Vacation from Chastity

So we are leaving on vacation next week. Me, wife and two kids and we're doing a lot of traveling and living out of a shared hotel room. We are also going in and out of places that have a lot of security including metal detectors. After talking it over we came to the agreed conclusion that it wasn't practical for me to try and stay locked up through all this. The result, a 2 week vacation from chastity.

At first I was pretty bummed about this, but I have started thinking about this idea of a vacation from chastity in terms of other things in my life. For example I enjoy my work, but I'm happy to take a break from that. I love my family, but when I get a chance to go visit some old friend and leave them for a few days, I have a great time. Vacations can give you a break from your routine, but they can also give you a stronger appreciation for what you have.

So my question to all of you is do you ever take a vacation from chastity? Would you want to? Would it not work for you? While I don't foresee many chances for orgasms there's always a few minutes alone in a shower or late at night. Do I take this "vacation" to bust a nut every chance I get? Or do I stay chaste, just without the device? Will it be a vacation from chastity or just a vacation from a chastity device.

 

T minus 3 days to departure. Due to other activities it is highly likely I will unlock tomorrow night and that's it for the cage until middle of June. I'm freaking out a little bit about that. I've been living locked 95% of the time since March. It feels like something is missing when it's not there. My wife noticed a difference in me when I was out for a couple of days recently and commented on it. I actually hadn't noticed anything, so it wasn't intentional. I guess I'm coming around to the idea that this is a vaction from the device, but not a vacation from the lifestyle. Still two weeks of unrestricted access to my penis, plus the last 5 days of my trip I'm alone at a business conference....

 

Taking off tomorrow so this is likely my final posting and visit to CM for the next couple of weeks. I'm actually kind of excited for the vacation from chastity now because my wife has challenged me to a game. I can cum as much as I want, but each orgasm equals one month of lock-up. She has also stated unequivocally that she will be trying to seduce me and make me cum as often as she can. She even laughed and said you're going to be locked for a long time after this trip! I'm going to try to hold the line at 2 orgasms as I'm sure I can do two months. Three is borderline and four scares me. Since it's been almost a month since my last orgasm I asked if I got one freebie and she said that's for me to know and for you to find out. Chills....

See you in a few weeks CM

 

OK, I'm back from vacation, but I'm really confused. Chastity seems almost like something someone else did and I just read about it. Everything that made me so happy seems to pale besides the ability to have unfettered orgasms again. I've reluctantly agreed to put my device back on in the hopes that all the good things come rushing back, but I'm just not into it. I'm not motivated to do things for my wife the way I was and the idea of going a really long time before cumming again fills me with resentment. I know it's only been two weeks, but it seems like years ago.

The first part of the trip was good. My wife relented and let me have the first orgasm free of our little wager. Then we had two more together. I really enjoyed the experience of having that much sex in a 6 day window. Probably enjoyed it a little too much. The bigger problem came when my wife and kids returned home and I went on to my conference. I decided one more orgasm would be OK and I would enjoy the challenge of the three month lockdown. So I pulled out the computer, started streaming some porn and rubbed one out. This was my first time doing this since February and I guess I was addicted to it, because I responded like an addict. After 3 orgasms in 2 days I forced myself to stop. I literally could have gone for twice or three times that amount.

I haven't even been home 24 hours and yet all I can think about is my next orgasm. My wife is trying to get us back on track, but she really isn't naturally dominant and with me being resistive and moody she is struggling with it and not enjoying it. I'm hopeful for some epiphany that turns this all around and my brain clicks back into chastity mode. I'm locked up in my jailbird begrudgingly and maybe the physical lock down will purge me of my orgasm obsession. Here's hoping....

 

Had to go back and re-read this post because I'm leaving on a trip tomorrow. I'm gone a week and traveling by myself and that's how I got into trouble last time. I've been talking to my wife over the last week and suggesting she come up with a strategy to keep me chaste. I feel like if she wants it bad enough she can be creative and come up with a system, but I don't want to tell her what to do. Instead she's been relying on threats, but that didn't stop me last time. As of now she plans to unlock me tomorrow and send me on my way. I'm not sure I'll make it to the airplane before rubbing the first one out. That's exaggeration, but I don't see myself going a week in a hotel by myself.

 

I was a loving and devoted husband before chastity. In terms of being involved and helpful to my wife and kids, I'd say I was in the top 25% of "Dad" involvement in our circle of friends. Through out my relationship with my wife I did many loving and devoted things. For you to come in and pass judgement on me and my relationship in this way is based on ignorance, not insight.

We stumbled into chastity accidentally. What happened for us is it stopped me from masturbating so much. Used to be a 2 - 5 times a week guy. What I didn't realize is how much resentment that created in me towards my wife. Chastity created the right set of circumstances that led us organically into an FLR that has made us both much happier than we were a year ago. The problem as I mentioned in an earlier part of this thread is that I now see my orgasms, especially those achieved through masturbation with porn, as an unhealthy addiction. My trip is the equivalent of giving a gambler $1,000 and a trip to Vegas or sending a drunk to Mardi Gras.

It freaks me out because I don't want to go back to where I was. Not because I was an ogre, but because I'm better and happier now. Like most people on CM, I'm sharing my story because this is a place to find common problems, solutions and stories. It's mostly a place of support and help. So thanks for your understanding

 

So I made it, I'm quite proud of myself. I went 1 whole week without a cage, on the road, in a hotel room, access to the internet and did not have a single orgasm. Last time I was in this position I had 3 orgasms in 2 days from masturbation. I got home yesterday afternoon and went out for dinner with my wife and kids. After bedtime routines the kids went to sleep and my wife and I watched a TV show while I rubbed her feet and legs. I was out of my mind horny. Historically some of the best sex we have had has always been post trip reunion sex. After the show we went upstairs and got into bed and started fooling around. After about 5 minutes of foreplay she said "go get my toy". After retrieving the magic wand and bringing it to her she told me "you don't get to f**k me and you don't get to cum, now get to work pleasing me". It was a wild multi-orgasmic experience for her and a highly frustrating and arousing one for me. She left me unlocked and told me to go to sleep. I kept hoping she was going to roll over and get on top of me, but that never happened. This morning after I brought her coffee in bed she began stroking me and teasing me and then said, "time to lock up". I've never been a leaker, but I can't stop dripping. Love that woman.

 

OK here we go again. Taking off tomorrow morning early so the cage is coming off tonight. On the one hand it should be easier as we are traveling as a family the whole time. On the other hand my last real orgasm was in July which is more than double the longest stretch I've done. My last semi-ruined, semi-real orgasm was two months ago. Since then nothing but milkings. So I'm likely to fire off in a stiff breeze. Hope I make it through the week, check back in with you all then.

 

So I'm back. First three days we were in close quarters with kids. The last three days we had separate adjoining rooms with the kids and on the first night my wife had sex with me. It was my first PIV experience since July. We had sex one more time and I masturbated once. So three full orgasms. I'm home and locked back up now.

I was surprised by my lack of desire/lust once I was unlocked. Even my orgasm didn't have that other worldly almost painful release. In thinking this over I have a number of theories that I'd love feedback on. Both of my first two theories center around my bi-weekly milkings. While I haven't produced much "milk" during these sessions I have had these, for lack of a better word, internal anal orgasms. One theory is that this physical minimal draining is keeping me from getting the build-up I need to have the crazy intense orgasms when finally released. The other milking theory is that this is my new release that my body wants and the old fashioned male orgasm just doesn't have the appeal it used to. My final theory is that the duration between orgasms was too long. Prior to this it was around 45 days as opposed to 4 months. Maybe my body got used to not having orgasms, too used to it. Any ideas?

My more pressing problem is my usual post orgasm change. I don't want to be locked up, I don't want to serve her and I'm moody bordering on bitchy. Through some force and my usual capitulation I put the cage back on last night. Via her ball squeezing I was "persuaded" to clean up the Kitchen. I made her breakfast in bed, but didn't kneel to present it to her or come back up to clear her dishes. I still haven't cleaned the kitchen or made the bed. While some of this is me getting into the bad habits of my unlocked self, some of it is also her. For obvious reasons she wasn't overly dominant during our trip. It was a "vacation from dominance" for her I guess. So she's trying to be all lovey and supportive instead of being strong. We'll get through this like we always do, I just wish it were an easier transition.

 

But I don't need to be released for the prostate orgasm. We decided to try milking every two weeks as it's our middle ground happy spot on prostate health. The thing is I don't seem to have the same reaction to milking as most where there is this steady trickle of fluid. I build up and experience this incredible orgasmic like feeling and then dribble a small (half a teaspoon) amount of watery-milky fluid. I think maybe the two week interval is too close. I also suspect the 4 month interval is too long, however I suspect that is heading for longer territory. It takes so much effort for both of us to get back on track after a full blown release. My birthday is coming in January and we take a trip without kids then. My guess is that will be my next orgasm date, but after that I wouldn't be shocked for her to make me wait until our anniversary in July or longer.