FLR but Mistress doesn't know it?!

It's an interesting one for sure.

Let me tell you about my failed marriage (which didn't include chastity etc). My ex wife had little or no interest in sex full stop, she was quite happy to spend my money and to hide the ever increasing cracks in our marriage we spend most weekends socialising with friends. The point I am trying to make is that you/we would need to know whether there is any sexual chemistry, of any sort, between them. If not then I suspect the long road to divorce or separation has already begun.

I used to love my wife to bits but when you end up sitting on opposite sides or the room every night, have your arm removed if you try simply to cuddle in bed, and have intercourse twice a year if lucky, you realise that at some time you either have to live your life effectively as a single man, take a lover or divorce.

 

@MrsChastityXO Your 2nd paragraph seems to suggest they live together? Is that the case? What is their current relationship? Are they friends? Share a house? Past lovers? My initial reaction to your 2nd thought is creepy stalker guy. If they discussed it and she's not interested doubling down seems troubling in that it doesn't respect her wishes. Unrequited love (or worship) can really suck and be hard to deal with. Still it's better to rip that band-aid off then go further down the rabbit hole.

 

I can relate to the question. There are too undisclosed factors to provide any direct advice. I am in the beginnings of an FLR with my spouse. I say beginnings because I dont think she has fully embraced that concept yet. I see it as my job to show her (not tell her) why this would work well for us.

Keep in mind that we already have a relationship. I want to make that relationship stronger by becoming more responsive to her needs. I dont want to put things into turmoil by introducing too much at once. Therefore, I practice chastity with her knowledge and focus on ways to serve her better. This allows me to introduce ideas incrementally while she gets used to being treated like the Goddess she is. I dont think this approach would work to try to enter a relationship, but it does seem to be working (so far) to slowly transition one.

I hope this helps

 

My assumption is this is a married or long term couple where the wife has sexually abandoned the husband who has turned to chastity because masturbation becomes a soulless, life sucking activity that resolves a symptom of the problem without treating the underlying issue of a lack of intimacy.

If what I assumed is true, he didn't consent to her actions which means she's forced a lifestyle upon him. He's just attempting to make the best of a bad situation and it is selfish of her to just immediately shut that down.

 

Having read all of the above, I think that he is being pragmatic and apparently pragmatism is working for them.

 

So wonderful to learn that a similar approach worked. Thank you for sharing. What appeals most to me about this approach is that it becomes something that we both evolve into rather than asking her to accept pre-existing ideas of male fantasy and my own expectations.

I will say that the changes are slow and almost imperceptible, but they accumulate over time.

 

I feel like it takes time for many women to overcome societal pressures of what marriage is supposed to be. A few come to realize the benefits of FLR with chastity slave husbands, and we adore these women. The world needs more of them.

Others seem stuck on some imaginary normative lifestyle and blame their partner for being "weird." Like we had a choice? The rest fall somewhere in between, like being indecisive, and that almost is the hardest because the hubby thinks it might work but it either never does or takes years of trial and error.

 

I see, this information drastically changes my prior answer. I see no problem with the husband treating his wife like a goddess as long as he understands she might not participate. For myself I can't do this one sided like that, but if he can more power to him. I would just caution that it can eventually breed resentment if it is one sided. The husband needs to understand and recognize this if it comes to that.