughts out, it helps me see the overall picture and the changes that have taken place in my mistress and I as individuals and our relationship as we continue our FLR.

 

The powers of the outfits...

Some women have an arsenal of clothing in their closets and like my mistress possibly multiple closets. Something for every occasion and even that special hidden away little black dress for those really special occasions. Seeing certain outfits on women can make them fairly powerful especially when it encapsulates their feminine beauty and attitude. Some women know how to wield this power well and to their advantage. In fact as I just typed out that last sentence I was reminded of a high school memory that proves this point. There was a pretty girl I liked in high school her name was Kristi, we had lots of mutual friends. While talking with some of our mutual friends I told one of Kristi’s friend’s that I wanted to ask Kristi out and her friend excitedly said I should. I was really looking forward to the next day and feeling confident about popping the question and I ended up running into Kristi near our lockers which were near each other. I knew I would be a little nervous about asking her out because that’s just the way I am (submissive nature I suppose). As it turned out I really wasn’t prepared when I saw her, she had to decided to wear black leather boots, leather skirt and a cute top with a leather jacket. My mouth was slightly ajar and I was stating, when I regained my composure I nervously asked her out. She of course knew I was going to ask her out hence the outfit. I figured she was going to say yes but she held all the power after I saw her dressed up like that and as they say the ball was in her court. Naturally as most high school relationships go it fizzled our after a couple of dates but I learned something that day, the power of the outfit. Of course I didn’t comprehend this power until much later in life.

This brings me to a story I read a few years back and I wish I could remember where I found the blog and I think it’s actually a fairly popular femdom blog. Anyway it’s a hotwife’s blog and she proceeds to lay out how she met this slightly older man at a wedding and he asks her on a date. Fast forward however long and he expresses his desires to be her chastity sub and for her to cuckold him if she wished too. Long story short their relationship heads down that path and his mistress really starts to delve into the lifestyle. Her cuckold really enjoys seeing her in leather, she was a bit opposed at first but once she really understood the power she could hold over a man based on her beauty and sexy attire became an addictive drug to her. One example she sites was when she walked into a department store dressed to the nines. She described herself in stocking with a garter belt, high heels, tight leather skirt that allowed all to see she was wearing a garter belt as the garter and straps outline was visible through her skirt. I think she was wearing a leather top of some sort too but I don’t quite remember. What happened next was hysterical, she approached the young man who was waiting to help incoming customers and he locked his eyes on her. Next thing the woman noticed was that this young man instantly sprouted an obvious erection that he was unable to hide lol. The hotwife explains that she has encountered this on a few occasions and really enjoys the gawking looks and uncontrollable erections when dressing this way Lol.

Which brings me to my mistress... I’ve always had a big latex/pvc and leather outfit fetish. Very early in our relationship (like 15 years ago) I surprised my mistress (then girlfriend) with a fetish outfit. One evening before she came over to my flat I placed a black pvc ruffle skirt and sexy black pvc top under the covers of my bed. We ended up in my bedroom a little later on where I pulled the covers back to show her what I bought. I was so nervous and was trying to gauge the look on her face whether it was surprise and horror or surprise and excitement. As it turned out it was exciting for her that I had bought this. She put it on for me and god damn did she look so beautiful in it. She proceeded to be very naughty that night .

However this ended up creating a monster in me. I loved seeing her in that outfit so much that I pretty much put it out for her nearly every time I thought we were going to have sex. Then I bought more outfits and pushed even harder for her to wear them for me. It got to a point that we could fill a regular closet with all the outfits. She looked so sexy and so beautiful in the various pvc clothing I had purchased but I was failing in making her feel sexy and beautiful. Then a Little while later mistress turned the faucet off, she flat out refused to wear anymore “Sex” outfits for me as they were termed.

What I had failed to show/explain to mistress back then was that it was her that I found exciting and beautiful and the fetish outfits just complemented her. I never let her know how well she rocked those outfits in front of me and how she made me feel. In my mistress’s mind I was dressing her up like a slut and she didn’t think I appreciated her body and beauty because I was always wanting to dress her/cover up for sex to be my sex toy. This was far from how I really felt but based on my behavior of always asking her to wear that stuff she kind of felt kind of used. So that was pretty much the end of those outfits except maybe she would throw one on for my birthday if I was lucky and deserved it.

Fast forward to Xmas of 2019, our FLR and chastity lifestyle was thriving, mistress really picked up steam domming me. I always liked putting together a few side Xmas gifts that her and I would unwrap in private. Usually some sex toys, a vibrator, dildos etc. I was on AliExpress looking at sex toys when naughty outfits starting popping up as I continued to look. I started browsing them and naturally found a few I really liked. At this point I think it had been like 6 or 7 years that mistress had not worn a fetish outfit for me and I was missing seeing her dressed up like that. I had really realized the magnitude of my mistake well beyond this point and why I made her feel bad about wearing the other outfits I’d previously bought her. I decided to take a chance and ordered a pleather underbust corset with a top harness that went around her breasts and looped around her neck, an above the knee pleather skirt and crotch less stocking (the top and skirt are pictured in my album) among other toys. I was nervous about presenting the outfit to her based on the past experience I’d created.

When we were alone Xmas night, I brought a couple of gift bags and handed them to her. She giggled assuming/knowing what they were and proceeded to pull out her gifts. She sorted the gifts into two piles labeling which ones were for her and which ones were actually for me lol. Oh no, I blew it again I had thought. She pulled me into her arms and gave me a big kiss and told me how much she liked it all including the outfit, however it wasn’t to be worn that night.

Fast forward a few months later, I knew she had forgotten about the outfit. When I knew we were going to be alone I took a chance and set the outfit out for her. I was doing chores around the house and mistress happened to step into our bedroom, without my knowledge she put it all on and asked me to come into the bedroom. I walked in and my jaw dropped and I was instantly hard in my belt. She asked if I liked it (she knew I did) and then handed me the keys to my belt. I could barely get the ring off when my cock fully sprang to life. She was in awe of how quickly I had gotten so hard and was rather pleased with herself and how she looked. She knelt down and gave me the most incredible blowjob that lasted about 20 seconds and she allowed me to cum all over her corset and skirt. “Clean me up slut” she had said to me motioning towards a towel on the floor. I quickly obeyed and after cleaning her up I just kind of stood in daze.
Her last comment to herself before taking the outfit off was, “I didn’t realize how powerful this was”.

We haven’t had enough privacy this year for her to indulge me/us with that treat again but she knows it makes her feel sexy and she knows the power that she and the dominatrix outfit can hold over me. So incredibly sexy and such a turn on, I love the power she hold over me!

 

I had the same exact issue with much of what I bought for my mistress. I’d say a good 80% of what I bought was very uncomfortable for her and just like you said it was only worn once. At one point I bought her a catsuit that was semi custom made and wasn’t cheap, she couldn’t stand wearing it for more than a couple of minutes. These types of outfits look great in photo shoots but aren’t very practical beyond that. I think the women that actually are into wearing the full domme outfits put up with a great deal of discomfort but do so because they know they look amazing and the power it gives them.

A little over a year ago my mistress and I went through our bag of naughty clothing to see what was realistic to keep and what was going in the trash. A lot of it went in the trash but at the same time I felt good that she wanted to keep some of it. Really the stuff that was thrown out was truly not wearable for her or it was fetish wear that cast her as the submissive which is now not acceptable

 

Telling someone....

So this isn’t anything new but definitely wanted to include this in my journal as I forgot to mention this earlier. Femdom, FLR and chastity is a fun secret but it’s even more fun when mistress tells someone about you/us. This was last year I think in early fall, I was working on our computer and mistress was in our bedroom. I started to receive texts from mistress asking me about our chastity time frame, I.e how long we’ve been at this lifestyle, how long is the longest she’s locked me etc... I thought it was funny that she’d ask me that, maybe she was just curious and wanted to know because she truly couldn’t remember. In all fairness she had so much going on our first few years of chastity with her masters program I’m not surprised that she didn’t know. Also, keeping count of how many days I’ve been locked and how many orgasms she’s allowed me over the course of time is not her thing. Things just happen however and whenever she wants them to happen.

When I returned to our bedroom she appeared to be speed texting someone on her phone. She also had a naughty grin on her face and then it dawned on me what she was telling someone about us. I figured it was her best friend and I turned out to be right when I asked her. I laid down next to her in the bed and asked what she was telling her friend, mistress replied “everything” so matter of factly. I instantly got hard in my belt, it was sooo hot that her friend now knew about our dynamic and that my wife holds a key to a locking, inescapable chastity belt. Mistress admitted to me that she was incredibly wet from having this conversation with her friend.

After she finished her conversation with her friend she told me where the key was so I could release my throbbing cock. Telling her friend that she was my dominant put her in an incredibly dominant mood and she owned my ass for the rest of the evening. It was a while ago and I don’t remember everything that transpired that night other than her being very forceful with me and both of us feeling amazing afterwards.

There was a different kind of confidence boost after mistress had told her friend, I could really feel and see it. Although mistress has admitted several times throughout our lifestyle how much she loves chastity, to me it seemed like it was still a little too taboo for her and didn’t want to appear as the obvious dominant in our relationship at that time. Of course we both don’t want our families knowing about the chastity side of things but there’s nothing wrong with mistress expressing herself as the dominant in our relationship. As she’s become more comfortable she’s had me do things for her in front of others that she could have easily done for herself. But really to anyone on the outside looking in just made me appear more gentlemanly and attentive than anything else. Friends and family certainly noticed my behavior and how good I am to my mistress.

After talking to a couple of people here at the mansion about my mistress making the dynamics of our relationship known to her friend I brought up that their seemed to be a different heir of confidence about her. It was @Violet noir that pointed out that telling her friend and her friend being amazed and excited about our lifestyle gave my mistress a kind of approval that she didn’t have before and perhaps needed. Her friend finding what we do exciting versus weird I think helped encourage mistress to dip her toes into what we’re doing a little deeper and be more open and less shy talking about femdom. Someone to talk to and bounce ideas off of, that’s why I like the mansion so much because here is a whole community of people with similar interests. Mistress really has had no interest in joining the mansion to connect with other female dommes so she’s never had the benefit of interacting with someone who’s into what she’s into. Having her friend know, even though her friend isn’t domme still gives her someone to discuss the ongoings of our relationship. Her friend from what I know is no prude either so I imagine there’s no awkwardness in their discussions only intrigue.

I wonder what her friend thinks when she sees me, maybe visualizing the steel belt that goes around my waist and the steel tube and ring that protects mistress’s property from being tampered with. I make it a point to serve them both whenever her friend comes over. This just consists of being very polite and respectful
as well as serving them drinks and bringing their finished plates into the kitchen for them. I can tell her friend enjoys the pampering too and enjoys seeing me treat my mistress so well. I want to be mistress’s and her friends butler slave for an evening sometime. Where I can serve them drinks and a nice dinner. It would be fun to do in my leather shorts while wearing my slut collar, I don’t think mistress is quite on board for that yet but maybe someday lol.