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    ... Not really MrsChastity but I suppose we're not posting real names on here for obvious reasons.

    I'm 30 years old and I have been with my *now* slave since I was 17 years old. When I was 18, we tried experimenting and one of the things we tried was tying each other up. I found it awful but my slave, however, found it exhilarating. After that, he wanted to be tied up every time we were intimate and I used to find it so off-putting that I actually put a complete stop to it.

    After a few years, he suggested buying a cock cage, weirdly because he thought it would make him last longer. We got it and as time went by, I would leave him locked up longer and longer. I started out small, like a few minutes but now I leave him locked up for months on end if that's what I want to do.

    My slave is naturally what I would call a domineering alpha male with too much self-confidence (which I should probably just call it what it is - arrogance). He's a very good looking bloke, very clever, nice body and the iciest blue eyes you've ever seen. After we'd been playing with chastity for a couple of years, he and I had a very very very bad row about money over the phone when I was on my lunch break at work. It was so bad I was in tears in the middle of the street, it was very embarrassing. I snapped and told him he would never talk to me like that again and he would never see the money ever again.

    From that point on, I took over control of the finances, the bills, the banking, everything. Everything was put into my name. He got rid of his credit card and I got one instead. We opened a joint bank account and only I have the cards for it.

    I definitely think that becoming the Domme I am now has been a journey, I used to naturally be very submissive and easy to bully. Now I wear the trousers and my confidence has gone through the roof. We are at a stage now that what I say goes, although I do still have to battle with my slave's natural defiant personality. We have, though, in the last couple of days come up with a new way to tackle this and I must say it is going really well now and I don't know why we didn't think of it sooner. I'll post somewhere else to talk about that.

    If anyone is here and wants to talk to someone who's not into hard kink but is curious about locking up your man then please feel free to talk to me.

    Thank you for reading this. I've got lots of questions which I'll probably get around to asking in time.

    MC xoxo
     
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    Welcome to the Mansion.
     
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    Thirteen years! Congratulations on your bond with each other. And most of them have been spent with him learning to submit to you. Welcome to the Mansion. I'm sure you'll have much to contribute.
    :)
     
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    Thank you :)
     
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    Haha, thanks!
     
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    Welcome here,
    I am impressed, you become a mistress at 17 years, an age where most of us are still child. What push you to this kind of mind? I'm very curious and happy to see you here.
    We have a lot to learn from you.
     
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    Hi, I don't know if I've worded it badly but I didn't become a Mistress at 17, it was technically around 24 but I don't think I started feeling it until I was about 27. That's what I meant by it's been a very slow process.

    I met my husband when I was 17, we got engaged when I was 22, we bought him a cock cage when I was 24, I was 25 when we got married and we've now got a baby and I'm 30 years old. I was 26 when I decided that I wanted complete control over all aspects of my relationship and chastity stopped being a "sex game" and became a staple part of our new female-led relationship.

    I'd say compared to most people on here, I'm probably more vanilla. I don't dress in PVC, rubber or corsets, although I find it very attractive. I like whips and chains but only if I'm restraining my slave. I HATE being in pain myself, although I do enjoy inflicting it. I would never consider meeting up or taking on additional subs, although my slave doesn't necessarily know that and I do enjoy threatening him with it.

    In fact, I would say my slave is more into it than I am in some respects as all of our research into this has been off the back of him looking into it first.

    I wouldn't say I'm not open to trying new things, but some of the stuff I see on Twitter and on the internet just feels like a bit much to me and I'm happy at the moment with the set up we have. Especially the fact I no longer have to work and he brings in all the money. I've even made him stop working a 9-5 and now he works from home so I can even control how he works.
     
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    Hi there and welcome to the mansion!
     
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    Great introduction and follow up. You have us all a very understandable intro to yourself, so thank you. Welcome, and I look for ward to your future contributions.
     
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    Welcome to our community and I hope you continue to post and share your advice.
     
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    Great introduction, and your husband get into without problem? He loves it? even when you get into full FLR?
    And now how is your life, does he do the chores and so... I know I am very curious but it could help my KH to learn how to makes her FLR works.
     
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    Welcome to CM. I am certain that you will enjoy this site.
     
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    Hi and welcome!
     
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    Welcome. Your path sounds somewhat similar to our path. And congrats on the baby!

    Our marriage definitely works best when she rules and I obey. I definitely obey better the stronger she rules. Otherwise, we seem like any other couple.
     
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    I'm impressed about your introduction, congratulations and welcome!
     
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    Welcome!
    The process You've been going through does sound familiar in some way or form for sure. Your 'relative'vanilla description especially, made me think of my GF.
    Your slave is a lucky man, i hope he realizes this
    Thank You for sharing,
    You all the best,
    Lexie
     
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    Welcome @MrsChastityXO. It's great to have another keyholder here, and I hope you'll get Verified Female status from L-U-C-Y.

    I don't think you're "more vanilla" than most people here. There are lots of husbands and KH wives here who are living day-to-day lives that look vanilla on the outside and are pretty vanilla on the inside too, except that he's locked and chaste and she holds the key, and they have both decided that their marriage works best when she controls his erection. Indeed, you may be stricter than the average KH here. Hope you'll share your successes and concerns and be active.
     
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    Wow-what a dramatic in your relationship. It's almost like FLR has become a trend since think I read it more and more. So you basically just play with chastity? You've haven't implemented weekly punishments? I've read about those to keep a submissive state of mind. Read about it on Elise Suttons website
     
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