After a month long break in being caged earlier this summer, I wrote my wife and let her know I missed it. I explained that she didn't have to unlock me so often and feel obligated to provide relief. She has a servant's heart and always wants to please which is one of the reasons I married her. We get along because we're more worried about each other than ourselves. In the world of chastity this had the unfortunate outcome of her wanting to show me a good time instead of getting focused on denial. We talked and she agreed to immediately lock me up while she thought about the guidance I'd given her. Now I'm about to finish my sixth week in the cage without so much as time out for teasing or even an erection. I'm seriously considering getting down on my knees and begging her for sex. I made a serious attempt to get her interested last night and while she enjoyed the attention she gave me a firm "no." She's had a few orgasms in the time I've been locked up and many foot rubs. I get teased before bed, she'll them role over and sigh... "sleep well." She has become much more comfortable with her role as keyholder while I am beginning to regret asking her to deny me quite so vigorously. Be careful what you wish for...
The Golden Words to Live by. We struggle with wanting to be locked long term for a very long time. Than when it actually happens. Those Golden Words keep coming to our minds. Enjoy your new Way of Life.
It seems like your note worked, she has seen the light. You should be thankful, there are many men out there that wish it would work this easy for them. Sit back and enjoy what you asked for.
I think that if she's getting into it, then anything that steps outside the agreed dynamic is likely to abruptly and permanently end her interest. So basically, if you want your fetish again ever, you have to live with this. My heart bleeds.
Very well put. She is serving you what you really wanted. You serve her by doing just what you asked for. Who really knows where this will go. Should be interesting.
I agree with other posters: be careful what you wish for. But I also understand. Part of the lifestyle is being teased, and providing orgasmic pleasure to the Goddess. If she stops wanting that., enforced chastity becomes abstinence. Not the same thing and certainly not as exciting. It matters not if I get sexual satisfaction, but my role is to provide it for Her. It's difficult, but then I suppose that it should be.
I don't think the teasing necessarily is part of the lifestyle. Teasing is about the man and for a lot of women, the joy of male chastity is the shift in focus. However, teasing can arrive as a byproduct of giving pleasure. If she gets off, isn't that tease enough?
Because obviously I want sexual satisfaction, but I have handed control of that to my Goddess. It is difficult, but I love it. I wouldn't change it for the world
It is more than enough. Watching Goddess get pleasure whilst I am denied it is the most incredible thing. My point was that the lifestyle becomes less fulfilling if she is not gaining sexual satisfaction because she doesn't fell like it, whilst I am caged. Then the lifestyle becomes one of abstinence for both. But the fact that she is ensuring that I cannot cum is still worthwhile.
Thank you for the compliment. My attitude is not just towards Chastity. I believe in my Goddess having total control. I adore her, and trust her never to abuse that power, but the power is hers and hers alone. I often wish she would be 'meaner' (she is a loving kind person), but to try and ask for that is, IMVHO, the classic 'topping from the bottom', and that defeats the entire point.
I have come to enjoy the unpredictable swing of the pendulum ... Last time I 'asked' ... it was 4 months before I was allowed an O. I swore I would be careful when it came to wishes. But ask again I did! Go figure. If my O's (such as they might be) are too frequent (weekly), my discipline begins to evaporate. Once or twice a month is about right for my servitude edge to stay sharp & me not to develop the 'wants'. Win, lose or draw - I look forward to wherever our journey takes us.