Sometimes I just want to have sex.

As is said often around here, be careful what you wish for. I'm uncaged and rolled over and had sex with my wife this morning. It was great, but we're also in real turmoil over our chastity/FLR. I'm not sure we'll ever get it back at this point. I feel a little bit like a troll still coming on CM because I'm no longer walking the walk. I'm hoping we can make it work and get back to where we were. If we do I'll probably join you in ranting about missing morning weekend sex though.

 

Weekends are difficult. Yesterday I felt like you. My wife warm in bed next to me. I started caressing her. I got the hand removal response. Fifteen minutes later she said she was feeling bad about rejecting me and was now feeling in the mood. I was now allowed to lick her to orgasm....

 

Rant all you like my friend, you might "sometimes just want to roll over and fuck" but you can't and that's that! Let's be honest you wouldn't really want it any other way!

 

I hear you, completely, 100%.

There are several aspects of all of this chastity stuff that stop me from really wanting it though. First is the simple fact that Elle relaxing into being in charge means we have way, way more sex than we ever did before. I honestly don't understand this feedback loop. Before my chastity she felt pressured to have sex whenever we cuddled and I became aroused, so didn't want it. She even stopped herself from initiating cuddles because of the way she felt pressured into having sex. Now she doesn't feel pressure she wants sex more and actively enjoys my unrequited arousal! Surely, I try to reason, if you are still in charge but I get to cum more often that would be the same, no? But apparently no is the answer, it wouldn't be the same. Her control of my orgasms give her that edge of extra control that gives her the relaxed attitude that makes her feel more inclined to want sex.

Second to that is my new lack of wanting to masturbate unless she is actively teasing me. Then I get to a point where I beg to be allowed to do something to make me cum, anything, which she enjoys denying. This also confuses me, but I have a better handle of the reason why. I don't want to let go of this incredible build up of arousal and desire that denial brings. I am unlocked right now, Elle is out, I could knock one out in mere seconds if I wanted to. I wont because not only would Elle be mad as hell, I would lose 7 weeks worth of arousal build up.

Things are getting very interesting, They will continue to build for a few more weeks until peak arousal after about two months of denial. The levels don't go down after that but don't build any further either. What happens after that is the level of headfuckery. Two months denial, Three months denial. Four months? Hell, when is she going to let me cum, damn I want to cum, but she says no, and that turns me the hell on. Why? Arghhh, let me cum woman. No? Why is my penis throbbing so much because you said no? If I didn't visibly enjoy the denial so much , you might let me cum. I am my own worst enemy!

 

That's the point.
It's the 'What do you want, well you can't have it' experience.
Shows she is doing things properly.

 

Hopefully this rant is gonna cost you

 

Hit the nail on the head with that one! Morning sex is my absolute favorite and now it's just not an option for me. It is probably one of the things that most affects me and this game. I really do miss it and it's has been one of the biggest sacrifices I've had to accept

 

I am much like your wife. I am a very heavy sleeper and hard to wake up. @Thatguyontheinternet still hadn’t gotten the hang of being a gentleman and instead he wakes up before me, yanks the covers off my face, says “good morning” then I go an make breakfast. I told him this morning that he could figure out a better, more gentlemanly way of waking me up like pulling the covers back gently and giving me kisses on my forehead instead of yanking the covers back and poking me in my eyeball, lol!

 

oooerr. i done that once by mistake.

 

As an early riser, I learned a long time ago that Princess is happier when she wakes up naturally. Fortunately, as a retired couple every day is the weekend; so, I can put on the coffee, feed the cat and grab the morning paper before I hope back into bed if the urge strikes me. Given my recently caged state, what happens next is up to her.

 

I didn't realise it until I first talked about chastity with my wife, but she felt exactly the same way. I felt really bad that this was the case and I didn't know. So, to me, practising chastity is an important part of turning this dynamic around. Now the ball is in her court, she is more relaxed about no expectations to have sex. Hopefully at some point we will get to the stage where you guys are at, where

We have only been practising chastity for about 6 weeks, and have only had a cage for the last 2 weeks. I'm not in the cage at the moment because of some teething difficulties. I too could 'knock one out in mere seconds'. But I won't because I made a commitment to my wife that I wouldn't. It is early days yet, and we haven't got to the point of tease and denial (just denial lol). Maybe when I am a bit more on edge it will be more difficult for me to 'walk the walk'

Be careful what I wish for lol

 

I feel for you. We first started as 'play' and now I too am 'in it'. I was getting a break when I left the country for work, but once we figured how to keep me locked, I now spend every other month locked up abroad with no hope of freedom until I am home again. If I am not home hoping and serving, I am desperately waiting to get home for a chance to just have good old sex. My KH seems to lose track sometimes of the days, which have turned into well over a month.

I remember our earlier chats when it was more sex than days locked... it is a bit of disbelief that she has gotten this comfortable with the life in just over a year.

It is the best and worst kind of luck you can have....

 

a dominant or submissive xx have a real appetite for being desired. to feel his well focused energy full of desire. it's his energy that makes the sex better. just getting him hard in his cage, feeling his energy boil over is orgasmic unto itself.
on the other hand his memory of how sex was is a fond moment in time that i use as a reward. if he has been particularly great for a month or two i give him a horny card. he may use it during his free time to have male dominated sex with one rule i must get it once before he is done. he saves those cards till the most perfect time( for him). he got 6 last year and he still has two. oh... there is one other rule. he can not talk about what he is going to do nor talk about it afterwards. he simply got to visit a time in his past that is long gone.