Is it common to want men more when in chastity

It isn't unique, but not sure how common a desire. Seems many here talk about relations with men, as part of their submission to their wife/KH/girl friend, rather than a personal urge. What the chastity may be doing is enhancing your inner desires for men, as your sexual frustration builds.

 

In my opinion, you are either gay, bi or straight. To avoid offending anyone, I must point out that other sexualities are now available.

My point being that wearing a cage isn't likely to convert you from one to another (e.g. straight to gay), if the feelings aren't there in the first place.

Perhaps you just need an excuse in a "The-cage-made-me-do-it" kind of way?

Best to discuss these feelings with your enforcer/key holder and see what she/he makes of it.

 

Since your cock is currently out of the equation, I guess a stronger urge for an unfettered man makes sense.

Chastity and servicing other men seem to pair frequently in porn, but I’m unsure of how common that is outside of film sets.

I do agree with @Mojoman, though: I think that the experience of chastity is helping you flesh out cravings you’ve had all along, whatever your sexual orientation: heteroflexible, maybe?

 

There is something about being locked up, unable to satisfy your own desires, that releases hidden urges. Personally, I like the feeling of having those urges bubble to the surface.

 

If you do a man and you make him spurt and he says you very good at doing it it dose make you want to do it more. I do it cos it make me feel important but I like Ladys more.

 

Your opinion is pretty close to the major opinions of research. Basically our sexuality is on a scale with fully straight on one side and fully homosexual on the other. We typically are in a range where we vary some.

For simplicity, I’ll include pansexual in that range as my definition of pan sexuality is being attracted to people not bits.

As for desires. Those too vary. And being locked up and being denied affects us.

My suggestion is to enjoy life. Don’t get hung up on definitions and what people think. Be safe. Have fun and enjoy the ride.

 

I firmly believe that males in their 40’s to 50’s start experiencing the urge to be with their same sex. While chastity may help bring it on , the desire was already there. They also have the urge to be feminized and to start wearing ladies panties and much more.


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Spot on mistress....as usual

 

Being in chastity, and therefore unable to physically act on your desires, gives you the unconscious freedom to explore your wider fantasies. There is no fear of actually having to act on them, so you feel more relaxed about contemplating them.

 

Do you see yourself servicing them or being serviced? If you find yourself thinking of men, perhaps you should role play. Get a dildo and see what a man would feel like. Fondle him, suck him, or take him inside you. That may be real enough to put your desires in focus.

 

Homosexuality is pretty gosh darn common among mammals. Not saying you're gay, but bisexuality coming forward after a period of denial is pretty reasonable and understandable.

 

I think maybe, after a period of denial, we get horny enough that we can no longer hide (even from ourselves) what turns us on.

 

being in chastity makes one submissive, and increases their horniness, and sensuality. I find its naturally feminizing in this regard. But also in doing so there is a point I crossed where I began to think about sex in new ways. I began to explore my body and forgot about my penis, and focus on my anus as my new sex organ. Now I want to give pleasure with my holes and serve an Owner that way.

 

At the risk of repeating what has already been said, I don’t think chastity influences your sexual orientation. Like you said, you’ve always been bicurious, so it’s possible your openness to exploring that part of you correlates with the same openness you’d need to explore your masochistic tendencies. I imagine the same is true for many people who like being feminized: they have always been interested in a certain gender expression, and it’s not until embracing their masochistic side with chastity and FLR that they could explore this other part of them as well.

Strange how the masochistic urge to be repressed helps open us up to the other things we really desire, but I’m glad for it.

 

Your brain is hyperfocused on sexual energy around your cock because it is caged. Unless you start to choose another cock over her pussy irl out of chastity, not just in the adrenline hormone horny stage, then I wouldnt over think it.
You may find its your brain exploring ideas - could be a cuckold fantasy being formed rather than a sexual orientation concern. Good to talk but dont dwell

 

I am gay and have played with situational chastity, with no real changes to my desires. Because of low quality and infrequent erections as a side effect of a prescription drugs have self locked. I chose to self lock because if I am in chastity I don’t have to explain why my dick is soft. Although I have experienced the full range of man on man sex, I have found that since I have been in long term chastity I want penetration more than I did pre chastity. I have always enjoyed being penetrated, but after an extended lock up I crave penetration to the exclusion of other sex acts.

 

I have been allowed only anal stimulation since being locked, and now it is my biggest turn on, there are times I crave it also, and my madam is always entertained when she sees me spurt on my cage from having a dildo or her fist on me.
Being bi We have talked about finding a real man to fuck me, but it hasn’t happened yet.

 

While I'm a virgin and only been solo practicing chastity on and off, I do have noticed mental changes when abstaining from orgasm. The longest being about a month.

The mental effects begin to ramp up during the first week. I begin to crave for satisfaction and become much more open to thoughts that I'm, if you will, normally not so intrested in. Penile stimulation can feel really good, but without orgasm it's just edging and will be more like pouring gasoline into the fire. Since that doesn't provide a satisfaction I'll begin to feel more draw to my anal toys. I also find prostate to bring much more pleasure during times of abstaining from penile orgasms. A good prostate massaging session gives a feeling of satisfaction, even if not very long lasting.

Normally and during periods of chastity I'm not interested in men for relationship. However when prostate massaging becomes the only source of any kind of sexual satisfaction I become more open to anything that can provide it. Even being taken by man becomes desireable if not something to yearn for. Also things that may be thought as a sort of prerequisite for the satisfaction become much more appealing, thereby increasing the level of submissiveness too. For example my normal reaction to sucking a cock would be met with disinterest, but under these conditions it's exciting all the sudden.

Also the need to find a woman/dom increases and there also becomes thoughts of finding a master in lack of finding a dom to provide the needs. I'll be also much more inclined to purchase fetish products, also the kind I normally wouldn't.

So the mental state where I would under normal conditions desire to fuck women and in part of it provide cunnilingus leads in chastity to the desire to be fucked by women and men, and also to the desire to provide both with oral services. Thereby it may be assumed that human brain is wired to desire a sexual satisfaction and will alter the mental state to desire the acts that will provide it with such, indirectly and directly. Evolution would also support this kind of mental behauviour in order to adjust to changing environment. A bit perverted way to look into it, but the basis is there.

 

The simple answer is when you're horny AF you will want to do lots of things you don't normally want to do. Or that you'd otherwise feel prohibited from doing because of social norms etc.

Yes, this means you're probably bi-curious as your profile pic suggests. I don't think being locked up makes people bi- if you are, you probably already were.

Before I was ever interested in chastity I knew I was bi. Being horny makes all your sexual desires stronger, so ones that you push away (particularly those you might consider taboo) start to come to the forefront.

Just remember to be safe if you ever do anything. Some people get horny and rush into dumb things without thinking first.

 

As a gay man, I feel compelled to say that same-sex attraction and the desire to be feminized are two entirely different matters. I have been a bottom since the first time I had anal intercourse at age 12. For me, being in chastity will take my penis out of the equation when I have sex and will, in a fashion, help my body to affirm my own sexuality.

 

I think that I need to clarify what I said. I'm not implying that there is anything wrong with men seeking exploring their feminine side and desires. Perhaps, I would have been better if I had simply said that gender identity and sexual orientation are two different things.

 

I have found that being caged for long periods has given me to thinking about my sexuality and I have become bi-curious. Those feelings may have been under the surface for some time and are just now come to the fore.

 

I have started having dreams of being taken by a shemale and suck her hard and have her pound me till we cum.