Can someone please tell me why I am submissive? I have been searching for so long for the answer, but I am unable to find it. Why do I find so much joy and happiness in serving and obeying woman? Why do I find relaxation in submitting to the words of woman? I have been fighting this feeling for so long. I really want to just surrender to this feeling and obey woman.
I was submissive to my mother and vowed not to be that way with my wife. After years of an unhappy marriage I concluded that I need to submit to a woman and agreed to a female-controlled marriage that gives my wife complete authority. I am finally fulfilled and at peace. Are you married?
What do you mean when you say serving and obeying women? Do you mean you enjoy submissive sex acts / seek some kind of humiliation? Or do you mean actually serving women in useful ways?
To obey everything they say, to protect them, to cook for them, to pamper them, to kneel before their feet, to give them total financial control, to take their name and feel proud. To feel happiness, joy and peace only when I submit to a woman. This isn't normal.
Welcome.....you are not alone in your feelings here. I have always been submissive and have always been submissive and obeyed women.
There's very different motivations. For some it is sexual, and often that revolves around humiliation. It's that, rather than the serving, or even the female, that matters. For others it's genuinely about service. The need to be useful. And in between those extremes there's a whole host of different motivations and desires. We're all different. You can only really answer that question yourself.
Often having a submissive disposition stems at least partially from your experiences growing up. What kind of relationship did you have with your mother and other significant women in your life when you were a child?
I think you can spend too much energy wondering why. For me, it is nothing to do with my upbringing. I've given up wondering why ....... just enjoy it.
To answer your question @iobeywoman . You are submissive because that’s who you are, you can fight it, you can ignore it, you can even try to change it. Deep inside off you it’s who you are and no matter what you do your inner unique self will continue to surface. Being submissive to women is a great thing, I also fought it for many years and never found try happiness until I submitted to who I am and started serving my Lovely Wife. To serve someone can give you that inner peace that so many people search for, sometimes for their entire life. Be Who You are.
It's just part of you. Don't try to fight it, there's nothing wrong with you. You can try to ignore it but you'll know it's real because it keeps coming back, you can hide it a while but it never goes away, just keeps coming back.
I've been submissive since I was s little boy, first with women and later with men. I resisted for the longest time before finally accepting that I will do others' bidding for the rest of my life and that it satisfies a deep need in me.