Question for Dommes and subs

I would have began a lot earlier in chastity, this would have prevent me from a lot of trouble in my couple, but also the question, if you go back in time would you fuck yourself (if you are Bi or gay of course)?

 

If I could go backwards I would definitely start into Chastity at a lot younger age. I would have committed to my wife right from the start ( 35 years ago ). This lifestyle has made me a more useful and complete person.

Don’t let your fears get in the way. Embrace your inner self.

 

I think many of us wish we had discovered chastity when we were younger.

 

I don't think I would have been open to chastity at a younger age, but I would definitely advise my younger self to explore more alt sex with my college gf.

 

I had puritanicall ideological blinders on when I was young because of my extreme political leanings.

I wish that had not been the case

 

Specifically, I viewed BDSM as decadent and counter-revolutionary (while secretly being attracted to it)

 

Be careful what you wish for...Ha...Good one. My Wife(KH) has said these very words to me many times since we started our adventure into MC...
And I would have asked my Wife to lock me up along time ago. We have been together 32 years. I should have been caged 31.5 years ago...I would have told myself it is the best way to love and serve my Wife...

 

I've wished for it all my life really. I wasn't particularly careful about my earliest wishes and for that I am now eternally grateful. The reality has far exceeded everything I ever wished for.

I certainly wish there had been sites like CM available to me at a younger age (not to mention the instant access that the internet provides) governed by icons of Feminine Power like Mistress Lucy. For submissive males interested in studying the intricacies of Goddess Worship and FLRs in general, CM is a Goddess-send.

There is a strong fantasy element to CM, which is great, but there is also a firm reality-based centre, thanks largely to Mistress Lucy's hard work and dedication, which is genuinely instructive and respectful of Feminine Wisdom and encouraging of Female Leadership. It's possible here to embrace everything: fantasy and reality.

We attend a University of Goddess Worship with a highly intelligent and impossibly beautiful Head Mistress teaching us the benefits of male chastity and selflessness. Nothing I wished for when I was growing up comes close.

 

That an FLR need not be 24/7 protocol etc, and that it works for us.

 

If I could go back in time I would have liked to meet my wife when we were both younger. We would have been more able to play, have a longer time together and overall I think it would have been a better lifestyle for us. However, on the negative side I probably would not have the three wonderful children that were from my first marriage, now all grown up and make me proud to be their father. Conclusion - always look forward, you can change the future, but need to live with the past

 

I think perhaps my lifwe would have been so very much better if I had been being locked and denied a long time before I met my first wife... or the second.

But in reality our past is what makes us who we are and I'm happy with who I am.

Maybe I'd tell myself to buy some bit coins....

 

If I could send a message to my past self it would be to use the freedom I had at University to actually embrace the part of myself that I had known since shortly after starting Secondary School. And, you know, accept the offers of help and acceptance I was lucky enough to receive even if I didn't!

That would have been life changing to the point where I can't actually predict what would have resulted still less imagine it properly. Where I am now would not have been an option though, I do know that.

 

I would not hide my kink bdsm need that I had since I started having sexual thoughts. I would of told the girls I was dating and not just made some small reference to it and when felt shamed never bring it up again. I’d not allow them or anyone to stop me from being me. I’d a made it a point to not settle for a women unless they also were just as much into as I am so it’s mutually beneficial to both of us!
If we could only go back!!

 

talk about things more.

That's what I would tell my younger self about virtually every aspect of my life, to be honest.

 

I think I'd have told myself to be more confident, not so afraid of things that seemed a little out of the ordinary.
To understand that its not perverted to play with sex and toys and that done within a loving a consensual environment it can be very rewarding and satisfying.

 

been more open to be locked in chastity by my Mistress. Since being locked our Mistress/sissy relationship has got stronger.

 

Like most, I would have surrendered myself both sexually and physically to my wife many years ago. She is just now starting to embrace the lifestyle, especially bondage and discipline, after a year. I can only imagine where we would be had we started 5+ earlier!

 

For sure I would commit to more communication about our feelings and desires.

The hard one for me: would I have worked to see if there could be more kink in our relationship before committing for life, and possibly not committing without? This is all a meaningless hypothetical, of course. But I think I would have committed regardless, even if I were more accepting my own kink desires, because everything else about our relationship is so wonderful: it's been a compromise, but one I'd rather make than live without her. I would hope that by being more open and building stronger communication earlier we might have grown more in the kink direction together than we have (so far).