A_O’s Journey into Chastity/Denial

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    I started a thread in the introductions section already, but it seems more appropriate to move over to this section and continue to update in a more journal like fashion. Please feel free to ask any questions if something seems interesting to you as well as add comments if you have advice or enjoy any particular parts.
     
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    So as of late I’ve been spending nearly all my time unlocked and on the honor system. My wife and I haven’t really discussed the device and I’ve just been experimenting with it on my own since this is pretty new.

    To summarize the situation, my wife was sleeping with her boyfriend exclusively for the last several months while we were in an open relationship and I would occasionally meet with men discreetly during that same time period. Her boyfriend had become a great friend of mine as well and at some point after he moved in with us I became much more interested in cuckolding and femdom fantasies. I discussed this with my wife, but at the time there was little interest from her side due to some stress at work. Once things slowed down and we were able to talk about it again, and that’s when she decided to take control of when I orgasm.

    Since we’ve had separate sex lives for some time, that basically just consists of her telling me that I’m free to masturbate at a given time, usually with a list of tasks that must be done beforehand. It’s still relatively new, starting with a 3 day denial, then a 5 day, and a 7 day which ended last night. Last night was the best orgasm I remember having in quite a long time, and I’m looking forward to continuing this amazing experience.
     
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    Friday morning brought about the first wet dream I’ve had in as long as I can remember. It was quite a mess. I’m not sure how much it impacted my energy level because by lunchtime on Friday I was back to a constantly aroused state.

    After some experimenting with the different rings and spacers on the device, I’m thinking that I may just need to try a different device altogether. I haven’t spoken to my wife about the device hardly at all, so it may be a while before we get around to buying a new one.
     
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    I decided to make one more attempt with the cab-6000 knock off last night by using the largest ring and second smallest spacer. The tube is about a half inch too long, but I was able to sleep in the device for the first time without waking up too often. Since the night went so well I decided to surprise my wife this morning with the keys and she was very happy to take them. This should be an interesting week :)
     
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    Good luck, have fun.
     
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    The second night sleeping in the device went much better, and I only woke up once or twice. Added a little bit of baby oil gel around the ring and everything seemed great with the skin so far. As my wife left for work this morning she mentioned where she left the key for the day. It’s been a week since she allowed the last release, so it looks like she’s going with a weekly schedule for now. This current lockup will amount to about 36 hours. If all looks well after some cleaning the next may last several days.

    Thanks for the support
     
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    There was a bit of irritation from some hair getting caught between the various parts of the ring, but after a good cleaning and shave everything was fine. I noticed this morning that my wife didn't move the keys from where I left them, not sure what to think about that other than I probably shouldn't worry about it.
     
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    This week was fairly uneventful, but this morning there was some unusually painful irritation around the base of the shaft which will require some time unlocked to recover
     
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    All is healed up and the device is back on. More attention will need to be paid to avoid irritation again
     
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    I also forgot to add that Sunday morning ended up being the first time I was allowed to watch my wife/kh and her boyfriend having sex. In the past I've only heard them and watching was even more exciting than I expected.

    Additionally, we have passed the previous longest streak of 7 days, so every passing day adds to the record. I’m going to try to forget about counting from here on out.
     
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    After a few more days of on/off use, the cheap device finally split down the middle. Fortunately there were no injuries. We will be back on the honor system full time for the foreseeable future and a stainless steel device will be added to the wish list.
     
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    Unfortunately, a UTI likely caused by the device has brought an end to this part of the journey. We will not be purchasing another device and instead stick with the honor system.
     
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    It’s worth noting that I’ve decided that my wife will no longer be deciding when I have an orgasm.

    It’s amazing how the past two months have provided so much clarity for me to understand my sexuality by simply restricting orgasms. I’m grateful to this community for teaching me a great deal about what makes a good locked male, but especially the feedback from the handful of women who take the time to demonstrate how a keyholder should be as well.

    I’m now on a new journey to continue this controlled lifestyle using the NoFap community for support. I have a lot of unresolved sexual issues that chastity triggers, and while this is a healthy lifestyle for many, I have been using it as a form of pornography. I think the reboot system that NoFap uses is a good model, and I am aiming for 30 days as a start. June 22st was day one, so I’ll stop back on July 22nd with an update. Wish me luck.
     
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    PS - My orgasm on 21 June was a ruined one...
     
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    Well I gave up on the orgasm restrictions and the ideas from NoFap on July 4th, so I guess that made it 13 days or so. I’m dating now, and I’m enjoying my new perspective about sex. A new keyholder may come into my life at some point, but for now I’m enjoying the freedom.
     
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