At some point, when she wants to put a man in chastity, unless he is tied up, he submits and puts it on or allows her to put it on. It doesn't just go on by itself. (Yet.) That said, have any subs and slaves here refused to go back into chastity? Why did you not submit? Consequences?
I guess the consequence of an outright refusal is the end of chastity play between that particular couple.
Personally, I am weak when before a woman making a demand or giving a command, so it would difficult to refuse. After all, simply put, female dominance turns me on. Hard to say no to strong-willed women.
I think you have the answer there, we on this site by definition want to submit, and to refuse such a command without a very good reason could change or end the relationship. Not something I would risk and anyway I like the way it makes me feel even more submissive when caged.
I agree, if I was to refuse to put it back on after washing that would be an end to all play. Madam would not stand for it. So it would just be destructive to our relationship.
I asked my wife what would happen if I said I didn't want to be locked anymore and she smiled and said "Then you could take the key off. But we'd never put that cage back on again." She then told me that soon she would unlock me for an extended period of time maybe a couple months or something. I was a bit disappointed and asked why so long and she said "so we can be normal too". since then anytime i have been allowed out she has demanded that I lock myself back up. I dont know if she has changed her mind or not and I'm afraid to ask. I find the more I'm locked the less I'm willing to push her buttons in fear of repercussions.
This is the appropriate response. Either you want to be in chastity or you don't. If you want it, stay in it until SHE decides otherwise. Either she's in control or she's not - and that's what most of the fighting is about from men. They want to wear the device but still want to have control over the situation. The whole point of chastity is that *she's* in control now. She has the power. Surrender.
I asked for chastity, with a long, drawn out letter of explanation and an email full of links to articles... I LOVE being locked... I would never refuse to go back in
If I refused to have the device put back on, Mistress would remain extremely calm and say , somewhat casually, now you have dis- obeyed me, the "insurance " policy will kick in within 24 hours - essentially, Mistress would choose two or three pictures of me, normally cuffed and bound and simply post them up in the gallery here - I would never dare disobey Mistress , as I know she would show me no mercy and she knows one or two friends whom she could send even more compromising photos. Her power over me is absolute and she regularly likes to remind me of my status.
While being as virtual sub, I was commanded to go back to the chastity cage. I refused because I was told to get a reward after my anal training. In the anal training I was very obedient and I reached all goals mistress set to me. I requested to get my reward in a form of an edging but she decided not to grant it to me and requested me to go immediately back to the cage. I did not obey and then the punishment came. I was commanded to get several hits with the crop on my testicles, then apply frozen peas and go back to the chastity cage.
I would never refuse to go back in my cage. I would actually prefer never to be out of it, because I like wearing it.
I have refused to go back into chastity, well not so much refused as put it off. I got use to regular sex; but I know that after a few weeks of chastity I will get use to chastity. It's just making the transition seems like a big thing. I got in a comfort zone with the regular sex. I'm sure I'll be back into chastity soon.