We’ve been playing with chasity on and off for almost two years now. My wife is happy to hold the key when I lock up, and it’s entirely up to her when I get unlocked, but it’s the relocking that hasn’t yet evolved, it’s been up to me, she’s never asked me to lock up again. After a recent nine day lock up I asked her about my freedom, she said she’d think about it, I assumed she’d forget. I asked again several days later, and she surprised me by saying she found herself thinking about that while in the supermarket! Still unlocked, she teased me wonderfully on Saturday night, edged me perfectly on Sunday night, stopping at just the right time while I throbbed and pulsed in her hand. After calming down a little, I asked her about her supermarket thinking, she said “ you’re going to be locked back up, you won’t know when, but it’s going to be soon. You’ll need to be good to get unlocked, but it won’t matter whether you’re good or not to decide when you get locked up. I like making rules”. By this time I was at full mast again, she had never spoken like that before, it was incredibly exciting. Now 24 hours later and I’m on tenterhooks waiting for the first time ever for her to tell me to lock up. We live in interesting times.
It is interesting how the ebb and flow with our wives interest chastity can create quite a mind game for us. Just when you think they are ambivalent to it they turn your world upside down.
Sounds exciting! I would suggest that, now that she is thinking about it, don't push her! Let it evolve from there and you will get accustomed to really being under Her control. In my situation, I tried to "Top from the bottom" when at your stage and it backfired and delayed things for quite a while. I have learned to accept whatever She gives and really submit to Her will and it has worked out really well!
I have often found that is the case. Most certainly asking for something has seldom proven to be fruitful and can reap unsought outcomes.
OK, I understand not asking, but how will she know what turns you on? In some ways, asking without nagging can be helpful, can't it?
I somewhat disagree about the 'asking for doesn't yield' results thing. NAGGING certainly doesn't yield good results.. but I like being communicated with. I'm so glad she's receptive @Lakeman !! exciting!
So after a week she did tell me to lock up. That was 20 days ago now. Partly because she’s been unwell and not feeling like sex. I’m getting a bit toey (this is now my life longest lock up period). I asked her yesterday if she knew how long I’ve been locked up, and she did, to the day. I was very surprised and pleased to hear that, it means I’ve not been forgotten! Of course, I’m still getting increasingly keen for a release and hope that it won’t be much more of a wait.
It's nice when she doesn't just forget about you. Since she said she knows the day it sounds like she's taking control, the question is when will she unlock you. And since you don't know when that will be she can always add or take away time so my advice is be very nice to Her and don't keep asking When. As long as you have that little bit of hope you can go for longer than you think. Good Luck
Well now you have established you can go over 20 days there are many writers that would advocate you going for 3 months or maybe more just to let her establish her control let her get the feel of it and start develping the skills you will both hopefully come ( or not for 3 months ) to appreciate later. That can be th ehardest thing getting them to learn and appreciate that the game belongs to both of you but the rules are all hers. Its all about her now or should be,and she needs to devwelp a sense of what that means for you both. I suggest that you tell her what I just said in your own words and then ask for that initial lengthy lock and deny she will start to appreciate how serious you are about the her the game and both of your parts in it. it could prove to be the start of something good.