My journey to FLR marriage with husband locked in chastity

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    Pegging is amazingly satisfying both physically and psychologically. I suppose it is instinctive, but the feeling of roughly penetrating a man and sensing his reactions is very powerful for me. It is also an intense physical connection, I still enjoy the intimacy of being sexual with my husband, as long as I am in control. It has evolved in terms of being more creative as far as positions mostly. He still doesn't enjoy it, it's just something he has to endure, but he gets pleasure out of knowing that he is pleasing me.
     
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    Because he is a docile, well behaved boy who obeys me without question.
     
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    That's the beauty of the belt. It is not only a chastity tool but it is thoroughly emasculating.
     
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    They will find you. An assertive, dominant woman will sense weakness in a man and prey upon it.
     
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    According to @xcitex2, he gets really embarrassed in having to use public restrooms while wearing his device. This is such a turn on knowing my sub in in such a pinch. Rofl!
     
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    I don't know why the difficulty with using the restroom. I just use a stall.
     
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    Some restaurants/bars we visit are open stalls.
     
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    I would say the arch very emasculating especially due to hiding the bulge compared to the ball type of devices. Normally I wouldn't find public restrooms humiliating but have a ball type of chastity.
     
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    To be honest I have overlooked posts about FLR because i thought it was a femdom marriage. The past few weeks I've been reading and discovered that our marriage is an FLR marriage. So many similarities, wife was oldest of four with responsible for monitoring them. So she was assertive while I was shy and laid back. Our marriage has certainly evolved almost unnoticed to either of us. Great topic!
     
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    I find i need more than one ejaculation to feel I have emptied myself and feel comfortable. My wife limits me to only one knowing it gives me a headstart for my next period of denial.
     
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    An "attitude adjustment " for me is a good hot soapy enema...
     
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    #337 Alceste, Apr 26, 2020
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    Ah, got it. Sorry if my post came across as critical, I did not mean it that way.
     
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    You are fine but thank you for being considerate. It’s hard because everyone on here is from all over the world and not know what dining or going out might look like.
     
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    You're quite welcome. I am on the west coast and most of the stuff out here is recent construction. Everything has doors.
     
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    Sheltering in place has brought an increased intimacy and intensity to my relationship with my husband. The reality is that because of my demanding work schedule we hadn't had an extended period together like this and it has been interesting and positive for us as an FLR couple.

    On the one hand my working from home 24/7 has put a lot of pressure on my husband. Although I remotely micromanaged him it is much more severe when I am physically at home. I believe that idle time is bad for him so I keep him busy with chores full time. Having him available to me all day also has meant that his tongue is working overtime and that his ass has been getting a workout.

    But all this has also brought us closer together, and increased our appreciation for each other. At first I wasn't sure what it would be like to spend so much time together but I realized how the FLR dynamic provides structure and order in our house and make this period a smooth one. In a lot of ways I will miss being at home together to this degree. He undoubtably makes my life easier being at my beck and call, but at the same time he not only has purpose but receives positive feedback for his service. His self esteem is at an all time high, which may seem strange given that he is locked in a belt and under my control, but in subservience he has found direction and peace.
     
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    I would love to hear more.
     
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    I myself understand.
     
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    What would you like to hear more about?

    I enjoy sharing about my experience as a dominant woman in an FLR but I'm not sure what aspects people are interested in.
     
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    I like to hear e rushing. I want to learn as much as I can about the lifestyle.
     
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    Everything sorry about the auto correct
     
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    Find the dynamic of the relationship very intriguing. Not often I heard about a relationship where the woman is so obvious in control. Love the you keep him in the neosteel arch would you recommend that belt for long term use? Would it be a belt you would recommend intrudincing someone to chasisty? Can it still be used for pegging?
     
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    I started my husband out with a CB cage which proved to be not secure enough. I transitioned him to a Neosteel Arch and now mostly keep him in a Neosteel Total She-Male. Both of the Neosteel belts are excellent products and suitable for long term use, in my experience. They are psychologically devastating because they are fully secure and completely emasculate the man. So I do recommend their quality but would warn you that it is going to be a harsh introduction for someone new to chastity. Even though the cage wasn't secure enough it served as a good introduction before going to the full belt. The Neosteel belts are very hard from a mental standpoint and my husband has had to learn to endure the experience and it hasn't been fun for him.
     
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    How long has it been since your husband had a full orgasm? Will he ever have another?

    (I've enjoyed following your journey. Thank you for sharing it.)
     
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    Thats awesome. I started out with the cb 6000. Then but a stainless Chinese made one, it was to heavy. The third was a ht3 nub, it was light but the lock failed. It tried to get problem with a popped out testi. However the key broke, we panicked and cut the cage off. My new one is on its way. It is a stainless Chinese one called the HUG.
     
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    My husband is released every Sunday, as long as he has behaved during the week, so he has full orgasms on a regular basis. It's a simple carrot and stick approach.

    During the week he has to work hard to please me, complete the household chores, and then meet his target body weight, but if he does those things, which he almost always does, then he receives his reward. Of course he would prefer not to be locked in the belt almost all the time, but he isn't deprived of regular sexual release either.
     
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