Tips for staying locked at night

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    Does anybody have any tips for getting your hubby to remain locked all night?. We've only had minimal success with this one and I want to work on doing it long term.
     
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    what are the specific problems?
     
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    He complains about pain with erections. He goes to bathroom to pee, puts lube on but he says he has too many erections at night and he just can't make it
     
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    we have all been in that situation, what i can say it really does get easier, just need to keep trying.
     
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    as a compromise, you may find the humble hair-tie a decent option. wrapped just behind the corona, it can stretch just enough to permit -some- blood flow, while discouraging full erection. it was this one's first stop before Goddess approved its first cage. hope that helps! : )
     
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    btw: how lovely for you both that you find being his bk kh emotionally rewarding. he's a lucky man. : )
     
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    No problem at night, even the first night in my Jailbird. Just make sure it is small enough that you cannot get an erection. After 2 years still sleep all night long. Just make sure you have correct measurements.
     
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    We tried chastity long ago . Club Fem MCD. not good . Now i have a copy of a Holy trainer V3 small. i sleep as usual , i like how this fits
     
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    A PA piercing and evotion bijou is very comfortable for me.
     
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    Depending on the device you are using, switch to a larger diameter base ring for sleeping. If the ring is too small (and it may be fine while flaccid) then it will dig in and be painful while erect, especially for a stomach sleeper.
     
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    I just had to get use to it, after a few nights it all settled down. Often now I dont even experience the attempt to get hard. I use to always try and get hard with a morning wood but those days even seem to have left me now.
     
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    Just tie his hands behind him and gag him each night for a week. He should be broken in by then.
     
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    Sounds like a reward to me. I’d love that !
     
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    In ye olde days I used to get up and walk it off, get a glass of water etc. These days, if it does happen, I generally have to get up to pee anyway.
     
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    Use the biggest ring you have , but it’s all part of the training really.
    The sensation of trying to get an errection and it pushing against the cage will become stimulating and he’ll almost look forward to it. If you find he’s more affectionate to you when you wake up or wants to cuddle you more ....check his cage...he’ll be bursting!
     
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    Would you believe I was so selfish it took me almost a year to understand just how lucky I was!
    How stupid was I and I so glad BK stuck with it even when she wasn’t getting much out of it.
     
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    im now also feel like ur husband did...but my keyholder stil insist that i must keep locked at night...
    after 2 night..im still struggle to sleep...
     
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    wives and marriages.
     
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    It's reasonable to expect some discomfort with an erection, as the penis enlarges it pushes the tube away from the body taking the base ring and testicles with it. I might suggest that his tube is a little too long; many men report increased comfort when going smaller. A shorter tube helps "curb" an erection (not eliminate it) which should keep discomfort to a minimum.

    Personally I was test driving a new device that is a bit shorter than the one I had been wearing. While I never experienced any pain with the old device, I could certainly notice tube and ring being pushed away from my body. With the new device, erections went from a little uncomfortable to barely noticeable.
     
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    Besides being sure that the cage portion is short enough, try changing the back ring; there are different ways to do this. First, I have had great success with the ergonomic back rings like those on the A273. Second, I have two changes where I have multiple back rings; on each the "daytime"size is tight and causes testicular pain during nighttime erections, so before bed I change to the next size up. (As a bonus, on one (Bon4M) the rings are hinged so I can change the back ring without ever taking shaft out of the cage.)

    @Gigaman -- you can do this, you can make this work. It's really important, and a big step in your chastity, to give *all* of your erections to her.
     
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    Due to our night erections chastity can indeed be quite uncomfortable at night.
    But as others said, correct measurements, the right cage, make everything more tolerable. Still every body is different hence different experiences.

    I remember my first night... I was in my 20's, self locker, still living with parents. I had cb6k that I could comfortably wear all day. When I decided to go all night I simply hid the key under parents' bed. That was most definitely not a comfortable night .

    Now I have MM jailbird that is correct size (even cb6ks was a bit big). And with the help from some baby lotion under scrotum I sleep with almost no interruptions.
     
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    If its a ball trap style device the best solution is to make it like a full belt style overnight and this can be easily done by fastening some form of belt around the waist and fixed to the device to hold it tight against the abdomen preventing an attempted erection from pushing the device away from the body which tugs at the testicles. Erections in a full belt make no discernible difference to the wearer as the tube stays exactly in the same place and just the penis tries to grow without success. Many cb type devices can easily have a leather belt fitted around the waist with a hole either end that slots over the fixing posts before the lock is fitted to prevent removal.
     
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    Hard to answer without knowing his cage or how it fits him. I can say what the common problems are.

    His cage is too large. Even the slightest amount of room will allow blood to invade in. So don’t let it. They make micro cages I found extremely comfortable for sleeping. Long term they were a problem, being so short made the cage rest on your sack which was hygienicly awful. It did make sleeping a breeze though. If you have the time and effort to keep a sleeping cage to wear at night and change into the normal cage during the day, you would be golden.

    If you want to be able to sleep through the night and not keep changing cages for night time, I would still consider a different cage. You should be able to wear it with minimal discomfort, nothing that can’t be handled anyway.

    Not to be the devil here, but when I started wearing my device that is also attached to my piercing, it hasn’t happened again. Something about the prong that keeps it from getting hard enough to fill the tube.

    I would experiment with some shorter cages, cheap steel ones, at least for night time.
     
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    Clearly the best solution.
     
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    I am on my 2nd cage now. The first was uncomfortable, too big and allowed erections at night. A comfortable cage and the right size is the key and the nights will get easier. I am 24/7 now for 9 months
     
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