Why do locked boys look at porn?

Chasity means horny...and although we can't satisfy ourselves it's a way to be normal. As far as why he's looking at more alpha sex I do it sometimes to remind myself what an idiot I am for giving into my kink and losing that wonderful type of sex where i am in control. Maybe he really wants you to make him stop with punishments.

 

I'm not forbidden from watching porn at all, if I watched a lot I think it would be an issue.

If I'm watching porn it's to get aroused, whether I'm caged and in chastity or not. Obviously I can't come if I'm caged, I can still get horny though.

 

The grass is always greener. It doesn’t really mean anything except the fact that it is forbidden might heighten the effects.

I still look at erotic material, many different subjects. I usually just end up frustrating myself and sending her a dirty message telling her how much I want her. I will say that I would be terrible with the honor system if looking at porn. Looking would lead to touching, would lead to edging, would lead to ...oh she will never know.

Locked, she has never mentioned what I do with my internet time, since nothing is going to happen.

 

im not in chastity as of now but I am doing the honor system and hoping to get her interested in chastity again. I mostly use porn for new material to try out with her and for edging purposes. I've recently got her to watch some porn with me just to see what kind of fantasies she enjoys. Its like pulling teeth with her but she is slowly coming around.

 

I reckon at least 90% of males look at porn whether they are locked or not! Including the (till just now) Deputy Prime Minister of the UK, just been sacked for that very reason!

 

My beautiful wife/KH knows and doesn't mind that I watch fandom/chastity porn. In fact, she likes watching (with me) those that have some kind of fictional story behind them. She gets new ideas from them, and she knows it gets me aroused, but still unable to do anything about it.

 

I think it's just plain disobedience, succumbing to one's whims. This type of misbehavior is bound to happen occasionally and should be consistently met with punishment so as to slowly deter its frequency. If Femdom porn is all you permit him to view then just make sure you consistently demonstrate to him how serious you are about enforcing this rule and I'll bet you the number of these occurrences will go down dramatically. I think it's very admirable of you to limit his viewing to female friendly and empowering content. Good luck.

 

This is the answer. As long as I (we) are watching something that reinforces the male chastity/Female-Led Relationship concept, our KHs will likely be in favor of it.

 

Why do people look at and hanker for things they know they can't have?... expensive cars, glamour models (male-female), gazing in estate agents windows, expensive menus....the list goes on.....

In a broad sweeping statement we want what we can't have.... it's made us evolve faster than any other species on the planet, and will be our ruin too.....

 

I'm self-locked, so it's not a matter of defying anyone. As others have indicated, looking at porn is a way to get aroused or horny or just because one likes it. Looking at porn with a cage on (as mine is now) actually enhances the effect. I suppose it might be a way for me to have a bit of tease and denial given that I don't have a KH to do it with me.

 

I don’t set out to disobey. She fell aslee, I was particularly turned on for whatever reason. Distractingly so. I started browsing tumblr, both for my own entertainment, and for things that she would like so I could send the stuff to her. One click leads to another and boom, very hardcore degrading maledom is in my face. Sometimes I back right out, sometimes I get pulled in for a bit. Thing is, I was never big into porn and never masturbated much, so the whole “no-porn” thing is entirely an outgrowth if chastity. I understand it though - it’s 100% opposite of what we’re trying to do and what she’s trying to create in me/us. But at 2:00am none of that enters the equation. It’s just hit stuff. And maybe a bit of the “forbidden fruit” thing someone mentioned.

@Thatgirl has a content block on my phone because of this sort of thing. Tumblr is the only place i have unfettered access to adult content. And I’m sure if there was a way to limit it to femdom only she would be all over it. In fact I wish the filter was that smart, this way at least I could still have access to even femdom on the web in general. Plus the blocker blocks any site that designates itself “adult content”, which is a pain in the butt and I have to keep asking her to whitelist non-porn sites (or femdom sites). I hate it. But she loves it. It’s an ever present expression of control, and she does love to make me work for anything extra she whitelists.

Regardless. I’m not far enough into this lock up to be screwing up. This one will cost me for sure. Already is

 

I get busted for this. I do it out of just trying to get some relief or stimulation. My body knows that build up is part of the road to release. So even if I don't arrive at the destination, my mind appreciates that stimulation to relieve the drought. The stupid part is it just leads to more frustration and more desire for release. It makes me more attentive but less obedient.... eventually I will learn...

 

My KH/EX positively love reading to me my pre locked porn stories , as you can imagine I don't feel the same now but it certainly reinforce her power my position

 

I hope you helped him to achieve a similar erection while he was wearing his KTB.
Rita

 

Such fun, I hope you had some Iodine ready for when you removed it.

 

Don't over think it ... wearing a cage reminds him all day that Sex sEx SEX seX SeX is just out of reach ... and for me, I'm actually more likely to do something like look at porn when caged then when not.

So really the answer is because he is a guy and horny. Which of course is your signal to have fun, because if he got caught you get to punish .

 

“Her toy” looked like a freshly aerated green after the evening in the KTB. That thing gets the job done. Effectively eliminates any pleasure I’ve learned to take from even the crushed erection attempts or pain-type play she’s recently grown a taste for. She mentioned a routine that requires the KTB during her monthly. She wouldn’t make me sleep it in unless I did something REALLY bad. But nonetheless having it on all day always results in some periods of insane discomfort. Never any blood or broken skin though. So that’s good.

The cage in the pic does have spikes. They don’t hurt anything like the KTB, or else I could never wear it 24/7. But there’s no forgetting they’re there. That’s for sure.

 

I have found we have moved toward cbt. I never would have thought I would allow it yet alone find it a turn on. For me it’s a love hate thing. I love seeing her get into it, I end up liking the ache, but the ache lasts into a painful thud later, but even then makes me keep thinking of the activities.

So far it’s been slaps and spanks with her hand, but could see it turning into more, like squeezing and the weighted humbler we have but haven’t used.

It’s weird wanting something that is not exactly pleasant. Reminds me of pegging, I sometimes crave it, especially after awhile locked, yet it’s not something I particularly like even though I crave it.

 

Currently watching porn is not prohibited for me as long as I don't try to pleasure myself. I've tried a self imposed no-porn process for reasons I documented in a thread called the porn expectation. I favor the cuckold, femdom and sissy porn areas. Thing is my wife doesn't do most of the stuff they do. So even though porn isn't destructive the way it used to be, it still places unreasonable expectations on my wife when I watch it. I'd love to say I've been perfect, but I haven't. Why do I watch? I guess I just get so horny I want to experience something sexual. Even if there's no pleasure, there still is arousal.

 

Goddess love to control me when i‘m watching porn locked in Kalis Teeth

 

For us, chastity is not a d/s or FLR thing. I have no orders, only my promise not to masturbate. I can be locked or not, but we both feel it is safer for me to be locked, so that is what we do. Our issue was being horny at different times. We are in our mid sixties coming off a 30 year poly triad with a girlfriend we shared as a lover. Our libidos are not turned on every day as in the past. As a result we could not seem to sync the days we were both really horny. Each of us would accommodate the other, horny or not, but we enjoy sex much more when we both are craving it. Chastity keeps me horny, so when my wife is in the mood, so am I. Watching porn makes me hornier, which is why I watch it and my wife does not care. I am not her slave. I am her husband and lover. Our play is limited to the bedroom so despite 45 years of fetish play, we are still married when others we played with are not.