Your Keyholder's orgasm

If you are truly interested in being a good sub, your frustration is irrelevant, the only thing that matters is pleasing your mistress (or master).

 

I love watching and hearin her have an intense orgasm and it’s wonderful if it’s my hand mouth wand or her using the strap on and riding me while locked it’s such a turn on seeing her having the pleasure and duck me look on her face I love it! Sure I get frustrated but it’s a good frustrated. Cause I know when I am allowed to finish it’s going to be explosive from watching her have her pleasure how ever many times I am denied and on edge and it’s her call but when it happens it really makes it even better for me also and I am grateful for her making things so much better!!!

 

It actually takes a while for a kh to get used to the idea of not reciprocating. Women in general (in my opinion) are hardwired as well as socially programmed to please. So it can be awkward for them to just stop after they cum.

Once they relinquish the guilt of leaving you hanging, you will notice. This changes how you react and feel about her orgasm.

Example: Just started chastity, you are working hard to make her cum, you are desperate to cum yourself but aren’t sure if her denying you is something she wants or if she is placating your fantasy. She cums and you feel great and you don’t stop trying to please her until she says she’s done, waiting for her to either unlock you or say she’s not going to. If she doesn’t you remain on high frustration mode and can’t wait to try again to see if she will change her mind.

Example 2: You’ve both been doing this awhile, she has let go of all the guilt. She takes her orgasm, gives you a caress to indicate playtime is over and you aren’t left super sexually charged, but almost post orgasmic yourself. Erection in cage starts to ebb, breathing slows, and a sense of calm sets in.

Giving orgasms knowing they aren’t going to be reciprocated changes how you feel about hers. It gives you pride, and a sense of fulfillment different from that feeling of your own.

 

By far the best is when she orgasms and I don’t.

 

I get quite aroused by her orgasms and it takes me a while to calm down afterwards. I've learned that NOT having that release makes me that much more attentive to her pleasure. It is all I get to experience.

 

I agree...My Wife lets me lick her fingers so she can get wet...Two or three times and I'm going crazy. Dry humping the air...Then, when she cums, I get one last taste of her fingers...Which drives me nuts, then she gets up and tells me "we" are done...

 

From a guy that isn't locked and from normal/vanilla interactions, the warmth and feeling as I moved up and she is too "sensitive" to take it anymore, and I slide up behind her and I hold her in my wide shoulders and arms and bear hug her. Wonderful.

When I sense he body relaxes and and I send my hand down to work her up and more and feel her body tense up and release. I sometimes feel the good tension and release that she does as we breath as one.

If I can make her cry or better yet want to fall asleep .... I feel content. When it is time and she is charged up, I then (as an alpha male) state, cowgirl up I say so she can control the pace and movement and I can feel bonding that way ...

So in short, warm, wonderful, and connected.

 

My wife has put me in a cage, and panties and sent me out to do the shopping, and clean the house - while she is locked in the bedroom with her magic wand. some hours later i will get a text that she's done. typically she has 7-10 orgasms, her record is 18 over three hours. To answer the OP's question, it is very frustrating but also very exciting! it is so nice to see her in a pleased state! Then I am always hoping that she will let me out so that I can make myself cum.

 

The frustrated feeling is wonderful! I like nothing better than to watch her cum as she rides her strapon! I'm sure I enjoy my wife's orgasms every bit as much as she does!

 

I love watching he ride the strap on too while caged such a mind fuck and more and pleasure for her !

 

My wife and I have been doing Karreza for 20 years or more, so I'm used to working towards her orgasm, and getting relief from that. Switching to me wearing a strap-on didn't change much there really. My keyholder is non-orgasmic, so we focus on tantric massage, foot-rubs, and her being sadisitc.

 

I throughly enjoy it I get a lot of pleasure from making my wife cum and am so used to not coming myself it is not a problem I love it

 

I love being able to satisfy her. Part of me is frustrated but the rest of me is just fine with it.

 

That says it pretty well. She worried about how I felt at first but now doesn't even think about it. When she is sated I feel as satisfied and happy as I would have if I had been allowed to climax.

 

Well, some interesting answers here. Perhaps some people do protest too much? As ever, we're all different and respond in different ways. But if I was at the stage where I didn't even care about having an orgasm, then the thrill of the relationship would be lost. For me, there has to be some residual desire there, otherwise it would be too easy.

 

Of course the desire remains. But one can desire several different things at the same time, right?

Some of my best memories of making love are of becoming so connected to Her pleasure that her peak triggers mine even if I'm only using my mouth and hands. I'll openly admit that my peaks when this happens are not that good physically; however, the emotional high is amazing.

Sure, I love and enjoy giving pleasure even without this bonus. Making her happy *does* make me happy. But becoming so attuned to her pleasure that her orgasm literally makes you come is uniquely rewarding.

As for the device being on, the constriction can be so twistedly pleasurable that it actually increases one's pleasure. Don't get me wrong, there's plenty of things that can make me frustrated. But giving her pleasure simply makes me happy.

 

If you're taking part, your partner's orgasm is really both of your orgasms.

 

My wife's orgasms are much more intense, and occur much more often, since she has finally realized that am serious that I do not need to, or expect to, get a release each and every time we have sex. It took her a while to relax and enjoy her pleasure without worrying about finishing me too. To answer the OP's question, I love watching her enjoy her orgasm, I love knowing I am the one she wants to have touching her, and I love that she feels like she can direct my releases as she sees fit. I don't often have frustrations over not having an orgasm. She has held me off for up to 14 weeks at a time, currently at 5 weeks denied. I love the mental and physical feelings I am forced to deal with. I have become more patient, and certainly in tune with her needs.

 

For years, we've practised "Backwards 80's porn" sex. Basically, the guy gives the foreplay, does all the hard work, focuses totally on her orgasm, gets close to cumming (even in chastity and using a strap-on this has happened), watches her have a big orgasm, she slides his dick out, letting it hit the bed, gives no more sexual attention, and the guy (me) basically deals with the arousal and frustration till things calm down. Pre-chastity, it was a "no touching the erection" rule, now I have to wait till my caged parts go soft, before I can remove the strap-on.

On a side note, a big dildo, with big balls, pressing down on a caged erection that's hyper sensitive, feels exactly like a regular erection. I go weeks to months without seeing or having an un-caged erection, so the strap-on has become as or more real, as a sex organ as what I have locked up. Given that all erections are transient things, wearing one and growing it, are not that different an experience.

 

@Nicoftime has hit the nail on the head here. My girlfriend is still struggling to not let me cum and she doesn't really understand why I don't always want to. It's a difficult one to explain and I'm not sure she'll ever be able to relinquish the guilt completely. I definitely feel a sense of pride and fulfilment when she has an orgasm and that is often all I need.

 

As was previously said @Nicoftime has hit the nail on the head. I don’t think I’m alone in saying that Nicoftime is one of the leading authorities in understanding Chastity and an FLR relationship. He’s made me think about my relationship many many times.

 

I wouldn’t say that but thanks for the huge ego boost !!! I will say I’ve read about it and couples journeys for about a decade and have tried to learn from them. I’ve only put it to practice first hand for a couple of years...man it sure seems like longer! I read a blog on Wordpress called denying thumper, as his journey (success and setbacks) continued, it saved me a lot of failure and frustration. Hoping I can do a little of that for someone someday.

 

I wouldn't say I'm frustrated, at least not anymore. I'd say that feeling is bliss. Giving my wife pleasure is at the top of my list of things I enjoy. Even just seeing her pleasure herself. I get extremely turned on but it also makes me very happy. Just the other night after giving her nightly body rub, she had me sit at the foot of the bed and watch her masterbate to orgasm with her vibrator and I couldn't touch her or myself, all while she's teasing me about how she bets I wish I could be fucking her. Don't get me wrong, I still want to orgasm, but I'd take the feelings I get from that and how long those feelings last over an orgasm for me any day.

 

Good old Denying Thumper I’ve read it to. It nice when we can learn from others.