8 years playing around with chastity. It turned serious really fast Friday. I had been thinking

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    About being locked up for the past month way to much. So Thursday night I had a few beers befor bed time kissed my wife good night. Went up to shower and locked up put the keys in my sock drawer. Friday morning I get a picture message from my wife it was the keys not in my drawer. She told me I should have asked her to lock up and that it's going to be reall different from now on. I asked her what she ment and that i was only planing on staying locked up till saterday morning. She only sed don't ask to be let out and it's going to be serious this time and that she had read the key holder bool i got for her about 5 years ago. I'm kind of in shock longest we have done this was about 9 days. I think that book says 3 months minimum I can't do that. I'm little freaked out. Had to tell someone . Sorry about the spelling and length of this.
     
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    I think she is just playing but I really can't tell
     
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    Welcome to the mansion and good luck. Keep us posted.
     
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    Thanks. I will give updates.
     
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    As tough as it might be at times, remember that nobody has ever died from not having an orgasm. A little suffering is more than worth it if it makes your wife happy.
     
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    That's funny. Thanks man. Ya if she just wants to play then great. If she's mad at me or hell I don't know why all the sudden she's in serious mode. Guess I will find out at some point.
     
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    I guess she enjoyed the book!! Welcome to CM
     
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    Three months is nothing. If you can wear it a week, you can do 3 months.
     
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    welcome to your predicament.
     
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    Time flies when you’re having fun
     
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    You gave her the book right? You've been self-locking for years right? So what's the issue? That it's real and you're going to have to pay real attention to her and you can't just take it off and masturbate to your chastity fantasies?
     
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    I doubt it. And I wouldn’t cross her.
    I’d suggest you not question nor challenge her.

    Instead accept that she’s finally ready to take charge.

    As the tag line here said.

    Be careful what you wish for.
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    I don’t know your wife, but I know how mine was. She was nervous and apprehensive about it all, but said she would give it a go...but...it will be all or nothing. I accepted.

    Meaning, she didn’t see the point if I wasn’t caged all the time (except when she wanted me out), could get myself out anytime I wanted, or she wasn’t changing our roles. No more me on top, no more bj’s, and my job was to please her.

    She had zero interest in casual chastity. No weekend lock ups and off with the cage. She made it clear she didn’t want to switch roles back and forth. After 3 months, and we knew this wasn’t going away, she went with me to get pierced.

    I guess my rambling response is that, she may not have wanted this to be a casual experience if she was going to participate. She may be an all or nothing type of person and if she doing this, must submerse herself fully. My advice is if you want to continue down this path (it’s not for everyone), follow her lead and try not to pester her about where and how fast your going. If she read 3 months and she wants to “do this by the book”, you can be sure if you make it miserable, she will put that key right back in the drawer.

    Good luck with your new start.
     
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    I think another tag line should be:
    Enjoy the ride
    Some of us are hoping to get where you are!
     
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    That's fantastic! Congratulations! The couple of times I have brought up chastity, it has fallen on deaf ears. Enjoy the ride! You have many folks here who would trade places with you in a heartbeat. Don't F it up!
     
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    Women do that.
    Ideas for them are like seeds, you can sow all you like, but you have to be patient as until the conditions are just right they'll just sit dormant, and then when you least expect it, they'll blossom and surprise you.
     
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    hopefully goes well. If not have a real discussion on goals and expectations. My wife wants to try the chastity thing but we can't get together on our goals and expectations. She has a history of a lot lower libido and I suspect that it will go from low to zero and I will be stuck. I would lash out and possible destroy her confidence. Just make sure you and your wife are on the same page. Things change with time as referenced in previous comments but do your best to start off in a good place.
     
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    Quick update. My wife showers with me last night. She told me to stop over thinking it stop asking questions that I will be fine and let me take it off just long enuf to clean up then back on. Hear I am at work not sure of much at the moment except ya it is exciting "If it would stop exciting for one min" lol like most of the replys witch thank you everyone, i wanted to see what it's really like. 9 days was the longest she kept the keys in her possession in the past. If she goes longer than that or If she tells me anything I will share it. By the way it's super frustrating being on this site locked up i need a ice pack right about now@
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    I was wondering how you were doing as far as chastity goes. Noticed it has been years now, you still not ok with being locked or giving up control, but still interested enough in it to keep visiting here.

    I would think by now you would have figured out “I can’t do it” or “let’s try it out”.

    I would love to hear how it’s been progressing...or not progressing.
     
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    Thanks. I'm excited hope she goes with it. I have always told her she can push it as far as she wants to. It's usuly a week ish. She has much different tone this time but she wount tell me anything so......maby a long haul maby a week. Got my fingers crossed for the first one lol
     
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    Your right, can't give up control. Its interesting in that I visit here from time to time and follow other peoples lives almost to see how they are doing. I've never been able to "let go", always the first to lead the team into the room. My first reaction to cages is to figure out how to defeat them. On occasion wife asks if I have visited site and I can honestly say yes or no. I guess to answer your question I am probably one who can't do it for loss of control issues and because our expectations are different.
     
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    You want it from the verry beginning of the idea or just this round?
     
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    I think you should call her bluff and tell her that she is too weak to go through with it because she needs PIV too much. Tell her you can go longer than she can without sex.
     
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    Lol that might take a pint of rum!
     
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