Are you afraid of ANGER!!!?

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    #1 Freaky Rabbit, Nov 28, 2018
    I have discovered that I am afraid of anger. I am afraid to make people, especially my wife, angry and I am afraid to feel disapproved by them. I go extra lengths to be nice and please others, so I don't have to feel the emotional pain. I am also afraid of expressing anger, so I don't hurt others. I just want others to love me. I have hard time expressing opinions and emotions in general.

    I am curious if you can relate to this, and how does that relate to chastity and being controlled for you?
     
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    #2 LesterBallard, Nov 28, 2018
    I would say that is a very common emotion. A lot of people really fear confrontration and do anything to avoid it.
     
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    #3 mcfeely, Nov 28, 2018
    I think you need to ask yourself why your afraid of anger. There may be a deep seated issue causing you to undervalue yourself and making you afraid of confrontation. Also there is a difference between controlled and uncontrolled anger. I personally have anger management issues. When I was young I was quite a handful. Time in the military taught me control. I still have anger issues but have developed a level of control that it isn't evident to to others. I focus it and act on it but not in an uncontrolled way. If you choose to be submissive make that your choice, not one dictated by fear. Good luck
     
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    #4 Giles_English, Nov 28, 2018
    I think this is a common thing. We dislike being judged and dislike people being angry with us, except in the "delighted roasting" way some women seem to enjoy dishing out.
     
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    #5 Freaky Rabbit, Nov 29, 2018
    I think I know where abouts my fear of anger is coming from. My dad went into rage one time, and I started to be afraid of him and his anger. Anyways, I was curious if fear of anger is a common thing among submissiveness, who like to give out their power, and please others. I think subconsciously I am still trying to please my dad, so he doesn't get angry, and I get what my needs met. Thanks for sharing.
     
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    #6 Giles_English, Nov 29, 2018
    I think the causation is in the opposite direction. Your Dad's anger affected you deeply because you are a submissive, not the other way around.

    There are plenty of submissive who have no trauma in their background.
     
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    #7 Freaky Rabbit, Nov 29, 2018
    Submissive or very sensitive. Thanks for the perspective. I appreciate it.
     
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    #8 Alceste, Nov 29, 2018
    This strikes me as maybe fear of rejection.

    It is not the anger that is the problem, it is your expectation of the result of either making the other person angry, or expressing anger towards another person.
     
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    #9 Freaky Rabbit, Nov 30, 2018
    Yes. Fear of rejection. Fear of being rejected, and not being loved.
     
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